So just for a very quick background, been together 7 years, have a 2 year old dd.
I don't go out drinking with mates that often as I'm on the wrong side of 30,work full time with a toddler and usually prefer an early night with a book. Not that it's relevant to be fair but just felt the need to chuck that in there.
Went to a comedy night with 'BFF' last night, and neither of us are working today so decided to stay out and have a few drinks when it finished. We don't catch up often as we live in different cities so we got a bit carried away and I stumbled in about 4am. Dh is working today and I'm up with dd (so we know who the real loser is in this situation). Anyhoo, I digress.
I text dh as we arrived to a bar at about 11:30 and just said we've decided to come for a drink, not to wait up, and to sleep well etc. Then text again about 1am just to say we're still out (assuming of course he'd be asleep but that if he woke up he'd be reassured to my whereabouts). He didn't reply obviously.
Then this morning he has text me from work saying how I'm thoughtless, inconsiderate, one message even said it feels like I 'don't care about him much' which I'm very confused about. He's generally very laid back, and it's not like I go out on a late one often at all, although even if I did - so?!
I don't know whether I'm being hangover blind or whether I am genuinely BU or he is, but are we now expected to update each other hourly (despite the fact one of us is asleep)?! I'm so lost as to what I've done wrong.
I gave dd dinner last night before I went out, and I'm the one up with her today, it's affected approximately zero of his evening or morning and yet I'm being made to feel I've committed a sin? I've said I'm confused about his reaction, to which he replied that 'you'd be fuming if it was the other way round' - can't for the life of me decipher why though.
So AIBU? Is he? Are we both? Help a sister out!
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MissBax · 22/10/2019 09:44
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Am I being unreasonable?
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