Neighbour bashing on window

[PumpkinP]

I live in a gf maisonette. I’ve lived here for 3 years and never had any trouble. I have a child with autism who has significant night time needs and gets hrc for this. A few months ago a man and woman moved in above.

The first I knew was him screaming out the window telling me about my daughter crying at night. He was very aggressive ranted about paying rent and not being council, whatever that had to do with anything. I just told him fair enough and went in. Nothing from him again but made a conscious effort to try to keep the noise down. Roll on to tonight my daughter is upstairs in bed but is struggling to settle, she’s chatting and I’m trying to get her to sleep. Bed time has always been difficult. I’m standing in her room and hear a bang on the window. I Was abit confused and thought I must be imagining it. Then again another bang, I look out to see the upstairs neighbour is bashing a broom against my window from his window above. Literally wtf, I was so shocked I’ve come down stairs with dd who is equally scared. I don’t know what to do? I’m honestly shaking. For context I think the man has some kind of anger issues as I regularly hear arguments between him and his partner.

[Ponoka7]

Personally I'd phone the police, it's threatening behaviour.

[allthegoodusernameshavegone]

Don’t engage with him and call the police

[LuluBellaBlue]

I’d second calling the police. That’s not acceptable behaviour

[AdoreTheBeach]

I would suggest you ring 101 and log this. Keep a record and ring every time he shouts at you or bangs on the window

[PumpkinP]

Thank you was thinking of calling the police but wasn’t sure if it was ott. I spoke to my sister who said I should call them in the morning but I don’t know why I should wait

[MrsBertBibby]

Yep. Police. Who manages the maisonettes? You should contact them and complain.

[dowehaveastalker]

Call the police if you think he’s going to be a threat to you. Any other family that can come round?

[HennyPennyHorror]

I third calling the police. LEt the bastard know you won't be bullied!

[SummerWhisper]

Dial 101 as this could constitute a hate incident. He is intimidating you due to your daughter's disability. Neither you nor your daughter should be made to feel unsafe. The police will talk to him and hopefully calm him down. Please don't be afraid to ring them. I hope you are both OK

[TinkerPony]

Police he sounds dangerous and report him to landlord/rental agency too.

[PickAChew]

D3finitely call the police. Spent many years in a terrace building up a relationship with nice neighbours, with 2 autistic kids. Still difficult though. Moved to a wide semi, recently, and put the noisy one on the outside. We're not exemplary neighbours, but without an infinetie budget, even in the NE that funds the space the kids need from each other, in a detached house, WTF can we do?

[virginpinkmartini]

Yep. Police, and contact his estate agent. Could be logged under antisocial behaviour and stop him from getting a good reference in future, which would be well deserved. Sad little individual.

[PumpkinP]

I’m council, I know his is private rented probably hence his rant about me being council. I’m still shaking

[PumpkinP]

No one that can come round unfortunately and I’m a lone parent which is part of the reason why I feel he thinks he can do this.

[Legoandloldolls]

Call the police now on 101. What if his broom smashes the window? Sounds like unhinged and entitled arsehole

[recklessruby]

Please call the police. He sounds unstable and threatening.
999 if he does anything more tonight.
I m a council tenant too. It doesn't mean private renters have more rights than you.

[BanKittenHeels]

I’m not usually one of the MN “phone 101 immediately” squad but this is certainly a time to do so.

I’m sorry you’re having to put up with this idiot.

[HeadintheiClouds]

Definitely police. Are you ok?

[Moondancer73]

Absolutely call the police. Behaving that way is not acceptable regardless of time of day and whether you are council or private tenant/owner. Hope you and your daughter are ok.

[AlmostAJillSandwich]

Honestly, how loud is your daughter? It doesn't excuse his agression but i honestly understand the frustration of how loud even an able mind and bodied child can be. Screaming/crying/tantrums gets annoying very quickly, especially when you're trying to relax or sleep. Noise can also travel worse in flats, he may well be at the end of his tether in a stressful job, and this is the only flat he could afford, OR he's dispairing at the fact he's got a shiny new contract of however long and the noise wasn't expected as he obviously wasn't viewing at night when there is the main issue.
After several months of really noisy screaming kids day in day out i've been tempted to scream back "shut up!" at my own neighbours but haven't actually, yet at least.

[scoobydoo1971]

Get the police involved. Also do some detective work to find out who owns the flat above. The Land Registry could help, or look for old adverts on the internet from when the flat was advertised for rent? You should try to contact the landlord. If he is that angry, he may cause damage to the property. He is an antisocial tenant anyway, and if the landlord thinks there is police involvement then s/he may not extend the tenancy. Please do stress that your child has a disability to the police and other agencies.

[SummerWhisper]

AlmostAJillSandwich what a horrible response to a mother and child in distress. Her daughter has autism. Show some compassion for the people who need it, not Basil Brush upstairs.

[PumpkinP]

I get that AlmostAJillSandwich but bashing a window with a broom is surely unacceptable? We were talking at the point as I was trying to get her back to bed. Tbf the flats are very poorly sound proofed as I can hear everything from them aswell (they obviously think I can’t!)

[cannotmakemymindup]

What would have happened if had banged the window to hard? It would have broken the glass all into a childs room, how anyone can think that is a suitable course of action, I don't know. I agree ring police, 101. That was very threatening behaviour unfortunately.

[WarshipWarrior]

Did you phone 101 OP? he sounds like such a twat.