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To think that MIL crossed a line today and to have told her so.

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BenWillbondsPants Tue 16-Jul-19 18:49:31

It's DD's birthday today. MIL rang this morning to say that she would bring her present up today. I asked if she would mind leaving it until later in the week as a) DD is actually away on a residential and not here til Friday and b) I'm not well, feeling shit and wanted to go to back to bed.

She said she wanted to bring it today - I said, again, please can we leave it today. MIL says OK but I can tell not massively happy. She does like things her own way.

I go back to bed and fall asleep , I wake up to 7 missed calls from DH and call him straight back. He's walking out of work to come home as he's worried about me. I'm a bit confused and ask him why he's coming home and he tells he that his mum phoned him to say that she was outside our house and worried about me as she can't get a reply from the doorbell even though 'Ben is expecting me'. DH is worried that something has happened and gives her the code to the key safe so she can come in and check on me.

She then texts him a 'False alarm!' with a smiley face.

I go downstairs to find DDs birthday present sitting neatly on the kitchen table.

Who the fuck does that?

BenWillbondsPants Tue 16-Jul-19 18:50:56

Sorry if that doesn't make sense.

Oh and now she's not speaking to me because I rang her and told her she was completely out of order. Mainly for worrying DH, but for the rest of this fucking stupid stunt as well.

Passthecherrycoke Tue 16-Jul-19 18:52:13

Jesus what a total loon. I’d have to phone her and shout I think. What a dick

BelladonnaKebab Tue 16-Jul-19 18:52:28

What the actual fuck??!! Have you told DH what actually happened?

mbosnz Tue 16-Jul-19 18:52:40

You worried DH?! No, SHE worried DH, with her passive aggressive little power games!

Good if she's not speaking to you. Long may it last.

icelollycraving Tue 16-Jul-19 18:52:41

Well I’d be changing the lock code for starters.

AnyFucker Tue 16-Jul-19 18:52:56


She is determined to get her own way, isn't she ?

FudgeBrownie2019 Tue 16-Jul-19 18:53:06

Change the code on the key safe, tell your DH to sort his Mother out entirely and that you expect an apology from them both.

What an absolute arsehole she is. Tell her so if she asks. And tell her so even if she doesn't ask.

ToastyFingers Tue 16-Jul-19 18:53:10

Woah, I don't have any advice but that's wildly out of line. I wouldn't be spending time with such a manipulative liar.

GertrudeCB Tue 16-Jul-19 18:54:02

She is a massive knob.

Sexnotgender Tue 16-Jul-19 18:54:20

She’s a nutter!

NoSauce Tue 16-Jul-19 18:54:21

How sneaky of her! What’s the big rush to get DDs present to you today?

FilthyforFirth Tue 16-Jul-19 18:54:29

Dear god that is batshit. YANBU in the slightest.

lazyarse123 Tue 16-Jul-19 18:54:44

I'd get the key safe code changed sharpish. What an idiot hope you feel better soon. You're dh needs to have a word for worrying him unnecessarily.

TheChain Tue 16-Jul-19 18:55:20

Woah she is a complete and utter CF

NCforthis2019 Tue 16-Jul-19 18:55:34

Wtf. What a psycho.

Aquamarine1029 Tue 16-Jul-19 18:55:53

She's quite the shit-stirring viper, isn't she? I wouldn't be letting her get away with this shit.

FudgeBrownie2019 Tue 16-Jul-19 18:55:55

Oh and now she's not speaking to me because I rang her and told her she was completely out of order.

So sorry for your loss flowers I've no idea how you'll bear it, but time will ease this pain.

The more I think about this the more of a twat she becomes. Has she got form for this kind of bullshit?

ZeldaPrincessOfHyrule Tue 16-Jul-19 18:56:35

That's not on and you're absolutely right to tell her so. She was the cause of all the worry today. Hope you feel better soon, OP thanks

Chlosavxox Tue 16-Jul-19 18:57:15

Genuinely starting to think that all MIL’s have a screw loose 🤣

hormonesorDHbeingadick Tue 16-Jul-19 18:57:18

So after claiming she was so concerned about you she didn’t even check on you? Her story is not adding up.

Definitely change the code.

BenWillbondsPants Tue 16-Jul-19 18:57:25

Change the code on the key safe, tell your DH to sort his Mother out entirely and that you expect an apology from them both.

DH didn't do anything wrong. He gave her the code because she told him that I was expecting her and she couldn't get a reply from the door. He was worried that something had happened to me.

I don't need him to tell her (though he will, he's sick of her shit) I've told her myself.

PoptartPoptart Tue 16-Jul-19 18:57:58

Call her out on the behaviour, in front of your DH. Directly ask her why she did what she did, given the conversation you had with her. Ask the question and then pause... make her answer...
Then whatever excuse she come up with tell her firmly that it is not acceptable and to never do it again

BloodyhellMartha Tue 16-Jul-19 18:58:30

I'd be raising hell. And point out to DH what a massive invasion of your home and privacy it is to have his batshit mother letting herself in whilst you are vulnerable and asleep. I'd feel incredibly violated by this. I don't want fucking people downstairs in my home whilst I'm upstairs in bed believing I'm alone in the house. She'd never be crossing my doorstep again.

RolyWatts Tue 16-Jul-19 18:58:40

Yip change lock code and unless dh swears not to ever tell his mum it again I wouldn't even tell him. You have every right to privacy in your home. This was cfery of the highest order.

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