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To not want to go to MIL's today & stay at home and be fed up and eat choc ?

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puffylovett Thu 09-Aug-07 13:35:07

when DP and I are having a tough time, DS is having an extended '4 mths into 5 mths' growth spurt and I'm knackered..

I normally take him every week to see them, as DP doesn't usually have the time to go every weekend. Feel guilty cos he is only grandchild. BUT just don't have the mental energy or enthusiasm to listen to MIL telling me my baby is fat and /or shouldn't be waking at night and/or telling me to start him on solids because that will make him sleep and/or FIL moanin about his mother.... especially as DP and i are struggling at the mo and i would feel a hypocrite !

Come on ladies either tell me i'm a miserable arse who should be thankful 4 wot I've got, or vindicate me please !!!

LucyJones Thu 09-Aug-07 13:36:17

Why doesn't dp have time to take him at weekends?
Why do you have to go on your own in the week?
Can't they come to you at the weekend when dp is there?h

LazyLineLegilimens Thu 09-Aug-07 13:38:43

It would be perfectly reasonable of you to call your MIL and say "I've had a rough week and would like to just relax this weekend, can we leave it this time?"....

No need to make an issue out of it.

maisemor Thu 09-Aug-07 13:40:12

Stay at home, eat chocolates.

They are not your responsibility. If they are anybody's responsibility it is your husband's.

You are not ungrateful, miserable, or vindictive.

If your husband "has the time" this weekend he can take your son and you will be able to eat even more chocolate .

puffylovett Thu 09-Aug-07 13:40:52

dp is currently working some weekends to try and bank some cash... they can't come here very easily as they look after v old FIL's mother who is sick and can't be left on own. U see am VVV nasty horrid person. They only saw him 4 1 hour last week.

Whiiinge moan {blush}

puffylovett Thu 09-Aug-07 13:41:22

LOL at eating more choc !!!

throckenholt Thu 09-Aug-07 13:42:42

just tell them you are feeling very tired and don't want to drive. And that you will see them next week.

alicet Thu 09-Aug-07 13:55:56

I don't think you are being unreasonable. Just tell them you are having a tough week and are tired. Make sure you make an effort to go when you're feeling better (or dh could go with ds when he's not working)

Then criticising the way you are parenting is a whole other thread but for what its worth I think it might be worth you telling them (in as non-confrontational way as you can while still making sure they get your point) that this is the way you are choosing to do things with your son - you're not saying their way is wrong but he's your son and this is what you have chosen and don't want to be criticised for it!

puffylovett Thu 09-Aug-07 14:02:50

i don't think she's asctively critiscising me - she just says things without thinking. bit bats really. I wonder if i'm being overly sensitive as am v tired and lets face it no-one likes any form of perceived critisiscm about their parenting skills !

thanks 4 support ladies, feel but better now

off to buy a king size galazy and sit in the sun with pooch and ds

KITTENSOCKS Thu 09-Aug-07 17:21:13

They are lucky to see their grandchild every week, lots don't. Tell them you don't feel that it's safe for you to drive as you are so tired. Say that they would never forgive themselves if you had an accident because of this with baby in the car. Make an excuse if there seems to be a lecture coming, something burning on the cooker etc. And look forward to things improving on the knackered front.

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