Im actually laughing at the utterly ridiculousness of this. So im currently speaking to a guy who i briefly dated over the last few months. We are very different people but we do like each other and seem inexplicably drawn to each other.
Anyway, we have been rehashing why it didnt work and i told him i didnt like how he always told me what to do. He said he only told me to not swear as he doesnt like swearing fuck off. I said he told me what to do all the time.
Example: en route to a meal on a hot day, i said 'Ooo i fancy a nice refreshing glass of soda water'. His response is 'What's wrong with tap water'. Im a bit like and he kind of pushed it a bit going on for my to get tap water.
He is saying he only said that because 'I thought you were trying to be healthy'. But soda water IS healthy?! It is literally just carbonated water. No calories, sugar, sweeteners, nada!!! Just a nice refreshing drink! Half the time it doesnt even cost anything because places have it on tap.
Sorry i digress. Anyway, conversation goes along the lines of:
Me: "How is soda water not healthy?!"
Him: "Dont know what it is. All i know is tap water is good".
So he doesn't even know what it is but still felt the need to tell me to get something different! Am i not an intelligent enough woman to be able to pick my own soft drink?!
We're having the most ridiculous debate and he cannot seem to grasp the concept that it's rather patronizing & draining when someone feels the need to challenge your every choice. Like ive got to my 30's without being able to make a decision on what soft drink to order .
He is saying ive made a massive deal out of it he doesnt care what i drink. Well why tell me to do something else then?
Thats like going oh you support Tottenham do you, how about support Chelsea instead?
ARGHHHHHH
He says why am i making a big deal about it, if this bothers you then i dread what serious issues are like.
Because my friend, If you are this controlling over what type of water i drink then i dread how you would be over serious joint decisions!
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Wavescrashingonthebeach · 09/09/2019 22:48
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Am I being unreasonable?
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