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Would you tell the mother?

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Greggers2017 · 21/08/2019 12:03

My dd is approaching 12 and about to start secondary school. 2 days ago I saw a message on her locked phone screen from one of her friends saying she was going to meet somebody.
When I questioned my daughter she informed me that her friend was going to meet up with a boy she had been talking too online. The friend has never met him before. I spoke to my daughter and explained it is a very dangerous thing to do and that I will inform the friends Mum if she does go to meet him.
Daughter spoke to her friend later that day and informed me that friend had changed her mind.
Fast forward to Just now, another friend has told my dd that first friend is going to meet the boy tomorrow. Do I got and inform the mother even though I don't know her? I would want someone to come tell me.

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Beelee · 21/08/2019 12:05

Absolutely - she needs to know.

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PookieDo · 21/08/2019 12:07

Yes I probably would. My DD know I am an interfering old bag but to be fair they know it is from a good place of concern

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Clangus00 · 21/08/2019 12:08

Yes!
If something happened to this child, could you live with yourself?
Would you want someone to tell you?
Absolutely tell her.

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my2bundles · 21/08/2019 12:13

Yes tell her. As the mother of an 11 year old I would want to know.

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Alsohuman · 21/08/2019 12:15

Please tell her. Nobody knows how old this “boy” is.

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Aprillygirl · 21/08/2019 12:26

Pretty sure any parent would want to be made aware that there child was going off to meet a stranger. Tell her OP.

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cheeseislife8 · 21/08/2019 12:29

Definitely, I would want to know. It could be anyone if they met online

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sparklefarts · 21/08/2019 12:32

Obviously you tell her. Nothing to even think about.

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Heymummee · 21/08/2019 12:32

I would definitely tell her. If my child was planning this I would want to know. I also couldn’t live with myself if something happened and I knew about her plans.

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Celebelly · 21/08/2019 12:35

Yes, way too young.

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stayathomer · 21/08/2019 12:35

Without a shadow of guilt. Best of luck OP

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HumphreyCobblers · 21/08/2019 12:39

God yes I would.

Imagine if something happened and you could have stopped it.

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Greggers2017 · 21/08/2019 12:42

My daughter says it is a 12 year old boy and they met on an online game and have spoken on FaceTime but something doesn't ring true.
My daughter is ok with me telling the Mum by the way.
How would you do it? Just go and knock on the door? X

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GreenTulips · 21/08/2019 12:43

Yes go and knock!

I’d like to know.

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ultrablue · 21/08/2019 12:44

Definitely tell her. The fact that your daughter has told you her friend is meeting this boy rather than covering for her shows that she is worried too..

Mom definitely needs to know

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LeysaV · 21/08/2019 12:44

YANBU OP

Yes, if you are friendly with her and know where she lives knock . If you have a mobile number ring . Its up to you but please do intervene.

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AmIThough · 21/08/2019 12:47

Please tell her ASAP. Yes go and knock the door or call her - anything.

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DerbyMumOf1 · 21/08/2019 12:48

Absolutely! If you don't want to do it on person maybe the mother has a social media account you could contact her on?

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RosemarysBush · 21/08/2019 12:49

Just tell her. Definitely.

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PuzzledObserver · 21/08/2019 12:53
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LittlePaintBox · 21/08/2019 12:55

Yes, I'd knock on the door, easier to explain your concerns and how they came about face to face.

Adults do hang around online spaces where children are likely to congregate and pretend to be the same age so your concern is realistic. It seems likely the girl has been told to keep it secret from her mum.

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managedmis · 21/08/2019 12:56

You need to tell her

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TheBatsHaveLeftTheBellTower · 21/08/2019 13:03

Of course you need to tell her Confused

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BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 21/08/2019 13:04

Please go and tell her

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MostlyAmbridgeandcoffee · 21/08/2019 13:05

Yes of course straight away.

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