It's not a TAAT but inspired by another thread.
It seems to be a general trend that people feel like they shouldn't have any duty/obligation to care for their elderly parents anymore.
Partly I recognise that this is because societal trends make it harder to do elder care than it used to be - it's quite common to have two full time workers, be living quite far from your parents, still have DC to care for at the same time due to later births, etc.
I find it odd though that anyone wouldn't want to care for their elderly parents and find a way to make it happen.
So for example, we have just moved to live near to DH's parents who are in their 70s as while they don't need any help now, we know they will at some point in the next 10yrs.
My DM is very young (56!) so definitely doesn't need any help. I live 200 miles away but have already had the discussion that when she is elderly I'd like her to come and live with us.
I feel like I'm in the minority though these days?
I realise there are of course exceptions - any parental abuse and there will always be people who have very complex situations that mean it isn't possible (e.g. can't afford to move, already have children of their own with special needs, etc).
But I think it's sad that the average person either (a) thinks of it as an obligation/burden that they don't want to do or (b) thinks they don't have any obligation at all.
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wheresmymojo · 19/08/2019 12:06
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