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To think people should not comment on how quickly I walk into work.

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minesagin37 Thu 12-Sep-19 02:30:11

In the space of two weeks I have had two people who work in the same building as me but whom I don't know comment that I walk into the building slowly. This has never happened to me in my life and I think it's nobody's business how quickly I walk into work. The first was a man who commented that ' I should be bounding into work'. The second commented that she thought 'I was going to stop and did I need a push'. I commented back that I had pulled a hamstring which I have.

Stephminx Thu 12-Sep-19 02:39:16

I couldn't be bothered getting upset over this...

Stephminx Thu 12-Sep-19 02:40:39

Although I suppose if someone had a hidden disability it might be offensive... but I think people are just making conversation first thing on a morning without brains fully in gear. I doubt there is an intention to be offensive.

Jozen Thu 12-Sep-19 02:41:34

I'd say "oh, they don't call me Speedy Gonzales for nothing, you know".
And then carry on walking at a pace comfortable for you.

StoppinBy Thu 12-Sep-19 03:12:53

You are being a bit sensitive. They are likely just making conversation and haven't actually given what they said another thought. Come up with a funny quip and give it right back then you can start the day with a laugh instead of a grump.

cheesemumma Thu 12-Sep-19 03:14:49

Jeez Louise if only I had your problems keeping me awake at night. Forget about it and be quick about it

minesagin37 Thu 12-Sep-19 03:20:40

Sorry should have written- lighthearted post.
Obviously didn't read the small print about subjects that should be discussed!
However I was just thinking what about people with disabilities- do people comment to them that they are walking too slowly?

Runkle Thu 12-Sep-19 03:23:12

Just say ahh I hadn't noticed, morning, how are you? Then carry on with your day.

Runkle Thu 12-Sep-19 03:27:31

Err I don't think you can start wondering if they're disabilist from this, they were just trying to be funny.

ShippingNews Thu 12-Sep-19 04:15:43

I've always been a slow walker, no disabilities, I just have a slow gait. I always get where I want to go in good time, and I am punctual always, so I don't see any problem. I have occasionally had comments about it but I just jokingly say something like "just call me Speedy" or whatever.

TimeForNewStart Thu 12-Sep-19 04:31:45

But you don’t have a disability though, do you? You are walking unusually slowly because you have injured your hamstring, and people have noticed and commented. They are just people being humans.

Mummyoflittledragon Thu 12-Sep-19 05:01:24

I am disabled and some of the time can walk at a normal pace but often not. No one has ever commented beyond asking if I need assistance. More often I am ignored. I know that is not the same for everyone.

passionfruit11 Thu 12-Sep-19 05:06:57

Is this a wind up hmm

BeepBeeeep Thu 12-Sep-19 05:14:07

You should have said yes I know, I will meet myself going backwards before long.

feathermucker Thu 12-Sep-19 05:25:45

Total non-issue.

Teacher22 Thu 12-Sep-19 05:45:55

‘ I am usually a bit quicker but I have pulled my hamstring.’

MrsTishellsNeckBrace Thu 12-Sep-19 05:50:47

I find a cheery fuck off/you a la The Big Yin to be the cure all to all these types of folky interactions. My sister who looks like a “Lady” always treats them to a jaunty “ Up yer bum” and my daughter who looks like a butter wouldn’t melt catches the same people later in the day and whispers “pishflaps” in their hearing only < very Sean Connery delivery > and leaves them mulling over if their hearing is failing them. Find YOUR phrase and deliver it liberally.

bwydda Thu 12-Sep-19 06:12:35

I don't think yabu. I once had surgery which left me with a bit of a stoop and painfully slow walking for a while after. I worked for a large call centre and couldn't risk taking sick. After three weeks waddling around and getting on with it one of my colleagues bounded up to me "you're so slow! Aren't you embarrassed with us all walking past you? What's wrong with you anyway?"
It's easy to say ignore the dicks in life, but that really humiliated me and hurt me for a long time. It's a horrible feeling realising that you are being watched and judged - so much so that people are talking about it.

8by8 Thu 12-Sep-19 06:34:22

I walk slowly and have had comments - I just smile and ignore, life’s too short to get wound up about things like this. As it happens I do have invisible disabilities so I suppose I could get offended and “call them out” but good grief they’re just making conversation.

domton Thu 12-Sep-19 07:17:05

I have an invisible disability (as per the favored phrase right now) and when I am flaring, people commenting on how slowly I walk would be the least of my worries, I'd be focussing on managing the pain that said walking causes, and wouldn't give a stuff what people thought.

Different for everyone though, but I'd be proud that I was walking at all, and when hurting, this would be the ladt thing I'd be worried about.

WeeDangerousSpike Thu 12-Sep-19 07:26:07

I think they probably commented because you were moving unusually slowly for you

So if you always moved that slow they probably wouldn't have commented because it would be normal for you.

I have a hidden disability which comes and goes. Recently I've been unable to walk up a flight of stairs in one go - I wouldn't be at all upset if someone who saw me walking normally commented on my sudden change of ability, I'd just think they were concerned I'd hurt myself. Which you had.

badgermushrooms Thu 12-Sep-19 07:29:51

Some very weird comments here. Your colleagues are commenting on your body. It's weird! Would they be doing it if you were a man and senior to them? No. If they're struggling for conversation there's always the weather.

happycamper11 Thu 12-Sep-19 07:29:52

'Ugh I know, hamstring injury... pain in the backside - literally'

GertrudeCB Thu 12-Sep-19 07:32:00

In answer to the op, I have a condition that affects my mobiliy at times, sometimes quite severely, and yes, knobheads do comment.

RedskyLastNight Thu 12-Sep-19 07:41:24

People are just making conversation. I had a complete stranger once stop me and tell me I was holding my umbrella the wrong way. I just nodded, smiled and moved on.

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