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AIBU?

To leave the children at home while they’re napping?

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ParkLife123 · 17/10/2019 16:43

Please hear me out.

House has a driveway outside, and then the street. On the other side of the street is a playground which my DS aged 4 loves. We go out there to play as often as we can but usually all four of us (me, DS, his younger brother aged 2, and newest addition our 5 month old baby).

I’m considering, in order to be able to spend a little quality 1:1 time with DS, taking him occasionally across the street while the other two nap. House is alarmed. I have baby monitors looking into their cots - the two year old cannot get out of his cot yet and in any case there’s also a baby gate at the door.

But really any sign of movement or noise from either of them and I get an alert on my phone.

The time it takes to get back home from the playground realistically is around 1 minute.

Is this a terrible idea? I’ve thought about the risks of them choking or something but also think that I would be able to get back home in the same time as it would take me to get to them if I was for example in the shower!

Does it sound fine or is it a risk no one else would take?

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Shouldershrugger · 17/10/2019 16:44

Personally I wouldn't. Alot can happen in a single minute.

araiwa · 17/10/2019 16:45

Sounds a stupid idea

catgirl1976 · 17/10/2019 16:47

It’s not something I would do, sorry

Didntwanttochangemyname · 17/10/2019 16:47

The road between would be what worries me, what if something happened to stop you crossing?

If it is a very quiet road, I'd probably do it.

Sirzy · 17/10/2019 16:47

Awful idea.

And how long would it take you to grab child from playing. Get home. Undo door and turn off alarms. Get to distressed child?

formerbabe · 17/10/2019 16:47

No, you can't do this.

BanKittenHeels · 17/10/2019 16:48

YABU and if I knew you and knew you did this I would report you.

AliceAbsolum · 17/10/2019 16:48

Sounds sensible to me. Yanbu

Finfintytint · 17/10/2019 16:48

I’m sure you could find other quality one to one activities to do in the house/ garden when the others are sleeping.

KondoKonvert · 17/10/2019 16:49

Nope...I wouldn't do this.

Pinkyponker · 17/10/2019 16:49

Hmmm I don't know...

I mean what do people with large gardens do... Never go to the bottom of the garden while the baby naps...?
Not much difference surely?

TulipsTwoLips · 17/10/2019 16:50

I wouldn’t. What if something happened to you?

FilthyforFirth · 17/10/2019 16:50

You can't honestly be suggesting leaving a newborn alone at home? Dreadful idea I'm afraid. I woud judge the hell out of anyone doing this.

Pinkyponker · 17/10/2019 16:50

It sounds like it's literally right opposite your house no?

formerbabe · 17/10/2019 16:50

You say it takes a minute to get back...I could actually walk quite far in a minute. Can you see your house from the playground?

adaline · 17/10/2019 16:50

No, awful idea. Get someone to sit in the house with them while you go out, just in case.

Bigregrets19 · 17/10/2019 16:51

No way.
If your child was sick and choking, 1.min is a long time.
If there as a freak fire. 1 min is a long time.
OK so the likelihood of a fire is very slim. It no way.
Find another way to have 1 to 1 time with your other dc!

WatchoutfortheROUS · 17/10/2019 16:51

Um. No. I would report someone for doing this without hesitation.

Geminijes · 17/10/2019 16:51

You obviously have concerns yourself about leaving your children otherwise you wouldn't post asking if it was OK.

Don't do it.

Amanduh · 17/10/2019 16:52

No, you should not leave your 2 yo and 5 moth old baby(!!!) in the house alone whilst you go to the park.
No matter if it is a short distance, the ‘it’s only as far as my garden’ posts you will get, this is absolutely not acceptable behaviour

Bigregrets19 · 17/10/2019 16:52

I wouldn't no way.

firstimemamma · 17/10/2019 16:52

Just don't do it op. Not even just the once, not ever.

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JunesBalloon · 17/10/2019 16:52

Why would you? That's life with more than one child to me.

Rystall · 17/10/2019 16:53

I wouldn’t. No way. They’re too small. Plenty of people will tell you it’s ok though and that it’s no different from being in your own garden. It is different though. Can you imagine explaining to someone ( a friend, a police officer, social services, a news reporter) that you were in a park across the road if something bad did happen?

I think the fact that you’re on here asking means you know it’s not right.

Wellie89 · 17/10/2019 16:53

Logically perhaps is fine. In practice I wouldnt. I'd be too paranoid about getting locked out, something inexplicable happened at the playground which meant got caught up there (older child gets stuck a swing etc) which delays you.
I used to panic just about popping out to the garage to get something out the freezer even though the door couldn't lock without the key etc!

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