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Insulting birthday card from husband AIBU?

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Amibeingsensitive Sun 25-Aug-19 22:20:06

Birthday card on front says

Birthday girl
Become instantly younger with the Eternal Youth rejuvenating lifestyle!
The secrets in the formula...no diet...no exercise...just lie about your age!

I'm 31 and a size 12 with a mum tum after 2 kids. I don't diet or exercise I was a size 8-10 when I met him.

He's not one to give a jokey card it's usually just sweet cards. He said he didn't realise its offensive he just liked the design and didn't pick it for the words.

Am I being sensitive and unreasonable? Is he giving me a dig that I am getting old and need to lose weight or mybe he's just an idiot?

It's deffo knocked my confidence a bit I know it's only a birthday card but surely he's not that stupid and he'd know it'd offend me

dementedpixie Sun 25-Aug-19 22:22:20

I think you're overreacting tbh

MrsGarethSouthgate Sun 25-Aug-19 22:23:20

I really don't think it's offensive. And I didn't read it as aimed at your physique either. It's just a shit joke card, the kind of which get more prevalent as you proceed through your thirties.

I think you are massively over-thinking.

Stampyourfeet Sun 25-Aug-19 22:23:33

He’s probably not read it properly, just a bit of a knob eh?
Honestly unless he says negative things about your weight etc ignore it and happy birthday!

NaughtToThreeSadOnions Sun 25-Aug-19 22:23:47

Its not really offensive is it????
Its a play on the i'm 21 joke.
If hed brought you a your 21 card again woud you be offended

PuppyMonkey Sun 25-Aug-19 22:23:58

I think I’d just take that as a daft joke, but - don’t know your history so I’ll probably be completely wrong.confused

FrownPrincess Sun 25-Aug-19 22:25:30

I definitely wouldn’t get worked up about that, I think you’re being over-sensitive.

C0untDucku1a Sun 25-Aug-19 22:25:48

I think you are reading too much into
It. And you probBly read more of the card than he did.

But... why are you not exercising?! Set a better example of a healthy life to your children.

Merryoldgoat Sun 25-Aug-19 22:27:48

What?! You’re 31 and a size 12 - neither fat nor old.

It’s not especially funny but it’s not offensive.

WorraLiberty Sun 25-Aug-19 22:28:57

Good God...

Overreaction

user1473878824 Sun 25-Aug-19 22:31:12

Honestly OP you’re overreacting massively. For our last anniversary my DP got me a “sorry you’re leaving” card.

cubed123 Sun 25-Aug-19 22:32:10

Agree with PPs, the card is a bit daft but not insulting, try to just ignore it OP, not worth getting in a flap about

NaughtToThreeSadOnions Sun 25-Aug-19 22:33:34

Are you a bit sensitive generally about your weight change?
Because this really isnt about your weight its not a dig at all

Andysbestadventure Sun 25-Aug-19 22:34:01

It's implying women simply lie about their age instead of trying to turn back the clock. It's a shitty joke about getting older. It is not an insult calling you fat.

user1493494961 Sun 25-Aug-19 22:34:10

Massive over-reaction.

LaBelleSauvage Sun 25-Aug-19 22:37:22

YABU the poor guy...

Pinkblueberry Sun 25-Aug-19 22:38:24

I think surely the joke is that you obviously don’t look old or fat?? Because you’re only 31 and a size 12. It’s ironic, isn’t it?

Redglitter Sun 25-Aug-19 22:40:02

Wow massive over reaction. It's really not insulting or offensive. You're reading things into it that aren't there

dollydaydream114 Sun 25-Aug-19 22:41:14

YABU. There’s nothing even remotely insulting about it. It’s just a naff joke about the way most of us want to stay young, not a comment on your appearance. He clearly meant absolutely nothing by it. Give him a break.

TheCatsACunt Sun 25-Aug-19 22:41:18

You’re being ridiculous.

Namechangeforthiscancershit Sun 25-Aug-19 22:42:52

I really wouldn't be upset by this

poelpabb Sun 25-Aug-19 22:43:56

I wouldn't be bothered by that, I think you're being over sensitive 🙄

Mummoomoocow Sun 25-Aug-19 22:45:51

The words are saying that you don’t need any of that fancy stuff, you only need to say your x age because you don’t look old confused why the hell are you upset?

Bliponthescreen Sun 25-Aug-19 22:46:48

YABU
My DB sent a Mother’s Day card to our mum. It read ‘ You’re just like a mother to me’. She hasn’t forgiven him yet 😂
Give him a break op.

notsohippychick Sun 25-Aug-19 22:46:54

Bloody hell. This isn’t a problem you need to make. But you are. It’s a card. The problem is with you and your self esteem if you find this offensive.

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