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To think it's definitely not a joke?

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Inde95 Fri 19-Jul-19 19:40:46

So, for context, DD's dad and I split. He comes to see her a few times a week. I have posted about the situation before.

Today he came to see her. He was holding her hands to support her walking. I bend down to talk to her and her dad has taken her hand and hit me in the face with it saying "Hit mummy. We don't like women" I told him in no uncertain terms that it was not ok and he's not to use our child to project his feelings about me.

His response was "It was a joke. You're overreacting".

Please advise as to whether it would BU to have another conversation about how this is not a joke and certainly not ok?

TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup Fri 19-Jul-19 19:45:18

He's a dick. Arrange supervised contact with someone else supervising so you don't have to be near him.

BendydickCuminsnatch Fri 19-Jul-19 19:45:43

What. The hell????? That made me gasp out loud. He does realise his daughter will grow into a woman, right? Appalling!

user1498572889 Fri 19-Jul-19 19:47:15

He is a twat. You were right about why he was doing it. Supervised contact only. No wonder he is your ex.

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 Fri 19-Jul-19 19:48:10

I have no words. Joke my arse, there should be a picture of this idiot in the dictionary under gaslighting.

Soubriquet Fri 19-Jul-19 19:49:13

Hell no that is not a joke

nauseous5000 Fri 19-Jul-19 19:49:45

Awful BUT if this first time he's done this I'd be inclined to write it off as childish and not thought out, but if anything like that happens again don't hesitate to have a proper discussion and look into other ways of facilitating access

DuesToTheDirt Fri 19-Jul-19 19:50:37

WTF? Conversation about this would be pointless, unless he's thick as pigshit he already knows it's not a joke.

cushioncovers Fri 19-Jul-19 19:52:59

No it's not a joke, he was being a spiteful prick.

Inde95 Fri 19-Jul-19 19:55:28

@nauseous5000 He's made remarks about hitting me before but I had let them slide to avoid confrontation. However, it's the first time he's actually been physical with DD if that makes sense

Inde95 Fri 19-Jul-19 19:58:48

@LadyTiredWinterBottom2 Loved your response grin

CatInADoghouse Fri 19-Jul-19 19:59:59

OMFG! What an absolute prick!! Thank goodness you're not with him anymore!
Definitely supervised visits! He can't be trusted unsupervised. I wouldn't accept this sort of crap from him.

Sadie789 Fri 19-Jul-19 20:00:29

He sounds pathetic.

thetimekeeper Fri 19-Jul-19 20:04:42

His response was "It was a joke. You're overreacting".

Ah, the mantra of the abusive man.

Check out the Freedom Programme, it might help you get a better handle on how to deal with him.

foreverhanging Fri 19-Jul-19 20:11:38

Fucking ridiculous behaviour using your dd as his bloody tool. What a nasty little arsehole he is.

4under4our Fri 19-Jul-19 20:11:59

What a vile human.

Sorryisntgoodenough Fri 19-Jul-19 20:17:32

He's a dick. Arrange supervised contact with someone else supervising so you don't have to be near him

NOT ok. Do not let your child see him without supervision. You need to have this on record. Appalling behaviour, your DD is a very lucky girl that you are not with him so that she doesn’t grow up thinking his behaviour of women is normal.

MrsTerryPratchett Fri 19-Jul-19 20:19:25

No one is laughing so it's not a joke

GaraMedouar Fri 19-Jul-19 20:21:59

That is absolutely ridiculous! Not a joke at all, and not ok in the slightest!

Inde95 Fri 19-Jul-19 20:25:57

Thank you all for your replies. I don't have time to reply to them all but I appreciate the advice being given

Zaphodsotherhead Fri 19-Jul-19 20:26:47

He does realise your daughter is female, doesn't he?

'We don't like women...'

There's no 'we' in dickhead.

greenwaterbottle Fri 19-Jul-19 20:30:53

I think you need to think about the bigger picture.
Why do you let his visit in your house, he shouldn't cross the front door.
Does he have visitation set by the court, if not, make him take you to court.

Inde95 Fri 19-Jul-19 20:33:29

To clarify, he has only ever had supervised visits due to MH issues which can make him go from one extreme to the other emotionally. The thought of him having DD alone terrifies me

Purplecatshopaholic Fri 19-Jul-19 20:40:03

He is an arse and you are well rid. Defo supervised visits, if any...

Inde95 Fri 19-Jul-19 20:40:52

@greenwaterbottle He is taking me to court. I gave him access this way to try avoid it

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