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AIBU or is she a CF

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Goodlookingcreature Sun 15-Sep-19 10:45:38

Sunday morning, on the way to catch the train to work. Stop off at the local shop to find the deli absolutely jammed, so I take my place in the que, hoping I’d get served before I would have to dash for the train.
Just as I was 3rd from the top, this CF came in and asked the guys in front of me if she could go ahead because she had a baby in the car. They let her, i was annoyed because I was also in a hurry and if I missed my train I would be an hour and a half late for work. But I shut up and said nothing. She got her potato wedges and went to the till to pay for them. I was another few mins at the deli, and when I joined the que for the till, it was also long. As I was second from the till, the same CF steps in front with a bottle of water (so obviously paid for wedges) and says to the man in front of me “excuse me could I just step in front I have a baby in the car?” And I said no I’m sorry, I have a train to catch, we’re all in a hurry.

She looked appalled and very taken aback, clearly not used to hearing that. The man in front let her step in front of him and she turned around and told me I was very rude. I said no, I’m not. You skipping two ques is rude. You did the same at the deli. Join the back of the que like everyone else. I have a train to catch, we all have places to be. She turned around and kept telling me I was disgraceful, and rude. The cashier kept saying “it’s done now it’s over now stop it now” and the man who let her first then let me first and told me I had a point.

Is expelling a child a reason to inconvenience everyone else?

TheCanterburyWhales Sun 15-Sep-19 10:48:16

Expelling a child? Eh?
Did you miss your train?
I let people who need to go in front of me if I can.
Yeah, she's cheeky, and wrong for leaving a kid in a car, but it's no biggie.

CurlyTwirlyTwos Sun 15-Sep-19 10:50:52

I wish I could be more like you OP!

I would've stayed quiet and stewed...!

MediocreOmens Sun 15-Sep-19 10:51:20

No, she was a beyond rude CF and I would have told her to go get her child from the car, especially if the weather was hot where you were yesterday.

Flowerbunty Sun 15-Sep-19 10:51:39

Queue jumping is one of my pet hates.
She chose to leave her child in the car, for all she knew, other people may have done the same and also been in a hurry because of that?
But you're right, everyone has somewhere to be and my motto is, if you dont have time to queue, then dont go to the shop.

I used to be a cashier and would get really annoyed when people would tap their foot and sigh from the queue. They'd then get to me and tell me how they HAVE to be somewhere by x time, as though I have somehow inconvenienced them when they chose to come to the shop knowing they are short of time.

alwaysthinkingofsleep Sun 15-Sep-19 10:55:53

She was totally rude, you were right to pull her up after she did it twice & good on the guy for also acknowledging you had a point.

IMHO the only time it's okay to queue jump (or ask to) is when you have a child desperate for the loo!

Drogosnextwife Sun 15-Sep-19 10:57:01

It is a biggie, and she is an entitled cheeky fucker.

Goodlookingcreature Sun 15-Sep-19 10:58:07

God anyone bursting for the loo, 100% go ahead if I don’t need to as badly but to do it twice for two transactions in the same shop, and then tell me I’m the rude one?

SillyBillyBandy Sun 15-Sep-19 11:03:59

A man just walked in front of me at the front of the queue. I said 'excuse me excuse me EXCUSE ME' nothing

So I poked him in the shoulder blushand said YOUVE JUST PUSHED IN

he just sighed and walked to the back. Cheeky shit.

So no you weren't being rude.

Bluebelldaisy Sun 15-Sep-19 11:06:33

No she should have brought the baby in with her. That’s what you have to do as a parent. She sounds like a seasoned CF who does this a lot. Wondering if she did actually have a baby left in the car as I don’t know any parent who would do this though I am sure there are. Why would you leave a baby in a car out of sight. Can understand a quick nip to pay at a petrol station were you can still see the car but this- no

Windydaysuponus Sun 15-Sep-19 11:06:47

She was a stupid dm for leaving a dc in the car.
You deserve a starfor telling her no..

Witchinaditch Sun 15-Sep-19 11:13:30

I would have said you know it’s illegal to leave a child in the car- maybe she’s is the disgraceful one!

Mummyoflittledragon Sun 15-Sep-19 11:13:31

Who leaves a baby in a car out of sight?

Disfordarkchocolate Sun 15-Sep-19 11:17:43

Very cheeky, why on earth is she leaving a baby in the car!

TheAlternativeTentacle Sun 15-Sep-19 11:21:41

I was at a gig a few years back. i'd waited an hour to get close to the front.

this fucking monster of a man pushed in front of me and all the others and then just stopped right in front of me.

I poked, poked, poked him in the back until he turned around and said 'we've all been waiting here for an hour and you just push in and stand in front of everyone so nobody can see. You are huge, go stand at the side'. i was furious.

All the people around me shuffled, and then one said 'it isn't fair mate, you are blocking everyone - go stand at the side' and he did. I got fist bumps and nods from all the other people around me.

Sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself. It still makes me rage thinking about it.

Tonnerre Sun 15-Sep-19 11:24:27

Having a train to catch trumps having a child in the car. After all, you have no choice when your train will leave, she had a choice about leaving the child in the car. If she'd asked me, I'd be tempted to say "Well, go and get your child out of the car, then".

LenoVintura Sun 15-Sep-19 11:27:30

What makes you think there was actually a baby?

Longlongsummer Sun 15-Sep-19 11:29:34

I think it’s risky leaving a baby in your car. And then broadcasting it to everyone as if it’s fine!

I don’t like her. I think she sounds entitled and lax.

ellzebellze Sun 15-Sep-19 11:31:14

"I have a baby in the car" Phooey, did she heck as like. Probably heard somebody else say it once, and now she uses it as a handy excuse for queue-jumping.

Actionhasmagic Sun 15-Sep-19 11:32:49

Yanbu she suuuuucks

Shinyletsbebadguys Sun 15-Sep-19 11:33:26

I hate this , I have DC and I dont believe it gives me a God given right for the world to revolve around me.

Women like this piss me off because it just feeds into the rhetoric that all mothers are entitled snowflakes, I'm amazed anyone thinks she was reasonable.

Like others , if someone needs the loo or has a reason , by all means go ahead, but thinking having a baby means you get the world to run around after you is a crappy move.

Many a time I've thought it would be easier to be able to pop in to a shop and not drag two DC with me ... but I dont because I'm not an asshole (mostly )

Yadnbu OP good for you for calling her out on it

HighNetGirth Sun 15-Sep-19 11:34:06

Was just going to post what ellzebellze has posted!

Longlongsummer Sun 15-Sep-19 11:36:55

I have an SN child who can’t bear waiting, it’s excruciating and very stressful. I still don’t ask to go in front!

ShutupWesley Sun 15-Sep-19 11:37:12

Cheeky bitch shouldn't have left her baby in the car 🙄

Vulpine Sun 15-Sep-19 11:37:34

Why did she need potato wedges so urgently

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