McDonald’s isn’t a ‘treat’

[Busybeebeebee]

I’ll try and keep this simples.

Both my sons go to their dad alternate weekends Friday 4pm- Sunday 3pm.
On a Friday when he picks them up, they go to McDonald’s for tea.
Saturday they tend to go somewhere like Brewers Fayre which although is marginally better still processed chicken crap with fries and a token corn on the cob.
Sunday it’s back to McDonald’s for lunch.

He genuinely sees no issue with this.

AIBU?

YABU - yes, all kids like McDonald’s and twice in a weekend is fine.

YANBU - cooking something decent for growing kids twice a fortnight isn’t difficult!

Don’t get me wrong, in an emergency I would stop and grab them something in McDonald’s but I can’t get my head around it being something to get excited about. 4 shitty nuggets, tiny portion of fries and a milkshake. They don’t even like the toys.

I hold my hands up, I’m not a food nazi or anything like that, I just genuinely am astounded.

[MsTSwift]

Yanbu. How lame lazy and unhealthy

[Samcro]

its not a "treat" if it happens that often.

[AryaStarkWolf]

I mean it's not going to kill them but he does sound like a lazy fucker, he could make a bit more of an effort considering he only has them a few days every month

[Autumntoowet]

It is lazy.
And twice a weekend every time they are together is going to get pretty boring too

[MrsTWH]

YANBU - even every Friday eve is fine, but it’s pathetic he can’t cook them something healthier on a Sunday.

[AnchorDownDeepBreath]

Eurgh. I was going to say that it's fine every now and again but that's not every now and again... he has them for six meals, and three of them are junk processed food, two are breakfast?! That's really lazy and awful.

I don't think there's a huge amount you can do about it if he isn't willing to change it, and I work with a few men who seem to do similar, but I share your irritation.

[WagtailRobin]

So two weekends a month but the rest of the time with you they eat healthier food?

I don't see a problem with that at all, unless their weight is more than it should be? Two weekends a month in my opinion is a treat, it equates to 4 days out of 30/31.

[OnlyFoolsnMothers]

He’s either lazy or wanting to be the fun parent - either way YANBU

[Goodnightjude1]

Yanbu. On the odd occasion, fair enough....but I would be happy if my kids were fed Crapdonalds twice in a weekend.

[Goodnightjude1]

*wouldn’t

[Grasspigeons]

Whats his accommodation like ? I sort of see if you arent with your children much you dont want to spend it cooking but i do think 2 McDonalds and a brewers fayer is a bit much. It means that you cant ever do the 'treat' meals as you have to compensate.

[NC4this123]

I think he’s stupid, what a waste of money - but if they eat well with you I’d just let it go

[HowlsMovingBungalow]

So can he not cook?

[Loosenisous]

Piss poor parenting. No way would I accept this. YANBU

[Raphael34]

It’s twice a month and I bet your kids love it. It wouldn’t bother me as long as they are fed

[Amanduh]

It’s lazy, but it’s chicken nuggets and a few chips. Meh.

[InDubiousBattle]

I wouldn't worry too much about it. It amounts to 1 meal a week and tbh fish fingers and chips isn't going to do them any harm. How old are they? My eldest is almost 6 and even though mine have it much less often the 'treat' factor is already wearing off- they like one when we're going through a big train station but wouldn't see it as a big treat.

[GettingABitDesperateNow]

It's shit to to twice in one weekend. It's hardly a massive effort to do pasta and sauce or shove a pizza in the oven or something. Also what would annoy me is that when you're busy or knackered or ill, you will probably push yourself to make them healthy food in the week instead of giving yourself a break and getting junk food as you know they will be having 3 junky meals at the weekend

[EmmiJay]

Pffft. Tell him Angus Steakhouse is a treat 🙄 (tongue in cheek) lol

[Floralnomad]

I don’t think it’s got anything to do with whether McDonald’s is a treat or not , it sounds like pure idleness from their father , can he not even make a sandwich ? Was he that useless when you were together .

[Concestor]

YANBU. I'd not want my kids eating crap for the entire weekend. It's so bad for them. He's lazy and a bad parent.

[malloo]

Not on. They need to eat something better than that. Loads of easy things you can buy from the supermarket that would be much healthier, he needs to put some effort in.

[GooodMythicalMorning]

I mean it's not great health wise, but It wouldn't be enough for me to get annoyed about but then I'd call it a treat too. I love a McDonald's. Don't have it once a week though as can't afford it.

[User12879923378]

I think McDs or similar is a treat if you're eating normally for the rest of the weekend (or going to restaurants with halfway decent food) but what you have described is drifting into the arena of can't be bothered. Which is a shame.

[BlueLips]

As a one off YWBU, every time YADNBU.