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To just want the correct payment from "friend"

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hardyloveit Sat 12-Oct-19 19:53:42

So a group of friends are going to a show. I organised it and said I don't mind paying for the tickets (so we can be together) as long as payment was in my bank prior to booking.

Anyway there is 6 of us going and I said I'd swallow the booking fee etc so it came to £35 per ticket.

4 have paid and I booked the tickets (6) as the 5th (I'll call her Z) said she had paid.) Didn't have any reason not to doubt (yes i did check online banking and she said it could take up to 2 hours to go in)

Booked tickets and still no money from Z. I message her privately (we have a group Whatsapp) and said it's still not there. She said she will call the bank.

The next day I asked again and she said it didn't go through so she will put £30 in now. I said okay and it's £35!

Still no money by lunchtime. That evening she said she had been super busy and will do it in the am and said £33 and I corrected her agin at £35!

Next day she sends me a photo which was a note to her oh saying
(Oh name)

Please can you put £34.99 in Hardys account and then my bank details.

Still NOTHING! I've now wrote in the group chat if anyone knows of someone else that would like to come let me know ASAP

I know it's only 1p but how many times did I have to correct her in saying it's £35!

Ive swallowed the booking fee etc which was nearly £5 as we are having the tickets posted as some are coming from work.

She has now wrote back in the group that's it's unfair she can't go! Someone else (Y) asked why not and Z had the cheek to say I'd given her the wrong bank details so couldn't pay!

I replied saying no Z that's not true. I've given you a a week from when I said about payments before the ticket and you keep saying you will do it but not with the correct amount. Z has said I'm being unreasonable. The rest of the group haven't commented in the chat since but have privately messaged asking why Z is being a twat!

So aibu to try and find someone else or is Z

hardyloveit Sat 12-Oct-19 19:54:13

Sorry that's quite a long post!

OnlyFoolsnMothers Sat 12-Oct-19 19:56:01

So did you get any money from her?

SilentAlarm Sat 12-Oct-19 19:57:11

I’m confused. Has she transferred £34.99 (so 1p short) or still nothing at all?

SmellbowSmellbow123 Sat 12-Oct-19 19:57:49

Z isn’t part of a lunch club is she?!

TheZeppo Sat 12-Oct-19 19:57:56

Not remotely unreasonable. Perhaps she’ll learn something from this!

mineallmine Sat 12-Oct-19 19:58:47

Z is being a cheeky cow and you've handled it fairly.

ProseccoIsTheAnswerHere Sat 12-Oct-19 19:58:55

She’s taking the piss out you, she knew how much she had to pay and taking the penny off is sending you a clear message here

Fiveletters Sat 12-Oct-19 19:58:59

Bizarre behaviour. I wouldn’t stop her coming if she’s paid and is just 1p short. But if she’s still not sent anything then you are right to ask someone else to go.

Karwomannghia Sat 12-Oct-19 19:59:09

Good on you!

hardyloveit Sat 12-Oct-19 19:59:20

Nope still no money!! She has the correct details as the other month she put some money in my account for something and hers like mine saves them.

I think my sister is going to come with us now. Basically whoever bloody pays me first!!! And £35!

LolaSmiles Sat 12-Oct-19 19:59:43

She sounds flakey and unreliable but if I had £34.99 on its way thrn I'd suck up the penny for ease and make a mental note not to book for her again.

Either way, if she's not going now then find someone else.

BeesKnees4 Sat 12-Oct-19 20:00:35

Hopefully not!!

hardyloveit Sat 12-Oct-19 20:00:41

It's the bloody penny that's annoyed me as I had to correct her several times on how much it is!

stanski Sat 12-Oct-19 20:00:51

@SmellbowSmellbow123 haha I was wondering the same

Raphael34 Sat 12-Oct-19 20:01:35

Obviously she’s a cheeky twat. And the rest of the group agree with you. Just sell the tickets to your sister or another friend

hardyloveit Sat 12-Oct-19 20:01:57

@SmellbowSmellbow123 haha no I don't think she is in the lunch club haha! Although she can be dramatic but she definitely would have wrote in our group chat if someone had "made her cry"

insanemumof3 Sat 12-Oct-19 20:02:14

she doesnt want to pay and has no intention of paying. she wants you or the others to accept responsibility for the ticket as shes a victim now of your "unfairness". the CF!!

C0untDucku1a Sat 12-Oct-19 20:02:25

Yanbu. Delete her from the group.

Scarydinosaurs Sat 12-Oct-19 20:02:37

I take it she hasn’t paid at all? Definitely not your fault.

SmellbowSmellbow123 Sat 12-Oct-19 20:03:17

Can’t believe how these CF’s seem to think it’s ok to piss about with other people’s money!!

SunshineAngel Sat 12-Oct-19 20:03:34

People who offer to buy tickets or anything like that for large groups are GOOD people who do in GOOD faith. People who don't pay them back straightaway are ridiculous and rude, and should never be offered anything again.

tobedtoMNandfart Sat 12-Oct-19 20:03:59

YANBU. If everyone was a CF like her you'd be down £175!!

hardyloveit Sat 12-Oct-19 20:04:06

Omg she's just privately messaged me ranting about how unfair I'm being when I gave her the wrong details for my bank.
I've just replied saying no that note you wrote to your oh, the bank details were correct on there! I've told her either my sister or W's sister will come and I've told them both it's whoever pays first.

tobedtoMNandfart Sat 12-Oct-19 20:05:04


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