I recently split up with my partner (made a thread last week about the fact I'm having to stay living with him for the next few months due to not being able to afford to move out) and he is demanding money from me. We had only moved into the new flat a few days before we broke up (it was my decision). The flat was unfurnished, and he paid for a new bed frame and mattress for what was going to be our room and is now demanding that I pay him half for both of these, as he bought them on the understanding we would jointly pay for them. However, I have only slept in that bed four or five times and am obviously never going to do so again, so I don't feel I should have to pay him for them - what do you all think?
Added to this is the fact that while I was staying with family after we broke up, my bike was stolen from our porch, which my ex has been leaving unlocked since I left (I always used to lock the porch when I lived there). The bike wasn't locked up, which is my fault, I know, but my ex had brought it over from the old flat in his car and I'd just assumed he would have locked it back up as I'd given him the key for the lock to move it. When I asked my ex where my bike had gone, he said he assumed I'd taken it when I went to stay with my family. When I told him I hadn't and that the porch door had been unlocked so it had clearly been stolen, he admitted he'd been leaving the porch unlocked, but said it was my fault for not locking my bike.
I realise the above all sounds ridiculously petty but just wanted to give some context. My bike was expensive - even if we took joint responsibility for its theft, that would mean my ex owes me £250 which is around the amount he's asking for for the bed. I don't know what to do. He's an angry person and I know he's not going to like me trying to use that as justification not to pay for the bed. Part of me thinks I should just pay him so he doesn't make my life even more hellish for the next few months I have to carry on living with him.
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Tafelberg · 20/08/2019 14:21
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