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Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 12:17:49

Going to a wedding reception on Saturday night... wibu to wear this?

JasonPollack Tue 22-Oct-19 12:18:30

I don't know, are you the entertainment?

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 12:18:53


11hairylegs Tue 22-Oct-19 12:19:17

To me it looks like a clubbing outfit at best.

SmellbowSmellbow123 Tue 22-Oct-19 12:20:41

Evening reception only? Possibly. Possibly wouldn’t wear it to (say) a church service for example. But then I’m not young enough to wear it anyway so...!!

CallMeRachel Tue 22-Oct-19 12:20:46

Crikey! Lady of the night comes to mind!!

Totally inappropriate for a wedding imo.

I actually don't know where that could be worn to without raising an eyebrow or two.

pinkyredrose Tue 22-Oct-19 12:20:53

Yeah why not!

TulipsTulipsTulips Tue 22-Oct-19 12:22:05

Yes you would BU

Digitalash Tue 22-Oct-19 12:22:20

I wouldn't wear it because I'd look ridiculous but if you can pull it off I don't see why not.

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 12:22:43

Thank god I asked!! Online shopping next!

LimpidPools Tue 22-Oct-19 12:23:23

What part of the country? What venue? What do people usually wear OP?

But my first reaction was dear God, you can't wear that.

inwood Tue 22-Oct-19 12:23:25

Totally inappropriate!

SmellbowSmellbow123 Tue 22-Oct-19 12:24:12


A friend got married last year. All the young women there were wearing similar style dresses. Bride was 25 so young friend base.

DriftingLeaves Tue 22-Oct-19 12:24:45

Why would you wear a nightie? wink

DanceWithThePoets Tue 22-Oct-19 12:25:22

Is it a Halloween themed wedding?

DanielRicciardosSmile Tue 22-Oct-19 12:25:24

I wouldn't, it looks a bit like a nightie.

DonKeyshot Tue 22-Oct-19 12:25:32

Do you usually wear a nightie to weddings? If so, crack on. If not, don't start now.

circlesandquares Tue 22-Oct-19 12:25:35

Sorry, I don't think this a suitable dress for a wedding reception.

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 12:26:01

Are you popping out of the cake, or just dancing on the bar?

DanielRicciardosSmile Tue 22-Oct-19 12:26:02

@DriftingLeaves snap!

Bluntness100 Tue 22-Oct-19 12:26:46


embarassednewname Tue 22-Oct-19 12:27:16

Evening party, yes depending on the crowd and venue. Don’t wear that to church!!

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 12:28:25

I wouldn't wear it because I'd look ridiculous but if you can pull it off I don't see why not.

I tell you why not , in case you don't see. The rule of any wedding, day or night, is that you don't try to overshadow the bride - it just makes you looking like a complete twat. It 's not the time to try to pull off what you think is a sexy outfit.

There are hundreds of flattering clothes you can wear, a nightie is not appropriate.

NearlyGranny Tue 22-Oct-19 12:28:55

Not black for a wedding. People will think you're in mourning because you aren't marrying the bride or groom yourself!

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 12:29:22

It’s only the evening. I will be saving this one for another more appropriate occasion!

ThisIsNotARealAvo Tue 22-Oct-19 12:29:36

Evening reception and you've got the figure for it and you love it, go for it! This is the sort of thing that my cousins wear to weddings, they're young girls and they look great.

Only on Mumsnet do people get so het up about what is appropriate for weddings. At most weddings you get a range of ages and a range of outfits.

Pinkyyy Tue 22-Oct-19 12:29:49

You should have asked in style and beauty, they can give you alternatives.

What style are you going for (hopefully different to this one)?And do you have a budget?

HalfManHalfLabrador Tue 22-Oct-19 12:30:02

90% of wedding guests in Ireland would wear something similar. Not sure about UK I’ve never been to a wedding there but going by the comments I think not

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 12:30:42

I don't think anyone will think you are in mourning wearing THAT gringringrin

black is absolutely fine, as long as the actual outfit is appropriate. Even the young (female) royals have been wearing black at weddings!

As long as you avoid the extreme opposite, full widow veil on, black is fine!

Pinkyyy Tue 22-Oct-19 12:32:02

Also I have no problem with skin being shown, I just don't like the dress. It looks cheap.

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 12:33:31

Only on Mumsnet do people get so het up about what is appropriate for weddings. At most weddings you get a range of ages and a range of outfits.

I hate this "only on MN" nonsense from people who clearly have never left their village ever and can't imagine that anyone has different experience.

I have never been to any wedding where anyone would have thought appropriate to wear a nightie. So what, only on Mumsnet would people make a fool of themselves at weddings?

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 12:45:00

This more acceptable?

AryaStarkWolf Tue 22-Oct-19 12:47:36

Second one is very nice

LimpidPools Tue 22-Oct-19 12:48:18

Yes, much!

northernknickers Tue 22-Oct-19 12:48:38

Much better 👍

AlrightTreacle Tue 22-Oct-19 12:48:51

Second dress is lovely and perfect for an autumn wedding.

Surprised you had to ask about the first one though! grin

thecatsthecats Tue 22-Oct-19 12:50:35

I hope people say the second one is appropriate, because I've worn almost exactly that to a wedding!

Rule of thumb is always, if you have to ask, don't wear it though. Because if you care enough to ask, the assurance of internet randoms in advance won't be very helpful to you when you're actually there.

AloeVeraLynn Tue 22-Oct-19 12:50:49

Second dress perfect. First isn't great and looks very cheap.

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 12:51:32

If you can pull off the 2nd one, please do wear it, it's perfect.

TheRobinIsBobbingAlong Tue 22-Oct-19 12:51:59

If you were trying to say "Fuck you for only inviting me to the evening do" then the first outfit would do the job.

I like the second one a lot.

AnneLovesGilbert Tue 22-Oct-19 12:53:18

Is the groom your ex? grin

Second one is nice.

Idontneeditatall Tue 22-Oct-19 12:53:21

grin laughing at Pp who said people will think op is in mourning at not marrying the bride or groom’nn

OldNameChanger Tue 22-Oct-19 12:53:31

The second dress is perfect

Nofunkingworriesmate Tue 22-Oct-19 12:54:12

Way too slutty for a wedding, if you want to pull focus and have everyone talking about you go ahead , not sure thus is even suitable for clubbing

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 12:54:36

Hahaha thanks everyone. Saved me some blushes there
I’m 38(really don’t look it) size 10, tattoos, very short Hair. This 2nd dress isn’t really my style, but I must conform 🙄

Hederex Tue 22-Oct-19 12:55:09

Literally the only person who could get away with that is Beyonce.

Though Amanda Holden would have a go.

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 12:55:47

Way too slutty for a wedding, if you want to pull focus and have everyone talking about you go ahead , not sure thus is even suitable for clubbing
They’ll be talking about me anyway!

RaininSummer Tue 22-Oct-19 13:00:26

Gorgeous dress but OTT for a wedding reception. Great for a flash ball though.

AnneLovesGilbert Tue 22-Oct-19 13:04:36

They’ll be talking about me anyway!

It IS your ex grin

SerenDippitty Tue 22-Oct-19 13:05:31

First one is a bit Ann Summers, second one is fab.

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 13:05:46

This 2nd dress isn’t really my style, but I must conform 🙄

do you really spend your life in outfits like dress 1? hmm

You can wear appropriate clothing without having to "conform".

Damntheman Tue 22-Oct-19 13:06:03

Haha! As if anyone could truly upstage a bride.

I thought the first dress was lovely, and OP I am very jealous of you for being able to pull off such a dress :D I'm sure you'll look stunning in either, hope it's a great party!

SheSaidNoFuckThat Tue 22-Oct-19 13:10:02

I think the first dress is fine if you like it, as for someone saying it's "slutty" - seriously? Thought we'd moved on from that shit. @Rightyoh wear what you're comfortable in, no need to conform for anyone

Idontwanttotalk Tue 22-Oct-19 13:11:42

"are you the entertainment?"

Seriously though, it is a nice outfit if you have the figure for it, but I wouldn't wear it to someone's wedding reception. I wouldn't wear anything too showy just so that the bride is the one who stands out from the crowd.

Crafting1Queen Tue 22-Oct-19 13:14:22

Hi Op, I was going to say unless you are Morticia Adams, please do not wear that black lacy dress to the wedding reception wink grin to take the sting out of my initial reaction, Good God in Govan, No! lol.

I love the 2nd dress, and even though you say it's not your style and you have to conform, I think with your update that you that you have tattoos and very short hair etc, I think you will really rock that dress, and it no doubt will show off more of your tattoos. So I think it will take it from a "conforming" dress in your opinion, to an oh wow, she looks amazing in that dress. I especially love the colour!

Have a blast at the reception.

Idontwanttotalk Tue 22-Oct-19 13:17:33

"I'm 38(really don’t look it) size 10, tattoos, very short Hair. This 2nd dress isn’t really my style, but I must conform 🙄"
The 2nd dress is fine but if it's not really your thing then find another. You want to feel you look good otherwise you might feel uncomfortable and I'm in the mood for looking at more dresses.

Where are your tattoos? If on show can you buy a dress that compliments them?

user1471449295 Tue 22-Oct-19 13:20:06

Second one is perfect. First looks like you are trying to compete for attention

Pinkyyy Tue 22-Oct-19 13:20:53

You don't have to conform, I think dress 2 is boring.

myrtleWilson Tue 22-Oct-19 13:26:05

Do you know the colour scheme? There is a chance with an autumn wedding that dress 2 colour could be quite bridesmaid-y.... plus if its not 'you' then keep looking

BackforGood Tue 22-Oct-19 13:28:40


grin grin grin
Made me spit my tea out there.

thecatsthecats Tue 22-Oct-19 13:30:11

Haha! As if anyone could truly upstage a bride.

Oh, no one ever upstages the bride. They just provide a source of interest to the guests who are identifying who is 'that' guest wearing something inappropriate at the wedding.

underground76 Tue 22-Oct-19 13:33:25

Am I the only person who wouldn't be remotely bothered what anyone wore to my wedding? If I was having a big wedding do I'd just want people to wear whatever they felt best in.

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 13:37:07

Am I the only person who wouldn't be remotely bothered what anyone wore to my wedding?

wait until your Mother In Law turns up in a full wedding gown with veil grin

1forAll74 Tue 22-Oct-19 13:43:43

I love the dress, anything black,and glam is always good in my opinion.
If you think that the evening venue would be suitable to wear a glam dress,then wear it.It doesn't matter what others will think.

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 13:45:26

I think it’s a bit boring the 2nd one. Can’t find anything else I like online. Can’t really get to the shops this week either as the kids are off ill.
I’ll keep looking and get back to you...

circlesandquares Tue 22-Oct-19 13:47:10

Go with the second one.

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 13:52:18

Absolutely LOVE this. Probably be flames now... do your worst

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 13:52:20

If you think that the evening venue would be suitable to wear a glam dress,then wear it

for sure
but dress 1 doesn't qualify as a glam dress

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 13:53:42

Dress 3 is suitable.

diddl Tue 22-Oct-19 13:54:55

I think I prefer the 1st to the 3rd.

Idontwanttotalk Tue 22-Oct-19 13:55:35

Dress 3 is fine. I can imagine it with short hair.

Alsohuman Tue 22-Oct-19 13:56:21

Over the top, OP. I’d put money on you feeling very uncomfortable in that.

drumandthebass Tue 22-Oct-19 13:58:10

👍 to the second dress

Magnificentme Tue 22-Oct-19 13:58:41

I like it and yes if I had that figure I would wear it to the reception if it's in fashion you might see a few girls wearing similar

DontLettuceBrexitLettuceRomain Tue 22-Oct-19 14:02:18

Dress 3 you could get away with, but not sure why you're determined to dress like a teenager or model.

Bluntness100 Tue 22-Oct-19 14:04:34

you might see a few girls wearing similar

I'd be willing to bet money you won't...😂

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 14:05:17

Too much?

Damntheman Tue 22-Oct-19 14:06:26

:D I like them all OP, you wear whatever you want!

TheFrenchLieutenantsMonkey Tue 22-Oct-19 14:09:33

How about this?
(I'm avoiding the ironing not belittling your taste. I like all of the others and if I looked slightly less like a sack of spuds with eyes I'd wear any of them!)

Nancydrawn Tue 22-Oct-19 14:10:00

For an evening only, I think the last dress is fine. It's less try-hard than the first and a fun kind of hot.

Wonderwally Tue 22-Oct-19 14:11:26

No dress 3 looks like a bridesmaid in mourning dress, they will definitely think you want the bride /groom for yourself.

I was never concerned about wedding attire until the most gorgeous looking girl turned up to my cousins wedding in a white lace fitted dress. My partner thought she was the bride!

diddl Tue 22-Oct-19 14:12:03

Ooh, like the last one best!

Wonderwally Tue 22-Oct-19 14:12:53

I like last one best as well.

Disfordarkchocolate Tue 22-Oct-19 14:14:45

If I was young, slimmer and going to the evening do only I think the first one is fine. Especially is the bride is young. The second one makes you look like a giant present.

SVRT19674 Tue 22-Oct-19 14:15:14

I wouldn't wear it on any occasion. I wore a black dress once, but discreet and with turquoise and pink accessories. You don't want to look like a member of the Adams family at a wedding.

ThatMuppetShow Tue 22-Oct-19 14:15:29

Dress 4 is suitable too.

On another note, WHO really think someone is mourning the bride or groom by wearing black to a wedding nowadays?!? grin grin grin

Alsohuman Tue 22-Oct-19 14:22:56

Dress 4 without a doubt.

Thurmanmurman Tue 22-Oct-19 14:26:11

I like but not for a wedding. As a PP said people may think you are trying to upstage the bride. I went to a wedding recently and the bride’s sister was wearing a really low cut dress, cut down to just above her belly button. It was also the shortest length a dress can be without being a top! Everyone thought she was a total dick for wearing it.

notthemum Tue 22-Oct-19 14:28:04

So here are my thoughts in order of preference
1 (pref not)
Let us know what you wear.

Kenworthington Tue 22-Oct-19 14:32:51

The burgundy one I think is typical wedding outfit but I think you’ll rock it and make it look cool. Last embellished one is lush. I also have tattoos and piercings. I’d want to feel like myself too. I’d wear both of those but accessorise the hell out of that burgundy one.

Paddington68 Tue 22-Oct-19 14:33:21

OP - do you not have any gay male friends that could point you in the right direction?

Kenworthington Tue 22-Oct-19 14:33:53

I also would and have worn black to a wedding. It’s titally fine. It’s the style and fabric of the first own which is not ok

fishonabicycle Tue 22-Oct-19 14:45:34

Wear what you want and.what makes you feel good. Far too many pursed lips on here!

Rightyoh Tue 22-Oct-19 14:53:32

I’m going to pop out when DH gets home. If I can’t find anything, I’ll go for the ASOS one.
Watch this space

Paddington68 Tue 22-Oct-19 15:18:21

good luck

RhodaDendron Tue 22-Oct-19 15:22:26

I love the skirt. I would wear it with a cute structured tshirt over the top! But I am old...

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace Tue 22-Oct-19 15:30:17

I’m 38(really don’t look it) size 10, tattoos, very short Hair. This 2nd dress isn’t really my style, but I must conform

No, you really must not. I like the first one. The second one is also nice but ..... you may end up looking like everyone else. I'm 52, hardly a hair to my name, facial piercings, no tattoos: I'd rock the first one, no problem at all. And .... I look every year of my 52 shock

ShinyGiratina Tue 22-Oct-19 15:36:50

Dresses 2, 3 or 4 are fine.

I think the model for dress 3 is too busty for it. The skirt is bulky, and there's not enough distinction around the waist, it suits a straighter build.

Is dress 4 lined? I wouldn't buy a sequined dress without trying it as they can be very rough and scratchy which is a shame as they look great.

Derbee Tue 22-Oct-19 15:50:53

3 & 4 are nice.

But if it’s a crowd of people you know, and dress 1 is your usual type of outfit, I don’t see the problem? Everyone will be used to you dressing a bit errrrm you know. So it might be strange to suddenly arrive at a social event looking like a standard wedding guest?

BourbonAndTea Tue 22-Oct-19 15:59:30

WEAR IT! It's lovely!

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