Ndn help! Cheeky b******

what did you say to him?

Maybe he thinks you complained to the housing people about the state of his place

deep breaths.

Perhaps he has realised the neighbourhood looks nicer when people clear the tat out of their garden.

Why don't you head to the tip? Why is there tat sitting in the garden if you need to get rid of it? Keep it somewhere else.

Maybe he thinks you complained to the housing people about the state of his place

^This. He's trying to make a point.

Maybe he knows the housing officers coming back to inspect.. and unfortunately has the linguistic skills of a spiders arsehole... and is trying to warn you so you don’t get into shit too.. maybe he thinks it’s the other tidy house that’s grassed him up.

Breathe deeply.. do the odd dump run 😂

I'm just so annoyed. I don't understand how he has the cheek.

It's a family but it was only him who came up to me. They are so horrible tbh. But never once have a complained because I would not want to see anyone thrown out their home.

I just said I will do what I please and walked off. If he ever comes upto me again, I will get DP to go round.

So he had rubbish in his garden and cleaned it up and now asked you to clean up your rubbish and you're complaining because you have less rubbish than he did and you're taking umbrage?

The amount of rubbish is irrelevant, rubbish is an eyesore no matter the amount. Just take a visit to the tip.

@fruitbrewhaha because we have been busy. Also it's our garden why can't we keep it there? It's not a old car or sofa you know.

And sorry but they live like dirty slobs and you want to tell me they are oh so high standards now? It's a bit rich is all.

What did you say?!!

I'd have replied "Nah....i think i'll wait til i get a telling off from the Housing like you!"

@geminijes well no their house and garden was full of crap. But that's not the point.

The point is that they lived in discussing shit for years and because they have been forced to clean it up, he thinks he has the right to tell me to clean the oh few bits of tat out there, in my own garden.

I never passed comment to him or any of them about their shit. Also the tat in our garden has been there just over a week, gosh.

'Ha, are you on a roll now you've worked out how to clean?? Feel free to take it when you're doing the next tip trip, you're almost half way done on yours!!'

@ruggerhug no my house still has clutter, ugh. But the living room is looking better with the new stuff lol, nice you remembered

Also I have never gone up to someone telling them to clean their house.That's the point here!! I am pissed off he came up to me when they live like they do.

cellnet think I might have phrased that wrong, I meant say it to him if he dare comments on yours again

discussing shit

@ruggerhug lol. Well yes I guess I should have had a better come back to him but I was just so shocked. I did not get annoyed till about 5 minutes after when I was ranting to myself

@therobbinlsbobbingalong shhh don't point out my ranting typing mistakes!!! Lol, tuts

Well. It doesn't work both ways. Either "housing" expect it well maintained or looking like shit. Is there a reason why you expect different rules for you?

He thinks it was you who complained. I’d bet on it.

I also think that he suspects you reported it however, it could just be a case of “but they did it too”

@beesandcheese well no I guess you are right but we don't rent. Also it's a few bits in our own garden. Really they had rubbish for years.

Gosh, I guess IABU here. I was just annoyed by the double standards is all. They live in shit for years, yet when we put a bit of tat out for just over a week we are just as bad now if not worse?

I guess I just thought it was rich and damn right cheeky but clearly having a few weeds and tat in our garden we are on the same level?

Maybe I should just let rubbish and rats run wind for years then? You know because they did it for years, seen as we are doing tit for tat now.

Wild. Bloody tablet

Irrespective of the state of the neighbours' garden, "bits of tat ready for the tip" sounds grim.

Sounds like you're a bit of a 'scrubber' yourself 🤷‍♀️

Help me understand their mind set, because I don't

Don't even bother. Just smile and nod. Some people aren't worth your attention, headspace, or emotion.

Rise above it.

And if he gets abusive, call the police, or his housing association.

I guess IABU here

No, you're really not. It is irritating, and he's a mansplaining lazy slob of an arse.

Just rise above it and pretend he doesn't exist.

"bits of tat ready for the tip" sounds grim.

Not really. Sometimes if you are doing a big clear-out it can take a week or two to sort your accumulation of rubbish - and why take 2 or 3 trips to the tip if you can put is aside and then take the lot on one run?

I'm on your side OP - but I agree with others that he thinks you are the one who has complained. Our neighbours live in a muck hole too, and like you, I just think "keep your mouth shut and don't say anything - not your business except that if their hovel falls down it takes ours with it, and is reducing the value of our home and there is nothing we can do.

Our neighbours though, are pleasant - lazy filthy bastards, but friendly, take in parcels, pass the time of day, don't make much noise etc. We'd hate to prejudice that if we didn't have to.

@polpotnoodle yep I think you must be right. Time to get the old car out and dump it on our front, the dog can live in there lol

I have accepted I have BU now. I was just really pissed off but oh well. We all get annoyed and that's why I like it here, to bring me back down.

Thank you all.

Why don't you just clean your own house up and stop worrying what other people are doing?

I too would be pissed off if i were you

Agreed. Yanbu but what do you want to do with it? He’s a cheeky bastard...but hardly worth getting wound up over.

YANBU. Don't worry about your tat. Like others say, a week or two here and there is nothing to stress about. Ignore your neighbour who is just trying to cause aggro.