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Aibu to wonder if you have sex if your older children are in the house...

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Funkyslippers Fri 08-Nov-19 18:09:17

... And if you feel embarrassed as they must know what you're up to?

OH and I were going to dtd this afternoon so I quietly said we'd better do it now, he looked puzzled so DD1 who must have overheard said 'because my friend's coming over soon'. She knows what goes on when we go to our bedroom and never comments but I'd have been mortified at that age if my parents disappeared to their bedroom for you-know-what! How do others go about it?

itsboiledeggsagain Fri 08-Nov-19 18:10:14

I'm not sure that would be my approach.

Aloe6 Fri 08-Nov-19 18:11:43

Bit strange that your daughter knows you slip off for sex. Can’t you be more discreet?

Shoeshow Fri 08-Nov-19 18:11:46

I think sneaking off in middle of the day and announcing it in earshot of your children is odd tbh and would be embarrassed by this.

formerbabe Fri 08-Nov-19 18:12:19

How old is your dd

sniffingthewax Fri 08-Nov-19 18:13:09

Personally I would not want my child of any age to be privy to my sex life. DTD in the day whilst they are awake and home would be an absolute no no for me.

Moremilkplease Fri 08-Nov-19 18:13:11

Gross that she knew what you were going to do. I'm not against doing it if the kids are unaware but that would have made me lose my erection just knowing she knew!
How old is she?

ANiceLuxury Fri 08-Nov-19 18:14:00


How old is your daughter? Children should not be aware when their parents have sex

Autumntoowet Fri 08-Nov-19 18:14:18


formerbabe Fri 08-Nov-19 18:15:52

If she's 25, then tell her to mind her own business or move out.

If shes not yet an adult, you need to not discuss your sex life in earshot.

MrsPellegrinoPetrichor Fri 08-Nov-19 18:18:03

Omg! I'm really hoping your daughter is 25,in fact even if she is seriously hmm

MrsTWH Fri 08-Nov-19 18:19:02

When they’re awake and up/about in the day, I wouldn’t do it. I would never say anything in their earshot either, but my kids are only 10 and 12 so knowing we were having sex would be totally inappropriate.

Cornishmum00 Fri 08-Nov-19 18:19:43

We would never dtd while dc are home and awake

LoyaltyBonus Fri 08-Nov-19 18:20:03

I'm not sure why it was necessary to discuss it but it's a valid question and has been hampering our sex life for a while now.

PP said not to do it when DC are awake but, as they reach their teens they start going to bed at the same time or later than us!

emmaliz Fri 08-Nov-19 18:20:12

Her hearing that and commenting would have put me off tbh
Should be private in my opinion

underground76 Fri 08-Nov-19 18:22:23

Christ, you're so indiscreet that your poor kid knows when you're going off for a shag? She 'knows what goes on when you go to your bedroom'? Creepy and gross. Have some boundaries FFS.

I don't think many parents trot off for a day time quickie when their kids are in the house unless the kids are napping toddlers and it's the only opportunity they get. If your DD is old enough to understand what you're doing, why can't you do it at night?

There was a thread on here a while ago where many, many posters talked about how disturbed and creeped out they were by their parents' deliberate indiscretion about sex when they were kids and how it has affected them quite badly in some cases.

Fiveletters Fri 08-Nov-19 18:22:59

Oh god confused this is bizarre. I don’t have sex when my children are awake and in the house. I certainly wouldn’t leave a room to have sex having just discussed it in front of them.

Schmoozer Fri 08-Nov-19 18:26:18

Yeuk 😩

formerbabe Fri 08-Nov-19 18:26:27

I quietly said we'd better do it now, he looked puzzled so DD1 who must have overheard said 'because my friend's coming over soon

This is actually really bizarre. Do you think that everytime someone comes over..."shit, they'll be here soon, better have a shag!"

gamerwidow Fri 08-Nov-19 18:27:07

There is no way I could have sex knowing my DD was awake downstairs fully aware of what I was up to it would put me right off and turns my stomach a bit thinking about it.
I think it's one thing having your kids accidentally hear you at night because that can't always be avoided and is unintentional but to sneak off in the day making it obviously to the kids you're shagging upstairs (bleurgh).

SarahLovesMarmite Fri 08-Nov-19 18:27:10

I wouldn't dream of doing it if I know they were awake. In fact we almost never do it when the older one is in the house. The younger one sleeps more soundly and her bedroom is further from ours, but even then, I am inhibited. I enjoy it much more when they're both out.

ThatMuppetShow Fri 08-Nov-19 18:27:35

She knows what goes on when we go to our bedroom

that is beyond inappropriate.

TrampStamps Fri 08-Nov-19 18:28:34

I really really hope that your a troll.

TrampStamps Fri 08-Nov-19 18:28:59


wineisnecessary Fri 08-Nov-19 18:30:08

Urgh seriously if it was me thought of my parents having a quickieconfused.
I remember hearing my parents growing up and they would sometimes go for a lie down yuk .
I know we all do it but you know discreetly.
I've a grown up dd and will wait till she's not in or will have a early night if she's downstairs . I honestly wouldn't want anyone to hear . shock

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