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To think my family are extremely thick and full of bullshit?!

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Bfne Tue 17-Sep-19 23:06:00

(Extended family).

A few retailers have released some of their Christmas collections online recently and I screenshot it and added it to my Facebook story with a caption of "Inject it into my veins 😍"

I posted that at around 8.30 last night. This morning I got a text from my Nan saying can she call, she's worried.

According to her sister, I had posted on an anonymous help forum about drug addiction and that I was feeling the urge to 'inject into my veins' shockconfused

She then went on to say that I wouldn't know she'd seen it since I thought it was a private Facebook group but actually it was public.

All a load of bollocks. Firstly I have a very mundane existence. Not ever taken so much as a puff from a cigarette. Secondly, similar has happened throughout my life since having FB from 5 years ago but nothing to this scale, at all.

For example, my Nan's sister knew I was pregnant before I told anyone. She guessed because she said to my Nan she'd noticed a distinctive increase in 'baby themed' shares on Facebook. She was actually right, I was pregnant! She told my Nan and Mum she was sure I was pregnant. I wasn't saying yet due to a lot of loss previously.

Anyway, this evening I deleted her from my FB.
I saw 15 minutes later a status post from one of her daughters saying "If you need help there's no point in hiding! Sort yourself out love and come clean! My mum ain't done anything but try to help"

I don't know what to do. I feel so extremely angry but also quite amused that it's gone this far. It's all so strange and ridiculous.

AIBU to say their bloody bonkers and liars after some drama?

How do I go from here? sad This aunt of mine
Has a big presence within that side of the family and can stir up some proper shit if she feels like it. Luckily enough they live in East London and I'm away. Still south east but not near there.

I'm a boring mum of 1 with a good job, husband and peaceful life. I've never, ever, taken drugs in my life ffs. Now this?!

I feel like I've been tarnished. My Nan is furious with her sister and is screaming she has no right. My Nan is a very big presence also with a lot of 'respect' and genuinely adored by everyone for her selflessness and warmth, and
ability to stay out of drama

Wildorchidz Tue 17-Sep-19 23:10:01

Life is very calm without FB.
Maybe try it for a while and see how you get on.
I quite like knitting 🧶

Fookinwot Tue 17-Sep-19 23:10:55

Ignore it all and carry on with your life. Don’t give it oxygen.

P1nkHeartLovesCake Tue 17-Sep-19 23:15:23

“Inject into my veins”

Tacky
🤮
😂

If you post stupid....

HillRunner Tue 17-Sep-19 23:15:24

If you don't want anyone guessing that you might be pregnant, then it might be a good idea not to share baby related stuff? Just a thought.

And 'inject it into my veins' is a slightly odd and over dramatic thing to post. Yes, they overreacted, but still.....

Have you tried not posting as much on social media? It might do you all good.

SweatyUnderboob Tue 17-Sep-19 23:20:31

Much Ado About Nothing. A social media detox and some fresh air should sort you out...

Barbel Tue 17-Sep-19 23:23:48

When FB causes so much hassle in real life, it's a sure sign you need to step away from Social media

RaininSummer Tue 17-Sep-19 23:24:32

This is all very strange.

Wavyheaded Tue 17-Sep-19 23:25:09

Just tell 'em you were talking about shopping, and, that um it was a joke.

LiveRightNow Tue 17-Sep-19 23:30:22

"haha Nan I can't believe 'aunt' thought I was on drugs - it was about Christmas shopping!!" I'm thinking you might be feeding into this drama a bit... hmm

magicstar1 Tue 17-Sep-19 23:33:28

Restrict them so you can control what they see

steppemum Tue 17-Sep-19 23:35:32

Just post - Oh how funny, I made a joke about Christmas shopping and the family think I'm on drugs!
So funny, ha ha.

Takes the wind out of their sails, and then go silent for a while

WhatTiggersDoBest Tue 17-Sep-19 23:39:58

You posted something about a band you loved, your nan's sister took it totally the wrong way and conflated it for drama, and somehow people on MN think it's your fault???!

I'd block the shit out of her and anyone stupid enough to believe her. A woman I worked with did this to me once. I said "I'm just going to pinch Dave's pen to fill in this form" (using "pinch" instead of "borrow" which is a common replacement where I'm from) I put the pen back on Dave's desk in front of this woman and for some reason she told everyone I was stealing things, and the next thing I knew I was surrounded by the stupidest conversations I'd ever heard. There's no reasoning with people like that.

dollydaydream114 Tue 17-Sep-19 23:45:33

And 'inject it into my veins' is a slightly odd and over dramatic thing to post

Oh for God's sake, it's supposed to be a humorous exaggeration. When someone says 'I nearly died of embarrassment!' do you genuinely believe they mean that they were seconds from their deathbed? Hyperbole is a standard linguistic device.

OP, you did absolutely nothing wrong and your relatives are thicker than cheese. I'd block the lot of them!

BertrandRussell Tue 17-Sep-19 23:49:44

Obviously they are bonkers.

But it’s a very odd and tasteless comment to make about shopping!

bigfatmoggy Tue 17-Sep-19 23:58:43

@whattiggersdobest you made me laugh, reminded me when I was shopping with my daughter for silly presents for DH, and she picked up a bucket from a display outside the local hardware store. We took it back in to pay and she said to the shopkeeper 'Daddy's always stealing these so we thought we'd get him one of his own.....'! The man's face was a picture for a few seconds, until she (luckily) continued with '......he takes them from Mummy's greenhouse and she gets cross'! Phew!!! grin.

OP I do agree with others that a) the comment about injecting into your veins is a bit weird - is it commonplace where you live? I have never heard it so maybe it's not totally surprising your elderly family members got the wrong end of the stick? and b) they are all totally overinvested in your life; if that's how they all work then yes, it might be an idea to give social media a miss for a while......

Rachelle11 Wed 18-Sep-19 00:09:39

Why wouldn't you just explain it was a shopping joke and move on with life? Why did you delete her? Talk about drama.

goodwinter Wed 18-Sep-19 00:12:54

the comment about injecting into your veins is a bit weird - is it commonplace where you live?

Might be more of a generational thing than a geographical one - I'm 26 and that kind of hyperbole is totally normal with people I know. I wouldn't have thought twice about it. OP are you around my age?

goodwinter Wed 18-Sep-19 00:14:22

^^ just want to clarify, obviously people of any age can use/understand hyperbole.. but as someone who grew up with/on the internet (think Tumblr etc), that kind of language is everywhere when speaking informally to friends.

CendrillonSings Wed 18-Sep-19 00:20:28

Perhaps send her an early Christmas present? A copy of “Metaphors For Dummies” would be perfect!

Savingforarainyday Wed 18-Sep-19 00:34:34

These are quite old people?

They over reacted, but you delete ?
Gosh

minesagin37 Wed 18-Sep-19 00:40:39

This reminds me of a situation with DHs side of the family. He has 2 sisters. One of his nephews posted something and ( because they are quite sad with nothing else to fill their day) they jumped on the comment, messaged round the family and came to all sorts of conclusions. Consequently he went NC with his aunts.

Bfne Wed 18-Sep-19 08:38:14

If you don't want anyone guessing that you might be pregnant, then it might be a good idea not to share baby related stuff? Just a thought

It was specifically about pregnancy. Just random videos of children getting up to stuff that's funny or babies saying their first word on video etc. Lots of people without kids/with a completely family post similar

And 'inject it into my veins' is a slightly odd and over dramatic thing to post. Yes, they overreacted, but still.....

Really? They just overreacted? Didn't lie or twist the truth completely? confused

Why wouldn't you just explain it was a shopping joke and move on with life? Why did you delete her? Talk about drama.

Because there was no explaining needed. It was very clear I didn't post on a drug support page, that was completely made up by her! It didn't need explaining, she knew

Bfne Wed 18-Sep-19 08:39:42

They over reacted, but you delete ?
Gosh

Overreacting would be getting cross and angry about the phrase I used.

She didn't do that, she made up a complete story that doesn't exist!

Bfne Wed 18-Sep-19 08:40:42

Might be more of a generational thing than a geographical one - I'm 26 and that kind of hyperbole is totally normal with people I know. I wouldn't have thought twice about it. OP are you around my age?

Yes I think it might be an age thing. Totally normal with my age group (18-30), I'd say.

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