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Berated for buying a bottle of water

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BackInTime Sat 17-Aug-19 17:36:46

Went for a day out with another family yesterday and I stopped on the way to buy some water as I had forgotten to take mine from the fridge. I spent the rest of the day being lectured to by my friend about plastic use and the environment, all of which I am fully aware of and do my best to limit plastic use but this was a one off and I did recycle the bottle/ Then I was chastised for eating meat (packed ham sandwiches) as her family have all gone vegetarian to save the planet, although her DD said it was because some celebrity said it helped with weight losshmm

I didn't like to point out that her avocado salad probably wasn't as green as she thought, having been flown half way across the world in plastic packaging and was possibly responsible for deforestation in South America. This is the same person that thinks walking and public transport is for peasants and makes the even shortest journey to the corner shop in a Range Rover. The same person that takes several long haul trips a year.

AIBU to not want to be lectured to about the environment by hypocrites like this?

Aquamarine1029 Sat 17-Aug-19 17:43:24

They wouldn't be a "friend" of mine any longer. I don't need some self-righteous, sanctimonious twat blabbering their bullshit at me. Life is far too short for that nonsense.

NewNewNewNew Sat 17-Aug-19 17:47:00

She's obviously a sheep that has no brains or opinions of her own.
Otherwise, she would know that her own behaviour is not fully compliant with environmental clean living.
You should have told her the things you've told us, regarding range rover etc.
What do you want from this thread?
We can't give you a backbone.

YouOkHunz Sat 17-Aug-19 17:49:11

Is your friend Meghan Markle?

BertrandRussell Sat 17-Aug-19 17:49:18

Pictures or it didn’t happen.

GreyGardens88 Sat 17-Aug-19 17:49:20

Why didn't you point all that out to her, stand up for yourself

Notthetoothfairy Sat 17-Aug-19 17:49:47

Don’t you mean “my former friend”? Agree, you should have told her.

GreyGardens88 Sat 17-Aug-19 17:49:57

Sick of the Meghan Markle bashing

Outsomnia Sat 17-Aug-19 17:55:57

You are doing your best to stand by your green principles, but do not take any lecturing from anyone, that left the building the day you became an adult with your own mind and views.

As a pp said, life is too short to have to deal with sanctimonious asshats.

Ignore and block. Wow, delighted I got to say that marvellous phrase at last!

kitk Sat 17-Aug-19 17:56:08

Is there a problem with plastic bottles provided you recycle them really?

BackInTime Sat 17-Aug-19 17:56:39

No not Megan grin Agree I should have said more but it was a day out with DCs and didn't want an argument. She is part of a group of mum friends from DDs primary that I am thankfully seeing less and less of as now they are at secondary. They are all very 'woke' if it's socially trendy but completely clueless in reality.

VivaLeBeaver Sat 17-Aug-19 18:02:46

I wouldn’t have been able to keep my mouth shut. Would have smiled sweetly and told her about her avocado and Range Rover.

Chista Sat 17-Aug-19 18:04:02

I am amused how it is some really privileged people who point out oh your using a plastic bottle or blah blah blah when its probable that they have a higher carbom footprint with the gas guzzlers they drive and the many holidays they take flying around the world. I know someone who has recently joined the revolution and I got so sick of her on her high horse, I reminded her that she uses disposable nappies and wipes and cut down many trees in her garden and got rid of her grass and takes 5 holidays abroad each year! I have no time for the fanatics of this new woke religion who look down on people.

CalamityJune Sat 17-Aug-19 18:04:12

The advice is 'reduce, reuse, recycle'. There isn't an expectation that you can completely eliminate plastic on your life in 2019.

krustykittens Sat 17-Aug-19 18:07:02

I would love to know how she recycles all those carbon emissions from her long haul flights....

hobnobsaremyfave Sat 17-Aug-19 18:08:57

Cool story bro

BertrandRussell Sat 17-Aug-19 18:24:04

Yes- there are marker words aren’t there? Berated....

messolini9 Sat 17-Aug-19 18:25:14

I didn't like to point out that her avocado salad probably wasn't as green as she thought, having been flown half way across the world in plastic packaging and was possibly responsible for deforestation in South America. This is the same person that thinks walking and public transport is for peasants and makes the even shortest journey to the corner shop in a Range Rover. The same person that takes several long haul trips a year.

Life's too short to be lectured by a sanctimonious hypocrite, OP.
Next time, let rip with your thoughts, as above!
You''ll get all the satisfaction of bursting her ignorant, self-serving little bubble, & she may never speak to you again.
Sorted!

DarkDarkNight Sat 17-Aug-19 18:25:33

She sounds dreary as fuck.

You should have pointed out the hypocrisy.

BackInTime Sat 17-Aug-19 18:28:39

* Yes- there are marker words aren’t there? Berated....*

Am I missing something here?hmm

Jsmith99 Sat 17-Aug-19 18:29:53

I have absolutely zero tolerance for self-righteous, sanctimonious preachy people, particularly if they are hypocrites themselves. In your position I would have slapped your ‘friend’ down as firmly as necessary. If she took offence, tough.

OtraCosaMariposa Sat 17-Aug-19 18:33:15

Is there a problem with plastic bottles provided you recycle them really

Reduce, reuse and then recycle.

Buying bottled water is a really poor choice, considering we live in a country with clean water coming out of the taps. I wouldn't say something to a friend who decided to buy water on a day out. But I'd be judging her/him for not bringing a refillable bottle from home.

Lovemenorca Sat 17-Aug-19 18:33:17

Why didn’t you point out your observations

Needn’t by eastenders style shouting. Just calmly pointing out that some of her actions aren’t in line with what she’s preaching to you

WorraLiberty Sat 17-Aug-19 18:33:33

Yes YABU

You spent the whole day being 'lectured' rather than telling her about her avocado and the public transport thing etc.

At the very least you could have told her to stop going on about it.

There's no point in posting on MN asking if you're BU not to want to be lectured by a hypocrite because the answer is a no brainer.

Billben Sat 17-Aug-19 18:38:08

I didn't like to point out that .....

Why didn’t you though?
You can’t complain about somebody else’s behaviour when you let them get away with it.

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