I’m thinking I may have upset my neighbour. We get on well, never any problems and we would probably be classed as friends. I have no children at home now, she has 2 little ones. The youngest (9) likes dogs and likes to come and play with mine. I recently acquired a puppy so obviously he’s wanting to come around even more now. The problem is it got to the point where they were coming around every day. It was too much. I have aspergers and don’t like to socialise and also don’t like people in my house, it stresses me out. Plus the puppy is hard work and even more so when people are here. She’s a biter and they made a lot of comments about this. I’m working on it with her but people constantly going on about it stresses me out.
I know it’s school holidays and he’s bored but the thing is they always seem to ask to come around at the worse time ... normally around 4pm when DH is due home from work - or 6pm when we’re having tea. During the day wouldn’t be so bad but when the puppy is asleep, I don’t want to wake her as she’s hard work enough as it is.
On top of this, friend suggested that her son come to training classes with me - it’s just all too much. I’m not even a child friendly person as it is. I don’t dislike them but I don’t choose to spend my time with them either
Anyway he asked to come around on Monday but pup was just heading out for her injections so I said to come Tuesday instead. Tuesday I took pup for a play date and when we got back she was knackered and asleep - plus he messaged me at 6pm when we were having tea so it didn’t happen. I have messaged friend an apology but she hasn’t replied. I do feel bad for letting him down but I’m not the one setting this scenario up! I just want to be able to go about my business and not worry about if! AIBU?
Btw they are a lovely family and I know I’m an unsociable twat and probably quite self cantered but this is why I keep myself to myself. I don’t want to upset anyone, I just can’t commit to regular visits like this.
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Xen20 · 14/08/2019 10:18
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