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To think my 6yo DS in year 2 should have his shirt tucked in for school

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justbeingadad Tue 10-Sep-19 18:17:32

As the title. AIBU to make my son go to school with his shirt tucked in?

The school doesn't seem to have a rule regarding this.

Context, he doesn't like tucking it in, probably because he's never been made to. His mother is adamant he shouldn't have to tuck it in. I think he should as it looks really sloppy (to the point of it reflecting badly on us as parents if we can't even dress our DS "properly").

Singlenotsingle Tue 10-Sep-19 18:21:08

Pointless really. Little boys race round the playground, roll around on the ground, chase each other around and end up with muddy shoes, shirts out, ties under one ear. After no time at all!!!

Ohyesiam Tue 10-Sep-19 18:23:24

If the school don’t have a policy on it, it can’t really reflect badly on you can it?

MyHeartIsInCornwall Tue 10-Sep-19 18:26:04

My boys wear polo shirts at their school and no one tucks them in. If they wore a button down shirt, I would encourage them to tuck them in but as pointed out, they will just ‘untuck’ anyway before the end of the day. Start as you mean to go on, I say. smile

GruciusMalfoy Tue 10-Sep-19 18:31:04

My children's school makes them tuck in, and it looks neater, but I don't think it's a big deal.

Iggly Tue 10-Sep-19 18:32:08


He’s 6, not a graduate going for a job interview.

GhostHoward Tue 10-Sep-19 18:34:15

My Eldest (11) starts school with his shirt tucked in, hair expertly swooped, tie done. Comes home looking like he's been in a storm, but shirt still tucked in. (His school expect shirts tucked in and a neat appearance).

2nd son (7) tucks his polo shirt into his shorts (and is the only child in the school I've seen to do so), but invariably comes home with it untucked...but it's a polo shirt...who cares.

3rd son (5) goes to school with parts of his uniform inside out and back to front (and sometimes comes home with them the right way around) but the important thing is that he happily dresses himself.

They're clean (bar the odd toothpaste smudge), well fed, ready to learn, and happy, so I quite honestly couldn't give a flying fuck what other people think.

justbeingadad Tue 10-Sep-19 18:35:19

I shout add, it's a proper shirt with a tie as well with proper trousers and shoes.

I suppose I meant more other parents than the school thinking badly. I totally agree it'll be un tucked by the time he's in the classroom probably!

Maybe I am too hung up on it, but isn't they a bit like saying its OK to send him to school in a muddy shirt or a shirt with good down it because that's how he's going to end up? Also, at what point do you enforce it? He's going to have to do it for secondary school and then he'll have had the attitude he's never had to do it so why now?

MoseShrute Tue 10-Sep-19 18:35:37

He is six
Let him run around as he likes...shirt in, shirt out....the teachers dont give a shit....why do you care?

MoseShrute Tue 10-Sep-19 18:37:06

Of course he wont "have an attitude" about it when he goes to high school! Let him be a scruffy child ffs

justbeingadad Tue 10-Sep-19 18:38:53

OK. Opinion is clear. I also will let him not get washed all week because that's what would happen if we didn't enforce it. One bath a week isn't going to kill him so I'll go with that.

Icantthinkofanynewnames Tue 10-Sep-19 18:39:09

I REALLY don't think it matters. At all.

Anothernotherone Tue 10-Sep-19 18:39:11

If school don't mind, why do you mind?

My 8 year old went to school in jeans with a rip in the knee and a t shirt with a huge picture of two ring tailed lemurs (his favourite animal) on it - untucked - today grin

64sNewName Tue 10-Sep-19 18:40:13

He's going to have to do it for secondary school and then he'll have had the attitude he's never had to do it so why now?

I don’t think this follows. DS started secondary this year and happily tucks in his shirt despite having had an entire primary school career of comfortably untucked polo tops.

Year 2 is young and I think you’re being a bit uptight about it really. Choose your battles. Few, if any, other parents will notice whether your child’s shirt is tucked in, and fewer still will have an opinion about it.

marvellousnightforamooncup Tue 10-Sep-19 18:40:36

You care about this enough to start a thread? 😮 He's 6! I wouldn't give a flying flamingo if I were you.

Icantthinkofanynewnames Tue 10-Sep-19 18:41:44

Also you're being ludicrous to compare an untucked shirt on a 6 year old to a filthy item of clothing or a child being neglected by not being washed all week? Is this actually real?! It seems so petty and you're being pretty weird in your replies, i'm wondering if this is one of those fake threads aimed to get everyone all riled up...

Sunflowers211 Tue 10-Sep-19 18:43:38

Oh I have this row with my 8 year old every morning @justbeingadad !

My son hates it tucked in, complains it's uncomfortable and he tells me I'm wasting my time tucking it in because he will only untuck it as soon as he gets to school!

Chitarra Tue 10-Sep-19 18:43:57

Pick your battles OP. Bath worth fighting, shirt not (IMO).

RedskyLastNight Tue 10-Sep-19 18:44:00

He's going to have to do it for secondary school
Not necessarily. My DC's leave their shirts untucked and cover them with their blazers. Most teachers aren't that bothered about enforcing the "shirts tucked in" rule anyway.

64sNewName Tue 10-Sep-19 18:45:01

How on earth can you compare an untucked shirt to being covered in food/mud, or not bathing enough?

How very odd.

Greyhound22 Tue 10-Sep-19 18:45:09

I tuck my son's shirt in and about 30 seconds later he's jumped on the sofa and it's out. I've stopped bothering.

IHaveBrilloHair Tue 10-Sep-19 18:46:11

He's 6, who cares really?
He doesn't need to prepare for secondary school now either, that's a ridiculous argument.

justbeingadad Tue 10-Sep-19 18:48:40

The comparison was that "does it really matter". Just because it doesn't matter doesn't mean we shouldn't have standards ourselves. And no, this isn't intended to rile anyone up, but I don't see it as a negative to expect my son to go to school looking smart.


Apolloanddaphne Tue 10-Sep-19 18:50:27

Will it impede his capacity for learning?

I rather think not.

Cantthinkofanythingrightnow Tue 10-Sep-19 18:50:32

Jesus you sound like hard work. Leave the poor child alone. The other parents dont care whether your sons shirt is tucked in they have their own kids to look after! And going off in an exaggerated strop because we dont agree with you... will we get the silent treatment now? Is his mum your ex?

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