We've both had a big year - within months of eachother, she got married, and I had my first baby. my family is far away, and dh often works away from home for long stretches. She has the kind of job that means she has a lot of time off, and lives around the corner. Before ds arrived, she offered to be around to help in any way she could. Now ds is here I barely see or hear from her, and she often doesn't reply to texts and emails about meeting up for a stroll or a drink. Now, I can imagine that I am VERY BORING what with my conversation being strictly limited to poo and possets, and ds' crying/feeding etc 'interrupting' all the time. But. I do kind of expect someone who's been a close friend to make a bit of an effort. I'm feeling a bit isolated and would love to see her a couple of times a week.
What makes it grate more is that when she was fretting about wedding stuff, I took time off work to help her sort things. I was heavily pregnant and knackered, but, you know, it was nice to be able to help. When I couldn't go to the whole of her hen do (4 weeks after ds arrived) I organised a surprise dinner a week later with her and another good friend to make up for it. And when she let us know that her wedding was child-free, we sorted babysitting and a hotel room near the venue during the day so I could go there for feeds (bfing and not able to express at the time). ARgh. I don't want to be all martyrish because I didn't mind doing it at the time. Just now it feels a bit one sided.....
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Spink · 08/08/2007 18:42
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