Or is my husband just as much to blame

[redcherry34]

Myself and my husband decided to go to Disneyland with our children for Christmas this year.
I did most of the research and I got a quote from an independent travel agent online that had nothing but great reviews.

I discussed it with my husband and he agreed it was a good price and gave me his credit card to pay the deposit. I had nothing but great communication from the company even when I wanted to add on more in June of this year or clarify something their response was almost immediate.

The final payment was due and I wanted to add on some character meals ect but I started seeing stuff on Facebook about the company that was negative. I made contact with the company twice and received no answers and then heard of how people weren't getting reference numbers and one family arrived to Disneyland to no booking.

I told my husband I wasn't happy to pay the balance as I felt uneasy about this so I started the proceedings for a chargeback and we rebooked again with Disney direct at a slightly more expensive cost. My husband isn't annoyed about this and was very calm when I told him whereas I was upset that we got scammed but he keeps making little digs at me now and when I called him out on it he was like but it is your fault you booked it.

Am I not right in thinking that since I discussed it with him before I booked it and he didn't ask to see the company's page or for any details on the company he's just as responsible? Thanks

[TORDEVAN]

I can see both sides, yes he could have checked who it was being booked with but at the same time he probably just trusted you'd researched them.

It is a bit childish for him to be making digs though, especially if he knows your upset.

Personally I wouldn't pay the blame game - just be thankful you sorted it out before you arrived to no booking!

[MarthasGinYard]

No ones to 'blame'

Non issue

It's been re booked

[RB68]

just remind him if he continues with digs he will be sorting the next one - he will soon shut up

[BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz]

No one is to blame here. The fact that he keeps making digs makes me think he is a very petty man. How is he generally?

[MsVestibule]

Well he sorts out the next holiday then, doesn't he?

My friend was ripped off by a 'friend' once and her H never shut up about it. It's incredible all of the things they could have bought with that £1000 🙄. It caused a lot of bad feeling so just tell him to STFU about it before that happens to you.

[maternityleave234]

Personally I’d never book through an “independent” travel agent, which is essentially a Facebook group. Even with good reviews, if it’s too good to be true - then it is!!

I’d put it down as a lesson learnt for both of you, and thank your lucky stars you paid by credit card unlike lots of people out there who paid by bank transfer!

[bunnypenny]

Why does one of you have to be “right”? This is a non story.

[Butchyrestingface]

It’s a non issue since you rebooked. All’s well that ends well, surely?

If there were blame to be attributed, I would say it lies more with you since he will have trusted you to do the research, etc. But as above, no blame needed and he should quit with the digs.

Is he usually snide?

[swingofthings]

Why blame? No one is to blame. You've done your research, so it's not like you could have foreseen what happened. This is the reason why anyone travelling should take insurance from the time they book, not the time they travel.

As a rule though, the person doing the research and booking is responsible, because they have taken on that responsibility. It's only in the professional word that managers are responsible for the errors of their staff.

But really, it's a bit sad that either of you should feel the need to designate blame in such a situation.

[ZeldaPrincessOfHyrule]

If anyone's to 'blame' it's the travel company you initially booked with. Sounds like you got out in time and nothing's been lost, you've done a great job. No one needs to apportion blame within the household, that's just going to make things feel sour when they don't need to. He shouldn't be making digs and you shouldn't be wanting to get him to take some 'blame' too.

[MajesticWhine]

He is being a twit. There is no problem you have rebooked. He is using it as a way of criticising / undermining you. Tell him you have booked the holiday and if he has any further complaints he is uninvited and can make himself other arrangements.

[Waxonwaxoff0]

It's Go West With Mickey, isn't it?

Nobody is to "blame", you've rebooked and not lost any money.

[AJPTaylor]

So he can arrange the next holiday. I hate this.

[maternityleave234]

@Waxonwaxoff0 I guessed it was too, but might be wrong!

[amiapropermum]

You aren't psychic. Nobody's fault. Just a thing that happened

[DirtyWindow]

No one's to blame except the crappy online travel agent.

[WhoKnewBeefStew]

He sounds like a. Idiot tbh. You did your research and you've taken appropriate steps. What on earth does he think you could have done differently?

I booked our holiday with Thomas cook, I was shitting myself that they'd go bust before we went (thankfully we went in August and all was ok). It can happen to anyone!

Tell him to pack it in and it's now his responsibility to book next years holiday if he thinks he's that high and mighty!

[Imnotbent]

No one is to blame and if he has to have a dig tell him to STFU and remind him that you have the saved the day by establishing it was a dodgy company before paying the deposit and getting your money back while he couldn’t be bothered to check it out for himself.

[MilkTwoSugarsThanks]

It depends which came first.

Is he making digs because you are trying to get him to take some of blame?

Or are you trying to get him to take some of the blame because he's making little digs?

Does he think your upset is out of proportion?

[billy1966]

Start handing over things for him to organise because of the digs.

Anything that he asks you to do, anything at all, reply with " no, you organise it, because if anything goes wrong, I'll have to listen to nasty digs from you".

He'll shut up very quickly if you reply like that to any little thing he asks.

Oh and he sounds like a right twat.
💐

[BirdOffTheWire]

Neither of you is to blame and you are extra-specially not to blame as you found out in time you might be going to be scammed and took immediate steps to remedy it, so all good, if a bit more expensive than you'd anticipated! Have a wonderful Christmas there!

[DoctorAllcome]

No one is really to blame other than the scammers. Luckily, you pulled your asses out of the fire in the nick of time.
Digs could just be a bit of teasing....he probably doesn’t realize it upsets you as he was very calm about the whole thing. In other words, it’s a much bigger deal to you than to him. I’d just tell him not to say any more digs because you already feel really bad about being almost scammed even though you know it wasn’t really your fault but the fake company.

[WhyBirdStop]

I think it is your fault, if he double checked everything you did he'd be controlling, he trusted you to make sure it was a legitimate deal. However there is no need for the digs, if they are digs and you're not being sensitive about it because you feel like you were fooled. For example if this was me or DH who'd booked the trip, and a friend was talking about going on holiday we might say 'oh OP/OPsDh knows a good travel agent', and have a laugh about it. It's been resolved hope you get the money back for the original booking.

[maternityleave234]

Also are the digs just banter?

[maternityleave234]

Posted too early, or is he being mean?