Or is this the worst of both worlds?

[GrannyRoberts]

Husband phones at 5pm to say there are some drinks happening after work and to ask if I would mind if he went along. Of course I don't mind, that's completely fine. So I deal with swimming lessons, cook dinner for me and the two DCs, homework, bath, bed and so on. As I say - fine. Literally the minute I get back downstairs ready to kick back with a chocolate orange and a Netflix binge of my choosing, with no tea slurping, nose whistling, or general annoying commentary, I get a text telling me the fucker is 5 mins away.....AIBU or is this just not on? (Light-hearted, obviously..kind of..)

[Stayawayfromitsmouth]

Text him to stay out. 😁 Or banish him to another room. Yanbu

[Bouffalant]

Lock the door!

[Stickybeaksid]

My dh did that last night. Was supposed to be in the office but arrived home. I was about to watch some trash tv and consume a packet of biscuits I had hidden in the utility room. I need to get a tracker on him so I can see when he is looming

[MsVestibule]

Ooh, YADNBU. My DH used to this to me every week when he played golf after work, leaving me to put two toddlers to bed, then turning up at 8.30. What use is that to me?!

[wowfudge]

Put the chain/nightlatch on the door and pretend not to hear him trying to get in.

[millimollimandi]

My DH does this all the time (coming home from work) The second I sit down he waltzes in and looks at me as if I have been sat on my arse all day. ALSO he can spend hours having a s*t. (OK about 20 mins) Whilst I am waiting as we are going out. The SECOND I say 'are you going to be much longer?' he flushes the loo and comes out saying 'I had just finished. EVERY F**ING TIME

[SquirrelsInJune]

Draw purple spots on your face (best not to use a Sharpie) and tell him that you've all come down with a highly contagious disease. The doctor has advised that no one comes in for at least the next few hours...

[tinofbeans]

I recommend the friend finder app on iPhone. It's excellent for monitoring husbands, and can warn you when they leave the pub/work wherever :-)

[IDrinkAndISewThings]

Not unreasonable, this is maddening. I HATE getting all geared up for a nice night on my own only for DH to return early from wherever he said he'd be. Then he's offended I'm not delighted to see him! No mate, you've just gate crashed my own private party of Netflix, cross stitch and chocolate, now grab your pool cue and bugger off back to the pub, your presence here isn't required!

[GrannyRoberts]

Love the suggestions to lock the door! Sadly I wasn't quick enough and he got in. He's crashing round the kitchen now making a cup of something hot. I can't wait for him to bring it through so I can listen to him drinking it.

[LadyOfTheFlowers]

I make plans for an early night as he is busy gaming - fine, whatever.
I get a cuppa, snacks, get into bed. Get TV on. Get 5 mins in and I hear the lights go off and he's coming up to bed.... FFS!!

[LadyOfTheFlowers]

"Listen to him drinking it" 😂😂😂

[Vinorosso74]

YANBU! I hate it if DP shows up just as DD is going to bed or just after. Completely disrupts everything . Stay out until 10.30 or be home by 8!

[SpongeBobJudgeyPants]

LTB

[Stickybeaksid]

At least it’s only a hot drink. I had to listen to a bowl of cereal last night and an In depth story about Bob from accounts and his hernia/heart attack/lung transplant/ingrown toenail. Fuck off dh I am trying to watch Revenge Body and eat this biscuit in peace

[Hahaha88]

Urgh why do men suck so much? Tell him it's your time now. He needs to get on with some admin or housework (not near you) lol

[Millie2016]

“Listen to him drinking it” 😂
Your error OP was only just sitting down now. I got the kids in bed for 7 tonight despite their protests. DH is now on his way home and I’ve had feet up for 2 hours, eaten a tube of Pringles and a pack of chocolate buttons whilst watching Dinner Date x2.

[GrannyRoberts]

So glad it's not just me! I honestly don't think I could cope if he started on a bowl of cereal right now sticky!

Why don't they get it? The hurt puppy look when I don't rush ecstatically to greet him in this situation. And YES to the attempted early night...the sound of the downstairs lights clicking off just as I'm getting set up in bed with my book.....just fuck off back downstairs until I'm asleep will you?

[BeerMyHold]

The kids have been put to bed then the DH says "do y'mind if I go in the workshop?"

No not at all. Bugger off so I can relax in peace.

I often ask if he's going on a night out. "Its been a while darling, you deserve a night out"

[BearRabbitPants]

YANBU DH did this last night. Went to Fratton Park to watch the football. After dealing with tidying after dinner & putting kids to bed and other bits n bobs I finally settle down to watch bake off with a yummy slice of cake and cuppa... for the knob to text to say the game was crap so he's on his way home argh!

[Katex888]

I know exactly how you feel, I tell him if he’s going out then he’s not allowed back in until 11pm. He will send me a text asking if he can come back now... he gets I need evenings to myself without him pottering around the house.

[Parasol55]

YADNBU

[Tilltheendoftheline]

I would be devastated.

Total dick move on his part

[ClashCityRocker]

Dh has reached the point where a couple of pints means just that. Back in the day I could confidently predict his 'couple of pints' would stretch to midnight, at which point I would be nicely in bed having had a relaxing evening pottering and watching shite.

Now he's back by 9pm at the latest, just as the good stuff is starting! And he will have had enough to drink to be that happy, waffly type who talks absolute pointless rambling crap.

[zeezee3]

I know it's a cliche, but 'I HAVE FOUND MY PEOPLE!'

DH does my head in soooooo much at times (not always but sometimes...)

Luckily, we have separate bedrooms - and have had for 10 years or so, (I needed this as his snoring drove me batshit.) So when I go to bed I can spend some time on my laptop, and read my book, or watch something on netflix. But OMG, no matter what time I get up, he gets up within TEN MINUTES of me, EVERY DAY. (He also spends 25 to 40 minutes at a time in the bathroom some days, MUCH longer than me!)

He does night shifts every third week, and without FAIL, when I have a day off or decide to work from home, he gets up at midday, and just sits there all afternoon, in front of the TV, chatting shit, and following me about, and mithering me. When I am not there, he lies in til 4 or 5pm!

I get the chores done before midday, then settle in with a box set off netflix, and a cappucino and a bit of genoa cake, and at 12.20 pm, he gets up - after FOUR hours sleep. As I said, only when I am there though.. he stays in bed til 4 or 5pm when I'm not there.

Then when he gets up, he trails around the kitchen and dining room and lounge, like a lost lamb, then he sits next to me in the lounge and starts trying to talk to me when I am trying to watch my programme, and telling me shit I don't need or WANT to know about his shift at work last night!

Then by 3.30pm to 4pm, he starts dozing off in the chair, snoring and grunting (coz he has had only 4 hours sleep and is bloody tired,) but then suddenly wakes when I try to put something I want on TV. Thank GOD I have my own room so I can have some peace, and time to myself, and something I want on TV for a couple of hours (when I have gone to bed!)

He also gets mortally wounded, offended, and hurt when I want to be on my own for an hour or two, don't want to chat, want to go for a walk alone/out to the shops alone. He can't fathom why I don't want to spend every waking moment with him.

I am happy to spend SOME time with him, and do SOME stuff with him, but he can't fathom why I like to do stuff without him sometimes... And he struggles to sit in the lounge with me, without talking... constantly talking....... And he thinks I'm being 'funny' if I don't engage, and try to look at my laptop or book or magazine...

And as a few posters have said, it's very annoying when you sit down, all geared up for 2-3 hours on your own (to watch something on netflix, and drink a couple of glasses of wine,) and he comes in much earlier than planned, and ruins your plans...

WOW, that felt good!