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Parking in disabled when pregnant

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Notagainsusan Thu 05-Sep-19 20:28:54

So I don't actually think I am bu but I just need someone else to wtf with me and have no one I can rant to in real life other than dh who may soon cut his ears off rather than listen to me again 😛

Good friend is pregnant. I have a 10 week old baby. Yesterday we went to the supermarket together. As we were driving round my friend commented on the lack of baby and parent spaces to which I said oh don't worry he's in his pram anyway so not like I really need the space (I mean he won't be running in front of cars etc and spaces at this shop are quite big so I could easily get the buggy out 😊).

Friend then comments how she can't walk very far atm.
I did internally eye roll at this. She is 7 weeks pregnant. So far in this pregnancy she has had every symptom known to man kind and keeps commenting how her bump is huge already. At 10 weeks post partum I have more of a bump than she does, she is literally stick thin. However I realise I'm being a bit mean here and she is very excited to be pregnant.

Anyway! As we drive around she pulls into a disabled space. I didn't think she had realised so I said oh this isn't parent and child it's disabled. To which she tells me that as she is pregnant she is fine to park in disabled?! I replied saying I didn't think that was true and we should probably move. She said she wasn't and tbh I didn't want the hassle of an argument as she had done me a favour by driving so I shut up.

We get out the car, do the shop, all fine. When we are getting back in the car I was folding the buggy etc when a lady approaches and starts having a go at me for using the space?! Saying how it is not for child and parents. I didn't get a chance to say anything back to this woman as she stormed off mid shout about how inconsiderate I was. Friend just stands there and then raises an eyebrow to me.

In the car I bring up the woman shouting at me and friend just says 'oh don't let her ruin your day'. 😳😳 I said maybe this is a lesson in not using disabled bays unless you're actually disabled and she went in a huff saying how she was feeling really hormonal and not sleeping well so she didn't want to have to walk far ?! She dropped us off at home and it was all a bit awkward.

I'm annoyed that I got the blame for her wanting to use a disabled bay! And that she is using one in the first place!

Prepared to be flamed as I probably should have got her to move but I've no idea how and couldn't face an argument with ds in the back waiting for his stinky nappy to be changed 😂

Sparklingbrook Thu 05-Sep-19 20:32:41

Your friend is being very very unreasonable.

LolaSmiles Thu 05-Sep-19 20:34:14

Your friend is out of order.

I think you're in for a long pregnancy journey if she's one to list everything like she's the only woman to have carried a baby.

WaggingKnife Thu 05-Sep-19 20:34:20

Being pregnant can be difficult, it is not a disability. As I’m sure you know, your friend is rude, inconsiderate, entitled and not to mention a blood idiot.

I’d be making it damn well clear why she is completely in the wrong via a very matter of fact text or email complete with links to back you up.

WhatsMyPassword Thu 05-Sep-19 20:34:25

She wont do it when she gets ticket

zxcvhjkl Thu 05-Sep-19 20:35:42

Your friend sounds precious. I wouldn't go out with her in the car if she can't follow simple rules. If she's like that at 7 weeks I dread to think how she will be at 7 months. As for letting you take the blame, that's just CF'ering.

YANBU and your friend is a wrong un. No blue badge, no disabled bay.

Notagainsusan Thu 05-Sep-19 20:37:09

I tried mentioning it in a text today (group text where she had brought up the whole saga in a jokey way) and I said about not having a badge and she was just so flippant! 🤦🏻‍♀️ I love her to pieces and I know she's found it hard with other people moving on with their lives when she has been desperate for a family (husband left her a couple of years ago mid trying for a baby). However I feel like this is going to be a longgg pregnancy🤦🏻‍♀️ Not to drip feed but she has also started posting underwear pics on Instagram about showing off her bump with multiple hashtags #proudbump etc

Beaverdam Thu 05-Sep-19 20:38:37

I think your friend should park where she likes. If there were loads of disabled bays then i dont see what the issue is. If she took the last one i sort of see where the woman was coming from.

People shouldnt be so touchy about parking.

AfterSchoolWorry Thu 05-Sep-19 20:39:47

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underneaththeash Thu 05-Sep-19 20:40:45

Clearly Beaverdam does it too.

However, your friend is being rude and arrogant. Disabled bays are for disabled people.

Drogosnextwife Thu 05-Sep-19 20:40:54

She is an attention seeking cf.

Sugarplumfairy65 Thu 05-Sep-19 20:41:04

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CGTER567 Thu 05-Sep-19 20:41:39

Your friend sounds hard work.
And of course she was being massively unreasonable and selfish. Pregnancy is not a disability.

GotToGoMyOwnWay Thu 05-Sep-19 20:41:41

People like your friend & Beaverdam are why people like me ie disabled often have to turn around & go home because there are no spaces left due to the selfishness of others. Pregnancy isn’t a disability. If you want my blue badge space take my disabilities with you. I’d rather be able to park in a normal space than be disabled.

MaltedWheats Thu 05-Sep-19 20:41:47

Be blunt.

Ask her whether her pregnancy trumps parking in a disabled bay compared to someone with amputated limbs?

Selfish woman. I’d end a friendship over this type of entitled behaviour.

Parker231 Thu 05-Sep-19 20:42:07

Totally wrong to park in a disabled space if you are pregnant/have a baby. If you want more space, park at the far end of the car park where it is usually empty, and walk. Exercise is good for you!

InterestingView Thu 05-Sep-19 20:42:19

God she sounds completely self centred and hard work. I'd start distancing yourself now! Imagine what she'll be like when the baby is here.

PumpkinP Thu 05-Sep-19 20:42:39

Is your friend my friend?! She was saying she couldn’t lift anything at all from about 5 weeks pregnant. She would totally park in a disabled space because she’s pregnant and “can’t walk far” 😑 yanbu

Beaverdam Thu 05-Sep-19 20:42:44

Wow, some rude people on here. I havent felt the need to park in one yet actually as theres always plenty of space elsewhere but i do not judge other for doing it at all.

BruceAndNosh Thu 05-Sep-19 20:42:55

@38Beaverdam pregnancy is a choice, being disabled is not.
I wouldn't give a toss if the friend parked in a parent and child space (technically she does have a child with her) but absolutely no to parking in a disabled bay

Bookworm4 Thu 05-Sep-19 20:43:29

Your friend is an arse, suggest new #

MaltedWheats Thu 05-Sep-19 20:43:56

Beaverdam you are another one of those entitled people who clearly believe you are exempt from following the rules hmm

EggysMom Thu 05-Sep-19 20:43:57

I'd love to know where these car parks are which have "loads of disabled bays". We have to battle regularly to find an empty disabled bay. Maybe these spaces are free on weekdays and disabled people aren't meant to have jobs ...

Your friend was being VERY unreasonable. Pregnancy is not a disability.

CGTER567 Thu 05-Sep-19 20:43:59

Beaverdam, you are being foolish. If everybody thought like you, then the last space would be gone very quickly anyway.

MaybeitsMaybelline Thu 05-Sep-19 20:44:38

I’ve been pregnant,I have a disabled

Your friend is being a twat. One day she may be disabled.

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