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Would you tell the mother?

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Greggers2017 Wed 21-Aug-19 12:03:46

My dd is approaching 12 and about to start secondary school. 2 days ago I saw a message on her locked phone screen from one of her friends saying she was going to meet somebody.
When I questioned my daughter she informed me that her friend was going to meet up with a boy she had been talking too online. The friend has never met him before. I spoke to my daughter and explained it is a very dangerous thing to do and that I will inform the friends Mum if she does go to meet him.
Daughter spoke to her friend later that day and informed me that friend had changed her mind.
Fast forward to Just now, another friend has told my dd that first friend is going to meet the boy tomorrow. Do I got and inform the mother even though I don't know her? I would want someone to come tell me.

Beelee Wed 21-Aug-19 12:05:13

Absolutely - she needs to know.

PookieDo Wed 21-Aug-19 12:07:12

Yes I probably would. My DD know I am an interfering old bag but to be fair they know it is from a good place of concern

Clangus00 Wed 21-Aug-19 12:08:47

If something happened to this child, could you live with yourself?
Would you want someone to tell you?
Absolutely tell her.

my2bundles Wed 21-Aug-19 12:13:26

Yes tell her. As the mother of an 11 year old I would want to know.

Alsohuman Wed 21-Aug-19 12:15:07

Please tell her. Nobody knows how old this “boy” is.

Aprillygirl Wed 21-Aug-19 12:26:08

Pretty sure any parent would want to be made aware that there child was going off to meet a stranger. Tell her OP.

cheeseislife8 Wed 21-Aug-19 12:29:10

Definitely, I would want to know. It could be anyone if they met online

sparklefarts Wed 21-Aug-19 12:32:41

Obviously you tell her. Nothing to even think about.

Heymummee Wed 21-Aug-19 12:32:55

I would definitely tell her. If my child was planning this I would want to know. I also couldn’t live with myself if something happened and I knew about her plans.

Celebelly Wed 21-Aug-19 12:35:22

Yes, way too young.

stayathomer Wed 21-Aug-19 12:35:39

Without a shadow of guilt. Best of luck OP

HumphreyCobblers Wed 21-Aug-19 12:39:21

God yes I would.

Imagine if something happened and you could have stopped it.

Greggers2017 Wed 21-Aug-19 12:42:22

My daughter says it is a 12 year old boy and they met on an online game and have spoken on FaceTime but something doesn't ring true.
My daughter is ok with me telling the Mum by the way.
How would you do it? Just go and knock on the door? X

GreenTulips Wed 21-Aug-19 12:43:52

Yes go and knock!

I’d like to know.

ultrablue Wed 21-Aug-19 12:44:10

Definitely tell her. The fact that your daughter has told you her friend is meeting this boy rather than covering for her shows that she is worried too..

Mom definitely needs to know

LeysaV Wed 21-Aug-19 12:44:32


Yes, if you are friendly with her and know where she lives knock . If you have a mobile number ring . Its up to you but please do intervene.

AmIThough Wed 21-Aug-19 12:47:39

Please tell her ASAP. Yes go and knock the door or call her - anything.

DerbyMumOf1 Wed 21-Aug-19 12:48:38

Absolutely! If you don't want to do it on person maybe the mother has a social media account you could contact her on?

RosemarysBush Wed 21-Aug-19 12:49:35

Just tell her. Definitely.

PuzzledObserver Wed 21-Aug-19 12:53:31

LittlePaintBox Wed 21-Aug-19 12:55:44

Yes, I'd knock on the door, easier to explain your concerns and how they came about face to face.

Adults do hang around online spaces where children are likely to congregate and pretend to be the same age so your concern is realistic. It seems likely the girl has been told to keep it secret from her mum.

managedmis Wed 21-Aug-19 12:56:39

You need to tell her

TheBatsHaveLeftTheBellTower Wed 21-Aug-19 13:03:02

Of course you need to tell her confused

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil Wed 21-Aug-19 13:04:27

Please go and tell her

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