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AiBU to worry about my daughter?

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ineedaholiday2 Wed 16-Oct-19 21:29:47

My daughter (11) goes to an all-girls school. Today she heard rumours from other girls that her form tutor is a pedophile. I asked her what evidence, if any, there was and she said the others girls hadn't say. Now I know this might be a malicious rumour, but I can't stop worrying. What if it's true? AIBU? What would you do in my place?

Pinkflipflop85 Wed 16-Oct-19 21:33:28


DorothyDing Wed 16-Oct-19 21:36:59

Same thing happened at my school. Poor teacher left and felt so sorry for them. Once that kind of cruel rumour starts it can have horrible consequences for the person. Tell her ignore it. You ignore it too.

Zebraaa Wed 16-Oct-19 21:37:00


ThePallidBustOfPallas Wed 16-Oct-19 21:37:49

YABVVVVVU to even post this. Stop it.

SoyDora Wed 16-Oct-19 21:38:07


Smurfy23 Wed 16-Oct-19 21:38:30

I'd tell my daughter to stop gossiping about people's lives in a way that is highly damaging without any evidence at all. That's an important life lesson to learn. Then I'd move on.

Catsandchardonnay Wed 16-Oct-19 21:38:39


sauvignonblancplz Wed 16-Oct-19 21:38:43

This thread has already been done. YBVVVVVVU Now stop and have a word with your daughter about spreading viscous lies.

LIZS Wed 16-Oct-19 21:39:49

Ignore such gossip, especially if it originates from the children. Sounds like it has already got out of control and you are perpetuating it.

simplekindoflife Wed 16-Oct-19 21:41:52

Poor teacher if this isn't true. sad

Welshy545 Wed 16-Oct-19 21:43:32

When I was at school there was a similar rumour spread about a teacher which was all lies! I feel awful for him it must of ruined his life! I'm now 29 and still when his name is mentioned people say "is that the peado?" These things never go away.
If there was any truth in this at all do you honestly think he would be there!?

Sparklesocks Wed 16-Oct-19 21:43:49

So there’s literally zero evidence of source apart from preteen girls?
And you’re worried?

MissEliza Wed 16-Oct-19 21:49:16

You should be telling your dd off for repeating malicious gossip.

doublebarrellednurse Wed 16-Oct-19 21:52:04

Would you like me to pass you a pitchfork and a burn book.

You're acting like a teenage hysterical girl

user1471449295 Wed 16-Oct-19 21:52:59

Kids ways seem to start rhis particular runournon most schools. Get a grip and parent your child. For God sake.

Interestedwoman Wed 16-Oct-19 21:56:43

YANBU in the sense of I think any mum would worry if she heard something like that. But you've not heard any evidence as such, so all you can do is try not to worry about it- unless you want to go to the head or something? :/ They could interview the girls and see if there's any reason why they're saying this.

KM99 Wed 16-Oct-19 22:03:04

What if it's true? Yes, I'm sure a group of pre-teen girls would expose that before say any teachers.

FFS. Get a grip of yourself. This shit ruins lives.

theretheirtheyrenotno Wed 16-Oct-19 22:03:46

YAB the most U I've seen on MN!


How would you like it if they decided your daughter was a thief, based on their say so! Tell your daughter to stop the gossip now.

StillCoughingandLaughing Wed 16-Oct-19 22:05:56

Why don’t you ask the headmistress? If she says ‘Yes, he is’, maybe you should consider whether this is the right school for your daughter.

Apolloanddaphne Wed 16-Oct-19 22:08:58

Of course it isn't true. Why would you even give this headspace?

TheoriginalLEM Wed 16-Oct-19 22:09:01


Mydogmylife Wed 16-Oct-19 22:12:39

How ridiculous ! No evidence, never mind that the school will have done thorough checks before employing him, just teenage girls being stupid and cruel. Can't believe you are even thinking this is true and ' worrying about your daughter' you should be ashamed !

Cherrysoup Wed 16-Oct-19 22:13:20

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AthollPlace Wed 16-Oct-19 22:14:47

The teacher will have had police checks and everything before being allowed to teach. So they’re less likely to be a paedophile than most people. In your shoes I’d report to the school so they can squash these rumours before they affect the teacher’s career.

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