To think fil is being a bit cheeky?

[LionsTigersAndBearsAndPandas]

Fil has just texted dh "what day will we (him and step mil) be having Christmas Dinner at your house". Bit of background - Fil has not really been interested in us until we had our ds. He would see dh once or twice a year for a few hours. Since he divorced DH's mum when dh was a child he hasn't done much for dh. I have never been invited to his house in the 11 years I have been with dh. AIBU to think fil is being cheeky and if he wants Christmas Dinner with us he can host?
No doubt will get suggestions that dh cook but dh can't cook well and would struggle with the shopping, preparing and cooking a Christmas dinner. When he was at university he made himself frozen food and ready meals or at best pasta with a jar of sauce poured on top or a plain omelette. So I would end up doing most of the cooking and cleaning. And a fancy Christmas Dinner from Marks and Spencer where you just pop it in the oven is a bit too expensive since we have so many Christmas presents and birthday presents to buy (6 birthdays in November and December).

[Cloudyapples]

‘Haha good one dad, but I think it might be your turn to host us!’

[Seeline]

What are your plans for the Christmas period?

[readingnc]

Well it depends on what you want to do. Aren't you cooking a Christmas dinner anyway?

[Windydaysuponus]

We will let you know what are plans are for Christmas when we know ourselves df....

[Honeybee85]

YANBU, it is a bit cheeky.

I would reply to him with:
You mean next year? Because we were expecting an invite from you for this Christmas

[IsAStormApproaching]

"Not sure if we will be hosting this year. We will get back to you. "

[fedup21]

Very cheeky! No way would I be doing this.

What does your DH say? What are you both going to do about it?

[Fiacla]

What @Cloudyapples said.

[BravoStrong]

YANBU but I don’t get the relevance of what your husband did at university. He’s an adult with a family now. It would behoove him to be less pathetic when it comes to shopping and cooking.

[LionsTigersAndBearsAndPandas]

I will be cooking a Christmas Dinner on Christmas day. But on Christmas day fil and step mil will be having it at their house with step mil's children and grandchildren. We or any of DH's siblings are of course not invited

[Disfordarkchocolate]

2023 sounds good, not sure of the date though. And then invite him on a random day in June.

[fedup21]

Tell him that you weren’t planning to host.

[Travis1]

‘Ha ha good one. We’ll see you at some point but not hosting this year’ and leave it at that

[Travis1]

Or depending how much you want to keep the relationship going haha fuck off’

[Grainedmonkey]

OP what has happened in previous years?

[LionsTigersAndBearsAndPandas]

fedup21 I won't be cooking a Christmas Dinner for them. Think dh is on my side, he just told me what his dad said and hasn't given me a proper answer though
BravoStrong I know but when it comes to cooking he won't put the effort in. Unless I want frozen pizza for dinner I end up cooking.

[SmudgeButt]

"Hi -Arse- FiL! Happy to have you here on Saturday after Christmas when we'll be having turkey curry made with the leftovers! Please be sure you're promptly on time for 5 pm supper as we've got tickets to a show in town for 7 and need to eat quickly."

[CuriousaboutSamphire]

Your DH could just text back that you were thinking about joining him and SMIL, make it an extended family Christmas.

[LionsTigersAndBearsAndPandas]

Grainedmonkey previous years he didn't care about dh. Not until we had our ds. Fil has Christmas day at his house with his step kids. Dh has never been invited for Christmas dinner at his dad's house.

[HollowTalk]

I would just say, "What are you talking about? You always have dinner with X, Y and Z and never invite us. We're having dinner on our own - hope to see you some time over the holidays."

[ChikiTIKI]

Tell him you will host exactly a year after he does :)

[BumbleBeee69]

No days are available.. Sorry

[timshelthechoice]

'We're not hosting Christmas dinner this year.'