Ds is almost a year old and currently stays with ex one night over the weekend and ex sees him at mine 2/3 nights a week. He does bath/bedtime etc.
I split with ex because he was becoming increasingly controlling. Despite which for the most part we were getting on ok, I’m pregnant too and again he was mostly being supportive. Recently though I’m finding him increasingly difficult (I’ve posted some stuff on here about him). He switches between being lovely and supportive to being horrible and abusive.
I’m honestly exhausted by him and decided after this weekend that I really need to reduce contact with him as much as possible.
I want to stop him coming to visit Ds through the week at my house. He struggles having Ds overnight and he’s not been settling so I’m not sure I want him having him a extra overnight, but I’d consider it oe he could take him out for a few hours and return him for bedtime.
He won’t be happy with it, I know that. But would I be unreasonable doing so? I know we’d need to look at things again when the baby arrives but I just think a bit of a break from seeing him would be really good for me.
I also think he’ll retaliate with reducing his financial contribution, he is more than fair in that regard. I still think it would be worth it though to just not have to deal with him in my house at least twice a week.
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GirlOnIt · 10/09/2019 18:25
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