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Oneandoneontheway Tue 13-Aug-19 23:45:22

Hello all!
I'm trying to trace someone I knew 20 years ago, when I knew him he was in the army-stationed in Salisbury at the time. He's not on Facebook/Instagram - LinkedIn. I still have his number but it's not his anymore. I have tried the various email addresses I can think of. Does anyone have any clever ideas about how to trace someone with limited info!!!

Iamnotagoddess Tue 13-Aug-19 23:47:21

I could help but I want to know why you want to know - are your reasons sinister or not?!

Oneandoneontheway Tue 13-Aug-19 23:50:33

Really not sinister!! Just an old friend from a long time ago that after all this time I still think of! And wonder if he's OK? It seems to occupy my mind alot these days

TeamUnicorn Tue 13-Aug-19 23:59:55

Have you tried Forces Reunited? (Not sure how it works though)

Jamiefraserskilt Wed 14-Aug-19 00:01:58

Post something on social media and ask people to share. By the 6 degrees of separation theory, someone may know him or his family.

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Aug-19 00:05:41

I didn't know about forces reunited - will take a look, thanks x

Undercoverdetective Wed 14-Aug-19 00:07:56

Could you write to him care of his regiment and ask for a letter to be forwarded.

PickAChew Wed 14-Aug-19 00:09:16

google his name?

I know exactly where a boyfriend I had 35 years ago is by doing that.

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Aug-19 00:10:57

Google does not work! I have tried and tried!
My worry is he tried in combat.
However, the suggestion of writing to the last post I know off sounds sensible, do you think they would forward it on?

bouncingraindrops Wed 14-Aug-19 00:21:09

Post something on social media and ask people to share. By the 6 degrees of separation theory, someone may know him or his family.

I would HATE to be the subject of this. It's hideous to do this publicly. What if the persons doesn't want to be found?

MrsGarethSouthgate Wed 14-Aug-19 00:24:08

@Iamnotagoddess
Do you think someone with sinister motives would be defeated by your cunning questioning technique, and confess all?? grin

31RueCambon Wed 14-Aug-19 00:27:27

Do you have a site where all death notices are announced in the UK?

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Aug-19 00:29:13

I shall fess up! It's someone I loved very dearly a long time ago, and for silly reasons we stopped talking. He's never been far from my mind and now I'm much older and wiser and would love to speak again. Nothing sinister or weird! Just a reconnection!!

31RueCambon Wed 14-Aug-19 00:29:34

I wouldn't like the 6 degrees of separation sharing on social media either! I'd be embarrassed, people might assume that there had been some big love affair. And it 'd be awkward if a person did that to find you and your reaction was more like 'wtf, wtf, oh em, hello by the way, but what the fuck?''

31RueCambon Wed 14-Aug-19 00:30:43

Let us know if you succeed!

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Aug-19 00:30:53

If he had left the forces, would he still be forwarded a letter if I sent it to his last known regiment?

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Aug-19 01:08:46

I shall let you know if I succeed, but doubt I will 😔

user1473878824 Wed 14-Aug-19 01:15:41

Oh OP. I’ve had wine so I now hope you find him and the update ends with confetti

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Aug-19 01:35:40

@user1473878824 I've also had wine and always hoping for a successful end! Xx

redredrobins Wed 14-Aug-19 03:01:26

Write to the army pensions office and ask them to forward your address, if he served for a long time he would be receiving an immediate pension.

thejudgesaidhewasatitandIagree Wed 14-Aug-19 03:49:16

Can you find someone like that via those ancestry sites?

AnnonniMoose Wed 14-Aug-19 04:22:32

There are FB groups that track people. This one if very good: www.facebook.com/groups/desperatesearch/

AnnonniMoose Wed 14-Aug-19 04:22:56

is good, not if!

TumblingTumbleWeeds Wed 14-Aug-19 05:08:34

I belong to Find My Past. I keep forgetting to cancel the subscription. If you know roughly the year he was born - the closer the better, full name and the town or area where he was born you will be able to search all records. Birth, marriage, death electoral rolls etc.

PM me if you want me to run a search for you or you can sign up yourself.

Good luck.

Oneandoneontheway Wed 14-Aug-19 16:43:02

@TumblingTumbleWeeds sent you a pm x

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