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GrannyRoberts Wed 18-Sep-19 20:33:23

Husband phones at 5pm to say there are some drinks happening after work and to ask if I would mind if he went along. Of course I don't mind, that's completely fine. So I deal with swimming lessons, cook dinner for me and the two DCs, homework, bath, bed and so on. As I say - fine. Literally the minute I get back downstairs ready to kick back with a chocolate orange and a Netflix binge of my choosing, with no tea slurping, nose whistling, or general annoying commentary, I get a text telling me the fucker is 5 mins away.....AIBU or is this just not on? (Light-hearted, obviously..kind of..)

Stayawayfromitsmouth Wed 18-Sep-19 20:35:26

Text him to stay out. 😁 Or banish him to another room. Yanbu

Bouffalant Wed 18-Sep-19 20:36:33

Lock the door!

Stickybeaksid Wed 18-Sep-19 20:38:26

My dh did that last night. Was supposed to be in the office but arrived home. I was about to watch some trash tv and consume a packet of biscuits I had hidden in the utility room. I need to get a tracker on him so I can see when he is looming

MsVestibule Wed 18-Sep-19 20:38:46

Ooh, YADNBU. My DH used to this to me every week when he played golf after work, leaving me to put two toddlers to bed, then turning up at 8.30. What use is that to me?!

wowfudge Wed 18-Sep-19 20:39:05

Put the chain/nightlatch on the door and pretend not to hear him trying to get in.

millimollimandi Wed 18-Sep-19 20:40:35

My DH does this all the time (coming home from work) The second I sit down he waltzes in and looks at me as if I have been sat on my arse all day. ALSO he can spend hours having a s**t. (OK about 20 mins) Whilst I am waiting as we are going out. The SECOND I say 'are you going to be much longer?' he flushes the loo and comes out saying 'I had just finished. EVERY F***ING TIME

SquirrelsInJune Wed 18-Sep-19 20:42:55

Draw purple spots on your face (best not to use a Sharpie) and tell him that you've all come down with a highly contagious disease. The doctor has advised that no one comes in for at least the next few hours...

tinofbeans Wed 18-Sep-19 20:44:07

I recommend the friend finder app on iPhone. It's excellent for monitoring husbands, and can warn you when they leave the pub/work wherever :-)

IDrinkAndISewThings Wed 18-Sep-19 20:44:23

Not unreasonable, this is maddening. I HATE getting all geared up for a nice night on my own only for DH to return early from wherever he said he'd be. Then he's offended I'm not delighted to see him! No mate, you've just gate crashed my own private party of Netflix, cross stitch and chocolate, now grab your pool cue and bugger off back to the pub, your presence here isn't required!

GrannyRoberts Wed 18-Sep-19 20:44:55

Love the suggestions to lock the door! Sadly I wasn't quick enough and he got in. He's crashing round the kitchen now making a cup of something hot. I can't wait for him to bring it through so I can listen to him drinking it.

LadyOfTheFlowers Wed 18-Sep-19 20:45:21

I make plans for an early night as he is busy gaming - fine, whatever.
I get a cuppa, snacks, get into bed. Get TV on. Get 5 mins in and I hear the lights go off and he's coming up to bed.... FFS!!

LadyOfTheFlowers Wed 18-Sep-19 20:46:03

"Listen to him drinking it" 😂😂😂

Vinorosso74 Wed 18-Sep-19 20:48:12

YANBU! I hate it if DP shows up just as DD is going to bed or just after. Completely disrupts everything angry. Stay out until 10.30 or be home by 8!

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Wed 18-Sep-19 20:48:12

LTB grin

Stickybeaksid Wed 18-Sep-19 20:52:49

At least it’s only a hot drink. I had to listen to a bowl of cereal last night and an In depth story about Bob from accounts and his hernia/heart attack/lung transplant/ingrown toenail. Fuck off dh I am trying to watch Revenge Body and eat this biscuit in peace

Hahaha88 Wed 18-Sep-19 20:55:31

Urgh why do men suck so much? Tell him it's your time now. He needs to get on with some admin or housework (not near you) lol

Millie2016 Wed 18-Sep-19 21:04:37

“Listen to him drinking it” 😂
Your error OP was only just sitting down now. I got the kids in bed for 7 tonight despite their protests. DH is now on his way home and I’ve had feet up for 2 hours, eaten a tube of Pringles and a pack of chocolate buttons whilst watching Dinner Date x2.

GrannyRoberts Wed 18-Sep-19 21:05:58

So glad it's not just me! I honestly don't think I could cope if he started on a bowl of cereal right now sticky!

Why don't they get it? The hurt puppy look when I don't rush ecstatically to greet him in this situation. And YES to the attempted early night...the sound of the downstairs lights clicking off just as I'm getting set up in bed with my book.....just fuck off back downstairs until I'm asleep will you?

BeerMyHold Wed 18-Sep-19 21:11:19

The kids have been put to bed then the DH says "do y'mind if I go in the workshop?"

No not at all. Bugger off so I can relax in peace.

I often ask if he's going on a night out. "Its been a while darling, you deserve a night out"

BearRabbitPants Wed 18-Sep-19 21:18:09

YANBU DH did this last night. Went to Fratton Park to watch the football. After dealing with tidying after dinner & putting kids to bed and other bits n bobs I finally settle down to watch bake off with a yummy slice of cake and cuppa... for the knob to text to say the game was crap so he's on his way home angry argh!

Katex888 Wed 18-Sep-19 21:19:56

I know exactly how you feel, I tell him if he’s going out then he’s not allowed back in until 11pm. He will send me a text asking if he can come back now... he gets I need evenings to myself without him pottering around the house.

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Tilltheendoftheline Wed 18-Sep-19 21:26:49

I would be devastated.

Total dick move on his part grin

ClashCityRocker Wed 18-Sep-19 21:35:30

Dh has reached the point where a couple of pints means just that. Back in the day I could confidently predict his 'couple of pints' would stretch to midnight, at which point I would be nicely in bed having had a relaxing evening pottering and watching shite.

Now he's back by 9pm at the latest, just as the good stuff is starting! And he will have had enough to drink to be that happy, waffly type who talks absolute pointless rambling crap.

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