Long time intermittent regular, name changed. Penis beaker, Pom bears, naice ham etc . Not so much an AIBU, I'm sure I will be considered to be in part U by some of you, but if it keeps my DD safe from harm, I really don't care about crossing boundaries. I'm posting here from traffic, I hope you'll understand.
I'll try & keep it brief, but it's going to be difficult without drip feeding.
A few days ago whilst hoovering DDs room. She is just barely 17, I found a small plastic bag with the residue of off white powder in it. We approached it calmly with her & she denied all knowledge of it, insisting one of her friends must have dropped it & that she didn't know what it was, but it could be mdma or Ketamine as that's the only drugs she's known of in her circle. I tasted it in front of DD, partly to see if she'd own up as it could be dangerous to me & partly to see if I could work out what it was. Neither worked, We reminded DD that her not insignificant medical problems made this a ridiculous thing fir her to take as she was high risk for a bad reaction & death. About 20 minutes later my heart was racing, I have a minor heart complaint that made this a big concern so I went back to DD & told her I was scared that whatever was I that bag was strong & was affecting me & depending on what it was I would need to go to A&E. She again denied knowing what it was, insisting someone had dropped it.
My iPad used to be DDs, I sometimes get notifications of instagram messages & can see the header. Message from her close friend saying "mums just found Ket in my room," so I went onto her laptop & to the messages & basically friend has told her DM the same lie mine told me & her mums accepted it. How relieved they are to get away with it etc.
There's so much more to this as to where this drug is coming from, past worry of her drug taking, Ketamine I'm told is an out of town favourite & the connections there have already thrown up a scary situation where an obsessive lad was messaging DD about his rape fantasy about her, ahead of him being sectioned. DD had stayed at his house & this is a tucking date rape drug!!
I'm so hurt she's putting her self at risk in this way, I'm so hurt that she knew what was in the bag & yet didn't tell me when I was worried my heart rate was going nuts. I'm so hurt that it was on the gucking floor & could have killed our kitten. I can't believe she is this fucking stupid when she knows exactly how bad her health can get if she isn't very careful.
I tackled her this morning & without owning up to reading her messages, I said I was contacting her friends DM as she needed to know they were using this. Seems from that it's just the girls that have the connection to this out of town area & she's begged me not to tell her friends DM as she will be in so much trouble, telling me about her friends DM finding the same thing I did & friend has just lied to her, so basically owning up to the messages.
I am contacting the friends DM, they both need protecting & she's tge one that insists on keeping contact with the out of Towners, especially the manipulative creepy lad who was sectioned & is now out. Came out to a fucking party put on by his DM, with the instructions no drugs in the house, but he gardens ok. Huge pressure on my DD to go & it's clear DD worries that she might lose her best friend if she says how she really feels about this lad
Urghhhhh!! How to I go from here, I've read her the riot act & not held back saying how fucking stupid she is for putting herself at risk like this. She insisting that she didn't realise that this drug is one of the reasons she needs specialist anaesthetic fir surgery, dental work etc, but we've always spoke openly about drugs & made damned sure that she knew she's a high risk fir serious harm.
I do want to contact the other DM, if it were me I'd want to know, but I don't know her at all & only have contact details for her because she took something I freecycled & it ended up in the photos of a party DD was at, so we swapped messages about how funny that was & relising our DDs are good friends.
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killerKetInMyHomeHelp · 17/11/2019 11:34
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