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Bought my friend a cheap baby shower gift ...aibu ?

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sallyhoooo Wed 11-Sep-19 12:54:12

So it was my friends baby shower and I bought her some vests and bibs and a outfit (reduced for £15.99 to £5.99 in the sale )
She didn't know boy or girl so I wanted to wait till after the baby was born to buy nice outfits.
Anyway she said she didn't like what I bought and did I have the receipt so she could exchange.
I unfortunately didn't but she told me she took them back and the exchanged anyway
Now I feel so guilty that she knows I spent only £5.99
Aibu to feel crap here?
I've just spent another £30 on some more outfits now.

ScreamingValenta Wed 11-Sep-19 12:59:29

Why on earth do you feel crap? You bought her an appropriate gift - the cost is irrelevant. You weren't obliged to buy her anything at all. It wasn't particularly polite of her to tell you she was exchanging the gift, either - she should just have done this quietly, if she really, really couldn't bring herself to use what you had bought.

ChaosisntapitChaosisaladder19 Wed 11-Sep-19 13:01:11

Tbh she was rather rude say she didnt like the item in the first why have you spent 30 quid on her !

DobbyLovesSocks Wed 11-Sep-19 13:03:26

Hold on - she didn't like a gift you got her for her baby? How entitled and grabby!! If she really didn't like them she could have re-gifted or donated them to charity. How is she to know that 5.99 was all you had in your purse and you chose to spend it on her?

What if she doesn't like the outfits you have just bought? Don't waste any more money on this 'friend'!

LolaSmiles Wed 11-Sep-19 13:04:56

She was rude.The gift was appropriate for the occasion.

Maybe if she's got such exacting tastes then she needs to buy her own things instead of holding "give me presents" events where she's going to be ungrateful anyway

I wouldn't spend another£30. Take them back. It's not the job of friends to kit baby out in whatever styles and outfits mum/dad deem fashionable or cute enough.

Clangus00 Wed 11-Sep-19 13:05:28

How stuck up is she!? Ungrateful cow.
I got a couple of outfits for DD as gifts that I didn’t like, so she never wore them...end of.
She’s being silly re the vests and bibs.

sallyhoooo Wed 11-Sep-19 13:05:27

I've kept the receipts this time.
I think the outfit was lovely but I guess we all have different tastes

TheQueens Wed 11-Sep-19 13:06:23

What could be so offensive about some baby vests etc? Some people are so bloody rude! Please don't spend anymore money on her, you spent what you could afford and she should be grateful.

BarrenFieldofFucks Wed 11-Sep-19 13:06:50

Besides, for all she knows you bought them for more but they would only exchange for the current, sale price, as she didn't have the receipt. More fool her.

meditrina Wed 11-Sep-19 13:07:16

'Shower-type gift' is shorthand for inexpensive and useful.

I don't think you did anything wrong, and the amount you originally spent was fine.

If anyone was rude, it was your friend, for making you uncomfortable about something g you were generous enough to give her.

Angeldust747 Wed 11-Sep-19 13:08:11

How is she to know you didn't buy it full price? Either way don't worry about it - it doesn't matter how much you paid, you put some thought and time in and got a present, that's plenty x

onceandneveragain Wed 11-Sep-19 13:11:00

but she doesn't know what price they were when you bought them? Presumably without a receipt they refunded her the price they are now (could be less than £5.99 if they've been reduced again), but there is no way for her to know that you didn't buy them when they were full price and that they were reduced after.

I think if she's rude enough to tell you she doesn't like what you brought her then your perceived rudeness of 'only' spending £5.99 is nothing compared to that! Most people would just smile and nod and just use those clothes for at-home days if they weren't fussed - they are going to get covered in sick and food anyway!

Spending £30 more on baby stuff is a bit mad tbh.

AnneLovesGilbert Wed 11-Sep-19 13:13:45

Cheeky cow. Sounds like a perfectly lovely and useful gift. I didn’t have a shower but was given some things I didn’t love when DD was born. I smiled and said a warm genuine thank you because they were kind and generous to get us anything!

You’ve done nothing wrong. Don’t give it a second thought. She’s a badly mannered princess.

Soon2BeMumof3 Wed 11-Sep-19 13:13:47

She's incredibly rude to tell you she doesn't like them and ask for the receipt.shock

Don't worry about your behaviour at all. I wouldn't be buying her an additional gift either.

HeadintheiClouds Wed 11-Sep-19 13:15:48

Rude madam! Take the thirty quid’s worth back for a refund, Madam doesn’t need or deserve anything else.

sheshootssheimplores Wed 11-Sep-19 13:17:22

My god I’m constantly shocked at how rude people are when it comes to gifts. It’s as though there’s been a societal shift and politeness has gone out the window. I’d be damned if I’d gone on to spend another £30 on this friend!

Mummyoflittledragon Wed 11-Sep-19 13:20:06

I’d buy something for her baby once it’s born if you really want to buy a present. Or give the baby a cheque for their savings. She wasn’t grateful for the first gift. Why would you spend more to try to keep in her favours?

sallyhoooo Wed 11-Sep-19 13:21:09

I didn't spend to keep in her good books I just thought the outfits were lovely and I like to spoil my friends children,it makes me happy (I know that sounds sad )

ColaFreezePop Wed 11-Sep-19 13:24:40

Your friend needs to learn some manners - the gifts are for the baby who is a separate individual from herself.

You put the baby in the outfit and take photos as they grow out of them in a blink of an eye.

SAHD2020 Wed 11-Sep-19 13:25:16

We were incredibly fortunate to be given a lot of lovely gifts when our DC was born last year. At no point did myself or my wife even consider saying we didnt like something and can we return / exchange it. There are a number of things our DC never wore, mainly because she was given so much and they grow so fast, so we donated a number of items to those less fortunate.

One example.....we were given so many bibs and muslins at the time we thought we had too many.....needless to say within a couple of months all packets we open and all had been used!

I'm sorry OP but your friend is a CF.....a really big CF and incredibly ungrateful too boot.

TerribleCustomerCervix Wed 11-Sep-19 13:27:57

Is returning baby gifts not the done thing?

I returned looooads of stuff after I had dd and people (very kindly and generously) gave us lots of pink frilly dresses etc which I knew wouldn’t get worn. I returned them and swapped for sleepsuits and vests etc which I knew she’d be wearing constantly.

I never let on to the people who gave them and sent them thank you cards, but was this very rude of me? I thought that it would be better swapping for stuff that would get actually get used is better than the original gift going to waste.

Zakana Wed 11-Sep-19 13:35:33

Wow. You have one very rude “friend”. Take the other outfits back, get your refund and spend it on yourself.

Rachelover60 Wed 11-Sep-19 13:36:06

You'e not sad at all, sallyhoo, you've been kind and generous. I think your friend was very rude indeed.

StarlingsInSummer Wed 11-Sep-19 13:36:16

She doesn't know it was £5.99 when you bought it because you didn't give her the receipt. She just knows that's what it was eventually reduced to, so that's what the exchange value was.

Also, what kind of ungrateful mare wants to change vest or bibs, ffs?

ElizaDee Wed 11-Sep-19 13:38:30

She'd never be getting another gift from me, ever.

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