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To think this is totally ok and I am not a lax parent

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Northernsoulgirl45 Wed 13-Nov-19 21:05:12

Have 3 dd 15 12 and 6
Very occasionally I leave them with the 15 year old in charge. Never more than an hour or two and not at night.
Another mum of a small child btw has made me feel like a bad mum for giving dd1 this responsibility.
So who is unreasonable?

Northernsoulgirl45 Wed 13-Nov-19 21:05:56

Should have said she doesn't have any other chores to do.

AngelOfDeathNix Wed 13-Nov-19 21:07:16

I was babysitting regularly at 15! As long as your kids know what to do if there is an emergency, I wouldn't worry about it!

SlightlySleepy Wed 13-Nov-19 21:07:46

Sounds fine to me, so long as the two oldest don't argue. You don't want to leave your three year old in a war zone! A 15 year old is capable of watching a 3 year old for an hour or two.

Winterdaysarehere Wed 13-Nov-19 21:08:01

My dd 14 /ds 15 occasionally watch ds 5 while I work for 2 hours max.
Never give it a second thought tbh.
Work is less than 5 mins away.
Very occasionally a restaurant 15 mins away too!
Ignore the critics.

Rezie Wed 13-Nov-19 21:08:03

Totally normal but then again I don't really agree with the "new normal" regarding what is appropriate at what age and all the over the top safeguarding rules.

Frlrlrubert Wed 13-Nov-19 21:08:12

I used to babysit an 8yo and 2yo twins when I was 13.

I'm not advocating that, it actually shocks me now, but I wouldn't think twice about trusting a sensible 15yo with a 12yo and 6yo sibling (realistically the 12yo could be left on their own anyway so only really watching the 6yo) for a few hours.

SlightlySleepy Wed 13-Nov-19 21:08:15

Sorry, I mean 6 year old!

AdriannaP Wed 13-Nov-19 21:08:26

The other mum. You know your children best!
When I was 15 i often had sole charge of my younger cousins who were 1 and 2.

rhinocrash Wed 13-Nov-19 21:08:29

I regularly used to baby sit a toddler at that age.

If it is only as you say (rarely, only for an hour ish, and never at night) then the other mum is being ridiculous.

dancinginpurplerain Wed 13-Nov-19 21:09:19

It's fine in my opinion. Mine are slightly different ages - 14 (almost 15), 11 and 9. DD14 now collects DS9 from after school club a couple of times a week and is at home with him for an hour or so. It's actually been good for both of them and they get on better now they have time alone out of the house to chat.

DrWAnker Wed 13-Nov-19 21:11:35

So fine. I wouldn't bat an eyelid at this.
In a year the 15 yo could leave home and get married shock!

maddiemookins16mum Wed 13-Nov-19 21:11:37


OpheliaBee Wed 13-Nov-19 21:11:49

I’d probably let a sensible 15 year old (that I knew well) watch my 1YO for a short period if I was nearby 🤷‍♀️

Louise91417 Wed 13-Nov-19 21:11:53

If you feel your dd15 is mature and responsible enough to look after siblings then trust your instinct..its no one else business to pass judgement..

Expressedways Wed 13-Nov-19 21:12:35

Of course it’s fine. Lots of 15 year olds do babysitting as a part time job (I did from 14) and you know best if the younger ones will behave for their sibling- this would be the only reason not to do it in my opinion but it seems like this isn’t a problem in your house! I bet the other Mum is jealous.

ANiceLuxury Wed 13-Nov-19 21:12:51

If the kids are good for the 15 year old and they will do as they are told then I think it’s fine.

However if the 15 year old has no authority then I wouldn’t leave them

runoutofideasnow Wed 13-Nov-19 21:13:36

I think this is fine.

StateOfMind Wed 13-Nov-19 21:14:11

I was being paid to babysit overnight at 15. It’s fine as long as the 15 year old in question is responsible.

runoutofideasnow Wed 13-Nov-19 21:16:09

In fact when I was 14 I used to babysit a 7yo while our parents went to the pub quiz. She is diabetic, I was shown how to do her insulin and test her blood.
It was fine, she survived grin we're still friends now.

Thatnovembernight Wed 13-Nov-19 21:16:55

Loads of 15 year olds babysit for pay so this would definitely not be a big deal to me.

Alsohuman Wed 13-Nov-19 21:18:14

I was getting paid to babysit at that age.

Themutts Wed 13-Nov-19 21:18:38

Totally depends on the kids in question but I think fine.

WhinyWa Wed 13-Nov-19 21:20:20

So long as child is sensible and you're not doing it all the time then it's fine.

NameChangedNoImagination Wed 13-Nov-19 21:21:59

Ffs of course it's fine.

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