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Rude parents, entitled kids

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LuckyAmy1986 Tue 22-Oct-19 16:24:51

Just back from a day out at a local attraction where kids can trick or treat at various doors round the place. Our kids were waiting patiently and two little kids came and pushed in front of them. Parents said nothing. And many, many kids didn’t say thank you when given sweets, the parents didn’t encourage them to when they didn't either.
My elderly grandparents came to see me recently. We stepped off the path into the road for a lady with a double buggy, no thank you, nothing. This happens frequently. I put them on the (very busy) bus home. It was full of teenagers coming home from school. Not one of them offered either of my GPS a seat. I’m so sick of this kind of shit and might lose my rag at someone soon!
If you are one of those parents who doesn’t make their children wait in line or say thank you can you fucking sort yourself out please, we don’t need more entitled twats in the world.

AIBU?

FriedasCarLoad Tue 22-Oct-19 16:26:08

YADNBU.

TheQueef Tue 22-Oct-19 16:26:45

YANBU.
I remember when it was all fields around here angry

TricklBOO Tue 22-Oct-19 16:29:07

YADNBU. One of the comments made most about DS is his good manners. But it should be the norm in opinion, not something 'remarkable'.

seaweedandmarchingbands Tue 22-Oct-19 16:30:36

Definitely YANBU. I can’t believe how rude and entitled some people’s children can be.

Zeusthemoose Tue 22-Oct-19 16:30:48

I don't think anyone uses the word entitled in RL, I've only ever seen it on MN.

YANBU but as long as your doing the right stuff I wouldn't get too worked up about it.

Autumnfresh Tue 22-Oct-19 16:37:59

I use the word entitled all the time. Just this morning I refused to get out of the way for cyclist on the pavement or buggy with 2 people walking abreast on the pavement. I only move for elderly people otherwise I just stop where I am and let everyone go round. Sick of entitled people. I do let uniformed children cross the road if I’m in a car though, so I’m not all bad.

Liverbird77 Tue 22-Oct-19 16:38:29

Yep. I agree. I wonder when and why it started to happen?

LuckyAmy1986 Tue 22-Oct-19 16:38:34

@Zeusthemoose I use it all the time! I try not to get worked up about it but today tipped me over the edge. I wish I had said something to the parents who let their children push in but I'm not a confrontational person.

@TrickIBOO exactly it shouldn't be like that! The staff seemed pleasantly surprised when my kids said thank you!

SleepsleepsleepImissyou Tue 22-Oct-19 16:49:54

My partner's children never ever utter please or thank you. It drives me insane. I started trying to install it in them since DP "forgets" and is happy for them to speak to him like dirt. Realise this is his issue, not his kids, however nothing grates on me more than bad manners! Manners cost nothing ! Why are people so rude?!

seaweedandmarchingbands Tue 22-Oct-19 16:56:55

I say entitled all the time. I can’t bear people who allow their children to be rude and selfish.

CinnamonMentos Tue 22-Oct-19 17:00:08

I hate bad manners

The other day dd got 10 housepoints because she saw a teacher struggling with heavy books and helped her carry them in. The teacher was so happy with her and said loads of students had walked past her and not offered. She also held the door open for another teacher which got her another 5 hps.

I can’t believe this isn’t the norm.

Also noticed loads of kids at dd’s party didn’t say please/thank you.

eosmum Tue 22-Oct-19 17:01:47

My SIL uses it all the time “she’s entitled to this that and the other”.

FredaFrogspawn Tue 22-Oct-19 17:03:01

The seat thing - you need to gently prompt the teens to get up and give their seat to someone in greater need. Ask nicely and thank profusely and you have taught them it feels good to do a good thing. Sometimes they simply don’t notice.

itsgettingweird Tue 22-Oct-19 17:03:53

Yanbu. I've always said no one minds when a child ac like a child (pushing/manners etc) and get excited and forget themselves.

But don't excuse it by "they are just excited"

Every kid is.

But it still means you need to be polite.

Ponoka7 Tue 22-Oct-19 17:05:41

Autumnfresh, do you make people with prams step into the road? It's more dangerous for them than someone elderly.

OP, yanbu, my youngest DD (22) is Autistic. She went to a SEN school. All of the parents worked hard to get their children to say thank you. I hate bad manners along with littering.

WagtailRobin Tue 22-Oct-19 17:07:16

People are certainly lacking in manners and basic etiquette but unfortunately it is not an issue exclusive to the young/parents of the young.

I had a "run-in" with a much older man in Tesco's of all places last week, he was obnoxious and downright ignorant, a prime example of someone who felt "entitled" but I'm pretty sure I can't blame his parents for it.

readingismycardio Tue 22-Oct-19 17:10:32

I agree with @WagtailRobin. People are just rude and they're getting worse.

We just went to a wedding a few weeks ago and gave as a gift £300 which I believe is really generous and didn't even get a thank youshock

You hold doors and they don't even say thanks.

People cut queues and don't even apologize!

Etc. I'm sick of it too.

ChevalierTialys Tue 22-Oct-19 17:10:48

I don't think anyone uses the word entitled in RL, I've only ever seen it on MN.

I use it all the time. When entitled people behave in an entitles manner.

YANBU OP, I see this all the time. DS has to ask nicely (say please) before we give him things, he has to thank people when he is given things, or when people let him pass, thanks bus drivers or drivers who stop for us to cross the road. He knows he has to wait his turn for things and that his turn will also be over at some point and not to hog things.

I teach my little lad manners and it really irritates me the way other kids are allowed to do as they please, demand things and behave like spoilt brats.

ASilhouetteAndNothingMore Tue 22-Oct-19 17:14:29

Last time I took my two dc on a bus, I made them wait in line for the doors to open, only for us to be trampled by a load of pensioners pushing in as they opened.
It's definitely a me me me culture now.

m0therofdragons Tue 22-Oct-19 17:19:02

I'm regularly told I'm so lucky my dc are polite. Er well they don't get things if they speak to me like dirt. It's not rocket science

SnuggyBuggy Tue 22-Oct-19 17:23:02

There are so many rude adults so why do we expect better of children?

missyB1 Tue 22-Oct-19 17:26:55

I've noticed people are more self absorbed and self obsessed in general. They seem to think manners are not required because they are so precious and special - and so are their little darlings. It's quite depressing really.

missyB1 Tue 22-Oct-19 17:28:34

Oh and don't get me started on parents who insist their kids "shouldn't be made" to say please, thank you or sorry. I work in a school we bloody make them say those things whether their parents approve or not!

TellMeWhoTheVilliansAre Tue 22-Oct-19 17:30:46

I don't think anyone uses the word entitled in RL

I use the derivative entitlement when discussing my in-laws heightened sense of same.

I'm not unnecessarily in-law bashing. My husband was the one who introduced me to the phrase when describing his siblings.

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