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I know I am, but I still don't like it when MIL or my own mum...

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emkana Sun 19-Aug-07 22:22:39

... point out things to me that my ds does as if this was the first time it was happening and as if I needed to be told.

I'm with him all day and I generally know what he's doing.

Still I appreciate they are just pleased and proud...

mad4simon Sun 19-Aug-07 22:26:15

I know what you mean. I hate it when people comment about my ds, the only one who gets away with it is my mum tho.

sleepycat Sun 19-Aug-07 22:27:06

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emkana Sun 19-Aug-07 22:29:18

no no I know I am wrong I know

it's just one of those things...

Bubble99 Sun 19-Aug-07 22:30:35

Please be kind to MILs.

I have four boys, no girls, and am dreading reading posts like this about me in years to come.

littlelapin Sun 19-Aug-07 22:31:09

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sleepycat Sun 19-Aug-07 22:31:26

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Bubble99 Sun 19-Aug-07 22:31:58

Because I will be the one getting stupidly tearful and proud of any DGCs.

mad4simon Sun 19-Aug-07 22:32:59

bubble99 - my mum feels the same, she knows she can say what she likes to me about my ds, but won't feel comfortable doing that if my brother and his girlfriend have children.

Bubble99 Sun 19-Aug-07 22:33:47

Oi! Enough of the MIL bashing, please.

(I'm sticking up for my future self, here.)

southeastastra Sun 19-Aug-07 22:34:04

mils do go on

sleepycat Sun 19-Aug-07 22:35:37

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Bubble99 Sun 19-Aug-07 22:36:07

Exactly, mad4simon.

With four boys, I must be able to get on with at least one of their DP/DWs? [really hopeful emoticon]

Bigchic Sun 19-Aug-07 22:37:55

Hello all! Are you bothered that my cat drinks wine? He is really into Rose wine. I can't sit and have a glass with out him going crazy for some. He drives me mad every time I have a glass he sits with his tongue in my glass, so now I put him a little dish of wine and also a dish of chinese take-away. He loves it!

Bubble99 Sun 19-Aug-07 22:39:03

<wrists slapped>

Ok, sleepycat.

Good god! What is wrong with me?

I'm now apologising for behaviour I might exhibit in the future.

sleepycat Sun 19-Aug-07 22:42:29

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sleepycat Sun 19-Aug-07 22:45:06

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Bubble99 Sun 19-Aug-07 22:46:30

Aw, thanks.

having all boys has made me kinder to my MIL (she had 2 boys, no girls) as I'm aware that I'm setting an example to my boys about getting on with MILs.

berolina Sun 19-Aug-07 22:50:27

My MIL is a Very Nice Person Indeed - she's not got a nasty bone in her body (she is much nicer than me ) - but 'batty, intense, slightly possessive' really sums up how she is with dh - I can be sitting/stading right next to ds and she still lunges at him when she thinks I am going to let him fall off he sofa/into the duckpond etc. And she hovers.

berolina Sun 19-Aug-07 22:50:43

how she is with ds, I mean.

Bubble99 Sun 19-Aug-07 22:51:19

Hmm. I do have a few issues with my MIL about this, too.

She waited hand and foot on her boys and I refuse to do the same. My DS1 (nearly) ten year old will wet dust/antibac, while DS2 (7.5) hoovers ( OK, I have to re-hoover a lot of it, but he tries.)

Both of them fight to do the dusting

I refuse to bring up housework-shy men.

Shoshable Sun 19-Aug-07 22:52:19

Bubble ther is hope I am a MIL to a DIL and she is brilliant, not having a daughter, she takes ME shopping, no kids yet, but when they come I am going to do what my mother said she did, 'whatever you think, or feel, dont do or say, they are their children not yours' wise woman my mother.

Bubble99 Sun 19-Aug-07 22:55:38

Wise words indeed. I know my own mum had to bite her tongue a lot, and I'm her daughter, when I was clucking around DS1.

Shoshable Sun 19-Aug-07 22:59:30

Plus we do gang up on DS and I do tend to take her side when it comes to housework, (especially when he sits on his backside playing playstation instead of hoovering, as for most of his young life there was only myself and DS, I didn't remarry till he had left home,) he had to help growing up, so sod if hes not now

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