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To want to shout "I'm WORKING from home."

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DreamingofSummer Wed 17-Jul-19 10:38:18

I WORK from home. My office is in a converted garage.

This does not mean I am AT home and, therefore, available for random, "only take a few minutes" jobs like watering the plants, nipping down to the shops and taking grandkids to sports practice. I'm WORKING.

It's great not having to commute any more but I do miss being unavailable.

Tish008 Wed 17-Jul-19 10:39:47

Preach! I get this too, I just say no I'm at work!

I must say though, I feel incredibly lucky to work from home full time, it's an utter blessing!

YahBasic Wed 17-Jul-19 10:40:39

I work from home for the most part & do fit in household tasks in my lunch break.

The most annoying thing was a neighbour redirecting their parcels to me because I was “always in”.

Trooperslaneagain Wed 17-Jul-19 10:41:02

Does my nut in. WORKING is WORKING wherever you do it.

You're not on call. You ARE unavailable. I do potter about, put a wash on, do a 5 minute hoover etc but that's no different from talking shite at the water cooler/making tea in the kitchen in the office.

My DH calls it a day off. Again, does my NUT IN!

newmomof1 Wed 17-Jul-19 10:44:36

OMG YES! My other half tried the "well you've been home all day" line - yes I've been home and BUSY!

forkfun Wed 17-Jul-19 10:49:32

I'm in a surprising number of Skype meetings, thus totally unavailable, even though I'm at home. If anyone would bother to add up all my imaginary meetings, they would realise I'm lying.

JesusInTheCabbageVan Wed 17-Jul-19 21:09:01

Postman once delivered a random dog she'd found, expecting me to find the owner confused It didn't have a collar or anything - I was meant to knock on doors apparently.

AmIRightOrAMeringue Wed 17-Jul-19 21:15:42

I get calls from the office if I wfh...are the kids there? No of course not they're at nursery because I'm working! Oh sorry to disturb you when you're at home! YOURE NOT DISTURBING ME IM WORKING!

PumpkinPie2016 Wed 17-Jul-19 21:43:43

I don't work from home but YANBU - you are still working, it doesn't matter that you don't physically 'go out' to work.

My husband does part time, freelance work and so there are days/times when he hasn't got anything on. The number of people who therefore think he is available to do any random task for them is quite unbelievable.

In actual fact, in those days, he is taking care of his mother/elderly uncle and until recently, an elderly aunt. All of whom live in their own homes and need support to do so which is partly why he chose to do freelance part time work!

BreakfastAtSquiffanys Wed 17-Jul-19 21:51:00

You need to refer to wherever you work at home - be it the spare room, kitchen table, or desk under the stairs - as The Office.
"I can't pop down the shops, I'm in the office"
"I can't take your child to school, I'm just leaving for the office"

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet Wed 17-Jul-19 22:25:44

I hear you! There is no cure except rudeness- you can politely explain all you want, but nothing gets through like "No I can't, whatever it is that you were about to ask me, because I'm BLOODY WORKING!"

You need to screen your calls and lock your office door, then be really ruthless about not even chatting for a minute if people turn up at your door. Practice asking people to phone back or call round after working hours and stubbornly refuse to deviate from the rules. Perhaps tell them how much it will cost you in lost income to do their chores for them.

I'm actually very envious of your office- I work from home and since my office was needed for an extra bedroom, I now have to work in the living room. It's fine most of the time, but today I've been faffing with VAT paperwork and projections and other official annoyances, while all four children were competing to outdo each other in whining, fighting and generally annoying me!

MyDcAreMarvel Wed 17-Jul-19 22:28:35

Just try some CBD op you will be much calmer when people disturb you while you are working.

NeverSayFreelance Wed 17-Jul-19 22:31:09

Oh god yes. I found this whilst I was studying. Yes I am at home but I am writing a dissertation. I am chained 9-5 to my laptop. No I can't just do random tasks or go help family members. I am WORKING.

Chickydoo Wed 17-Jul-19 22:37:00

Totally get this Op

buttertoasty Wed 17-Jul-19 22:42:05

Yes yes and yes again.

No I can't take you to appointments or accommodate you coming round for lunch, I am at home but WORKING

HateIsNotGood Wed 17-Jul-19 22:52:24

Yep I hear you OP - so just because I might get up at 5 am and WORK in my PJs until I need to sort out the younger Hate and work some more, then take a break - and watch Judge Judy (sometimes) - then work and do everything else that needs doing, work some more, etc, etc, etc - and might even finally stop (around now).....

Just because I'm always at home - it doesn't mean I don't work, it's how I pay my mortgage fucking neighbours who comment that I'm always home. Glad to get that off my chest smile

PookieDo Wed 17-Jul-19 22:56:20

I majorly failed at WFH today. I am usually good at it. I started off well at 8.30am but by 2pm the day was fucked and I ended up in bed with a migraine

I now feel I need to make all the time up on Saturday AM sad

Pipandmum Wed 17-Jul-19 22:58:05

Don’t answer the door and screen your calls.

Gottalovesummer Wed 17-Jul-19 22:59:48

I GET this

My friends are always saying "you must get so much done working from home"

Would love to see them getting "so much done" working 7.30am to 6pm looking after 9 children over the course of the day (breakfast club/school drop off/toddlers in the day time/school pick up and after school club plus cooking dinner for them)(I'm a child minder)

I'm fucking working. I get NOTHING done !

ContactLight Wed 17-Jul-19 23:11:41

Kudos #Gottalovesummer I am in awe of childminders smile

Giraffey1 Wed 17-Jul-19 23:13:34

I get this too. I don’t answer the landline any more during the day when I’m working from home because I got fed up with taking calls for the H. And calls from the H, too, come to that. People just wouldn’t take the hint!

rosesandcashmere Wed 17-Jul-19 23:24:05

I actually asked the mother of the kids who repeatedly screech outside my window (I can guess why they don't screech outside their own) to get them to play outside their own house because I was working - at 4pm. I wanted a window open. She looked very confused. I closed the windows and it didn't help. I may invest in a hose...

Gottalovesummer Wed 17-Jul-19 23:26:09

contact ah thank you x

groundanchochillipowder Wed 17-Jul-19 23:31:41

You need to be more direct and blunt, 'I can't do that, I am working' no beating about the bush or apologising. Screen calls, don't answer the door (or get Ring and tell them you're not in at the door).

cryer Wed 17-Jul-19 23:48:13

I started telling people I had rented an office space. For some reason if I'm away at work my family leave me alone. If I'm at home they can't understand why I won't respond to texts and go out for lunch.

namechangeninjaevervigilant Wed 17-Jul-19 23:51:12

I don’t get the problem here. If you are wfh set up a message on your voicemail. “X is currently unavailable, X will call you back outside of office hours ‘ and screen calls. Don’t answer the door. If someone in the house interrupts tell them you’ll do it when you’ve finished work. If you set boundaries people will stop asking.

bingbongnoise Thu 18-Jul-19 00:18:38


I don’t get the problem here. If you set up a message on your voicemail. “X is currently unavailable, X will call you back outside of office hours ‘ and screen calls. Don’t answer the door. If someone in the house interrupts tell them you’ll do it when you’ve finished work. If you set boundaries people will stop asking.

This. I work from home 60-70% of the time, and I don't answer the door unless I am expecting a package or a visitor/tradesman etc. And I do not answer the phone.

People who don't work (and are SAHM/homemakers/retired,) also get some people assuming they are doing fuck-all every day. A pal of mine retired early 2 years ago (aged 50,) due to a chronic health issue, and once people found this out, some of them started to assume that she was there for babysitting/childminding, picking up kids from school, and for popping to the shops to get 'bits of shopping,' and to pay bills etc.

In addition to all that, they assumed she was available (at ANYTIME) to take people to the doctor, dentist, optician, etc, and to give people lifts to hospital (2 hour round-trip, plus 2-3 hours there at the hospital, so it basically took the whole day,) and just generally running around for them, and thinking they should let them in and let them stay 3 hours, when they 'pop in...'

Very annoying.

BackforGood Thu 18-Jul-19 00:36:52

I agree with Breakfast on P1 - it makes a difference if you refer to the place(in your home) where you work, as 'your office'.
If you have a particular person or people that are constantly trying to get you to do things, then, put a blanket ban on answering their calls or agreeing to do anything during working hours until they 'get it'.
Don't answer the land line or your personal mobile or any personal e-mails during working hours.
I LOVE working from home and get much more done, and am happy to answer the door / take parcels in etc, BUT I don't have anyone who doesn't understand that I do actually work on my working days.

Trickyteens Thu 18-Jul-19 01:07:25

I used to get people wondering why I needed a nanny when wfm.

IAmNotAWitch Thu 18-Jul-19 01:30:28

Same, my kids are capable of understanding that while I am available for emergencies I am not really 'there' during work hours.

So if my kids are capable of understanding this, why is it so hard for other people?

The kids have the option of holiday club or chilling at home, they usually prefer to chill at home, on the understanding that they only stick their heads around the door if they really need me (and also to bring me coffee).

notangelinajolie Thu 18-Jul-19 01:32:25

No time to post on mumsnet then?

Topseyt Thu 18-Jul-19 08:06:16

I get this.

I often work from home in the winter, and sometimes at other times of year too. If DH and the DDs are at home I can have to be very firm that I am not here to blether and chat. I have at times had to propel them from the room and firmly shut the door.

ErrolTheDragon Thu 18-Jul-19 08:11:38

The flip side of this is making sure your work (and sometimes yourself) knows that you're not 'at work' all the time you're at home.

MovinOnUp Thu 18-Jul-19 08:48:32

I totally get this.
Because my boss is cool with my DC being at home whilst I work, A couple of the school Mums have decided that I can just have their kids as well and save them childcare costs.
I had to get quite bolshy with one of them before she got the picture that I am actually WORKING and no I won't have your kids as well as mine.

boosterrooster Thu 18-Jul-19 09:49:48

My DH gets that I am working and is very considerate thankfully but others just assume that I am lazing around watching TV

goodfornothinggnome Thu 18-Jul-19 09:56:32

I work from home two days a week one attending meetings out of the house.
My dad keeps texting, are you at home. I'll pop over for a cuppa (and a lift home) after an appointment he has across the road. Then he will ask if I can just drop him into the shops/chemist on the way. His house is 25 minutes away at the moment due to road closures and associated traffic. He does not understand that's 2 hours out of my day that I should be working.

mbosnz Thu 18-Jul-19 10:04:56

On the flip side, I know of a person who 'works from home' with their baby and toddler, them in sole charge. The amount of teleconference meetings where their colleagues have had to listen to them screaming at the children, or the children screaming at them, is truly appalling. And their absentee boss is never on any of them, and somehow just really isn't prepared to hear their colleagues concerns about this 'WFH' colleague. Who is in a position where they really NEED to be on the shop floor all the time.

bibizizi Thu 18-Jul-19 10:11:15

aargh working from home is HARD!!!!
Ive been doing it for 7 years 30 hours each week managing my own diary and reporting my work on CRM.
Its tough not to be distracted (hence the post), but on the flip side I get a great sense of pride knowing that I CAN do it and the benefits outway the negatives.

Loyaultemelie Thu 18-Jul-19 10:16:47

Yes I have no choice to work from home as we are a farm, it's coming up to our biggest audit of the year, so far this week I've had 2 requests to babysit and a can I bring the kids over for the afternoon for a catch up? Met with considerable huffing when told I'm working.

JonSlow Thu 18-Jul-19 10:22:00

Wfh has been somewhat ruined at my office because of the number of people who look after their children whilst WFH.

“Oh I can’t join that meeting, I have to take little Jonny to his friends at 11am” etc.

NotSorry Thu 18-Jul-19 10:27:55

So if my kids are capable of understanding this, why is it so hard for other people?

It’s not that they don’t get it, they don’t WANT to get it as it doesn’t suit their agenda

KittyC4 Thu 18-Jul-19 10:29:10

Yes, I do manage to fit in other things as well e.g. the shopping and various demands from various family members. However, this means my working day stretches in broken fragments from before 6 am to after 8 pm.

HicDraconis Thu 18-Jul-19 10:32:21

@BreakfastAtSquiffanys There’s a pub called The Office - always think it was precisely for that reason! “Sorry love, still in the office” “I’ll be late home, we’re all in the office for a meeting”


Crustytoenail Thu 18-Jul-19 10:35:10

I don't WFH but I understand exactly what you mean. I work on a rota and do a week of nights, people do not get that as I'm not just awake, but need to be alert and capable I need to sleep through the day.
"But you're at home though...?"
Asleep! Fuck off!
Phone off, doorbell off and every door shut with white noise from the fan helps, I put a notice in the window next to the door - all it a achieved was confirming I was in and people redoubled their efforts 🙄
Ignore, ignore and ignore some more!

TowelNumber42 Thu 18-Jul-19 10:52:46

God yes. I often deal with teams in other time zones and, if so, I might take a couple of hours out of the middle of the day to not work, given I'll be on Skype to USA/Asia at ungodly hours. A few locals have made snarky comments about me shirking when wfh. They can fuck off. I have told them this politely.

ZillaPilla Thu 18-Jul-19 11:03:09

I love WFH. Everyone apart from my (ex)FIL gets it, but I've known him more than 20 yrs so am just letting that one go.

Yesterday because it was so warm, I worked a bit at 6am, sorted DS2 for school, went for a run and was back by 9.30am ready for a conference call (done in my pants cos I was still sweaty) at 10am.

Same again today, except I'm getting my nails done from 2-3pm.

Mostly I try and stick to core office hours and am quite disciplined about work/life separation but there are times when it's a real benefit to be able to be so flexible.

TBH, I'm senior and mature enough to not give a hoot what others think about my hours.

purplezebracaun Thu 18-Jul-19 15:30:55

yep i get this too - my parents randomly turn up on the days they know I work from home without ringing first, then get massively offended when i say I can't just stop working and entertain them for an hour - they flounce off in a huff.

My dad will ring and say can you pick me up from so and so - no dad I can't i'm working - but you're at HOME hmm

The best one was my mum asked if i'd like to join her and my auntie for afternoon tea on one of my work from home days - no i said, i'll be working that day - but you will be working from home so why can't you join us? WTF?

New neighbour knocks on the door constantly during the day and when i don't answer she then rings me, if i don't answer the phone i get passive aggressive text messages.
She also thinks working from home means I'm free to answer the door all day long and answer stupid questions about trivial shit, regardless of whether i'm in meetings or not.

BigSandyBalls2015 Thu 18-Jul-19 15:34:24

I get this as well - I work from home two days a week, in the office for three. People just don’t get it.

We’re on hols at the moment and DH just said to me “lucky you off work until Wednesday”..... no I’m back Monday, working from home mon/tues angry

FenellaVelour Thu 18-Jul-19 15:35:54

I get more done working from home, but every time I make a phone call the cat thinks I’m talking to her and won’t leave me alone.

pollyhampton Thu 18-Jul-19 15:41:01

I WFH one day a week and I hate it. I would much rather be in an office setting. I don't have the best willpower which doesn't help but it used to drive me mad that people (dh) thought I had a day off. I have him well trained now and he does leave me alone, the kids are much better behaved!

MTBMummy Thu 18-Jul-19 15:42:32

Another one driven dippy by this.

I WFH once a week, DP has a day off once a week (he works Saturdays)

Lovely DP will do washing, mow lawn, prep dinner etc on his day off I'm exceptionally grateful for this. What I don't appreciate is being expected to do the same when I am working from home, I'll stick a load on the line or unload the dish washer during my lunch break but then I'm back to work. ARGH

cheesenpickles Thu 18-Jul-19 15:43:53

God yes! No dh, I can't just pop all the washing on, nip to the post office or sack off work to go to PC world because you've come home early. I work through lunch so I can pick up the kids and every interference means I have to add on time in my evening to make up.

NoSquirrels Thu 18-Jul-19 15:53:13

I work through lunch so I can pick up the kids and every interference means I have to add on time in my evening to make up.

This ^^

It’s simultaneously a wonderful and a terrible thing, WFH. My fh c hours allow me to do pick-up and after-school ferrying about activities. It’s great for the DC but leaves me in a permanent state of catch-up.

Louloubelle78 Thu 18-Jul-19 16:09:58

YES! I work as a consultant and beauty therapist from the bottom of the garden. I actually get WhatsApp messages such as can you come in the house and help me fix the blind....yes am sure my client won't mind half way through a massage. Also, why are you working in the evening. What have you been doing all day? He works from home. The kitchen is a tip, I am expected to fetch and carry food while he does The Big Important Job. Yes totally does my head in.

cheesenpickles Thu 18-Jul-19 17:37:15

Oh god yes! The BIG IMPORTANT JOB! Yes, I'm aware that your full time hours earn more than my part time hours and you do pay the lions share of the bills, but you do love to brag to your friends that my hourly rate and job extras are significantly higher than yours when it suits. grin (disclaimer - he is very supportive but often forgets that some of the fun stuff my job allows is actually work.)

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