So back history DH ex is constantly asking us to have kids more, help her out with drop off, childcare for last minute weekends away (currently away on 3rd holiday this year with out children). We have kids 50/50- 3 nights one week and 4 the next in holidays exactly the same with 9.00am drop off either way so it’s split exactly. Ex claims all child benefit and tax credits for both even when away.
I have major surgery in Nov which will need at least 8 weeks off work the weekend after my surgery my children are going to there dads as due to the day of surgery I will more than likely if everything goes well be home the Friday. We are scheduled to have DH children that week and take them to school the Friday morning with EX collecting (normal routine) which is fine. Ex now has day surgery for haemorrhoid banding the Thursday so has stated we HAVE to have the kids the Friday, the weekend and the days that are not ours that following week as she needs a week off work so can not have her children- they are 7 and 11 if that helps!
DH has told her I am having a major operation which is why my children are staying an extra weekend at there dads and he is taking the weekend off work to care for me. She is now creating all sorts of drama and stress (phoned from abroad 10 times to DH today alone) how he will be fit and well and her surgery is also major so he HAS to have the kids. On our set days I have no problem with the kids coming but feeling her ‘major’ surgery isn’t actually major surgery and on her days she needs to sort her own childcare problems.
Last time we had this she turned up at our house and saw we were in and sent the kids in and drive of 5 hours early so we had to cancel our afternoon plans. This is really stressing me out and causing me huge anxiety as I am scared enough about this operation and now feel I won’t even get a few days rest at home. DH takes to ignoring her constant calls and texts but then she just does it like the dropping off 5 hours early. Not sure if I am venting or asking for advice how to handle?
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To think if she wants to play top trumps with surgery I bloody win!!!
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Thinkingoutloud13 · 14/10/2019 15:25
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