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jamoncrumpet Sat 21-Sep-19 18:20:07

Been at home all day with 5yo DS (who is autistic) and toddler with streaming cold. DH at work until very late tonight.

At the end of my rope with them and would v much like to shut them in the living room and stand in the hallway for a good cry.

Obvs I won't do that but how can I get through the next hour? It's been a very long week with very little input from DH and I am exhausted.

rabbitheadlights Sat 21-Sep-19 20:30:13

Fck all this nonsense if you want to shut them in the room and cry do it, I have and will again!!!

SierraHotelIndiaTangoHappens Sat 21-Sep-19 20:28:50

From one SN mother to another, you are a legend, and you can do this!

Gilead51 Sat 21-Sep-19 20:18:00

Have you tried separating them, or is there a way to do this? it may be that the crying of the toddler is making the autistic child more distressed. Try and make a safe and quiet place for him, with a picture book or toy, that you can discreetly supervise and then cuddle the little one to keep him quiet. Are they both boys? Sorry, I don't remember.

SunshineCake Sat 21-Sep-19 20:07:23

Greatshoes, I missed that. Older child doesn't need any then.

Greatshoes Sat 21-Sep-19 19:52:46

I assume the medicine was because of the streaming cold SunshineCake.

I hope they are both sleep now OP flowers

WinnerWinnerChickenDinner0 Sat 21-Sep-19 19:47:40

Don’t for a second think there aren’t 1000s of us mums that don’t close the door and have a cry

You are not alone flowers

AdoraBell Sat 21-Sep-19 19:34:52

Defo what CoatTails suggested.

Mamasaurus82 Sat 21-Sep-19 19:25:40

You can do this! If telly works, go with that. Do they like stories together? Sometimes reading to my toddler helps me calm down too, if it's the right book... but, yeah tv wins sometimes. Hope you get on ok xx

SunshineCake Sat 21-Sep-19 19:25:32

Drugging kids to make them sleep ?

WheelDecide Sat 21-Sep-19 19:18:38

I used to do sponsored silences they are teenagers now, should probably do sponsored talking

You will get through and it does get better. flowersbrewcake

autumnboys Sat 21-Sep-19 19:18:27

Hope he’s home OP! As others have suggested, TV, or maybe put the hot water on and a long bath. Then once they’re asleep, all the treats for you. flowers

MutedUser Sat 21-Sep-19 19:11:44

Give them a snack and put peppa pig on you got this

Wehttam Sat 21-Sep-19 19:10:53

OhTheRoses you win. OP take her advice and send her your address.

CorBlimeyGovenor Sat 21-Sep-19 19:02:21

Music!! Even if you just put headphones on and up the noise to drown them out! When my DS was a toddler, he had the most horrendous tantrums that went on and on. I used to put some really dramatic classical music on in the background as though I was watching some sort of horror film unfold. Always helped. I now have Alexa linked to Spotify. The moment I feel my heckles rise, I put either some chill out music on or some happy music and sing and dance my way through it.

OhTheRoses Sat 21-Sep-19 19:01:22

Oh you poor love.

Right - clean the crap.
Picnic supper on the floor with TV on.
Anything for an easy life even if it means sweets as well.
Give them both calpol and nurofen to help sleep
Sing songs until DH is home and then let him take over

I have no words but wish I could pop round and give you an hour off.

indianbackground Sat 21-Sep-19 18:57:16

Maybe a TV or tablet for the toddler or can they “help” with sorting out the older one (get wipes/pull funny faces to distract).


MittsMajuna Sat 21-Sep-19 18:55:41

I would start bedtime now if I were you flowers

PeoplesPoet Sat 21-Sep-19 18:55:07

Single parent and I shut them in with the TV and cry often. They don't even like the TV so it doesn't really work I have to bribe them to watch it!

I had mine in the bath for an hour this morning... they literally just played in the water, no screaming, no fighting... it was great grin

IntoTheHoods Sat 21-Sep-19 18:53:33

I don't think a deep breath is going to help matters

In fairness I wrote that BEFORE the crap...

Poor OP, hope you’re holding on OK. We’re with you in spirit!

JoxerGoesToStuttgart Sat 21-Sep-19 18:53:31

Can you take them out of the house? Even 20 minutes for them to run off some steam/tire themselves out? Then do bath and early bed. Even if you have to snuggle them up in front of the tv to get them to settle.

wobblywindows Sat 21-Sep-19 18:52:33

Bananas and custard ? Hot chocolate drink? Marmite on toast for you ? First two help initiate sleep, last one helps stress.

Doje Sat 21-Sep-19 18:49:35

Start bedtime routine early if you need to! DH can get up with then first thing.

imip Sat 21-Sep-19 18:45:32

Does TV/iPad help? Have been there - 4 dc, two with ASD all born within 5 years of each other.

I’m usually strict in screen time, but needs must. Whatever your forbidden food is also?

youarenotkiddingme Sat 21-Sep-19 18:42:40

Do you have a double buggy? A long walk and a take out coffee for you may help clear your head?

If you don't have a look at doubles that would work (many sn ones available and charities such as new life will help with funding).

You need to get out for fresh air and change of scenery for yourself because if you crash it'll make things worse.

<voice of bitter experience!>

DontFundHate Sat 21-Sep-19 18:41:39

Oh poor OP. We can all relate. Any treats in for the kids? And plan something nice for you once they're in bed, not long to go now

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