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Too feel a little upset with my sister in law?

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teenmum18 Tue 16-Jul-19 10:51:04

This is really bugging me and I need to know if I was in the wrong here.

Last Monday my 2 DD's were sick just the once.
Nothing else after that and they were perfectly fine.

Friday we travelled to my db and sil to visit them. They have a 5yo and 6 week old twins.

Whilst we were there my dd5 went white as a sheet and said her belly hurt. Took her to the toilet and she had a really runny belly.
After 10 mins she perked up and we left about 30 minutes after.
Later on in the evening dd had a few more diarrhoea episodes and went to bed. But dd2 woke up early hours in the morning and vomited confused but since then both have been fine.

My mum was on the phone to db this morning and he told her that they had all been sick since our visit. DN5 wouldn't speak to my mum on the phone and kept screaming every time she spoke to him. Sil got on the phone and said that "that little girl had brought the sick bug down to them" meaning my dd.
My mum explained that I wouldn't of taken the kids to see them if they was poorly, and that they'd been sick once 4 days before the visit. My mum was pretty pissed off when she phoned me this morning because it sounded like they'd all been talking (sil parents are staying with them) about my dd.

Was I in the wrong? I feel so bad especially because the have tiny babies. But how was I to know 😔

Nearly47 Thu 18-Jul-19 18:30:59

Medical experts also say the amount of pesticides in our food aren't dangerous. I go from my experience in this case and the risks for all involved. And by what the OP said her kids were still sick during the visit. Kind of proving my point. I would wait over a week without symptoms to visit a newborn.

LovelyIssues Sun 21-Jul-19 07:30:19

She has every right to be annoyed. In fact I would be fuming with you

Namenic Sun 21-Jul-19 08:37:04

When will db go back to work? 5 days after last symptoms???? What if his colleague has a newborn? Your relatives knew your DD had been sick - you were fine.

PurpleDaisies Sun 21-Jul-19 08:38:12

She has every right to be annoyed. In fact I would be fuming with you
Why? She waited for the required length of time.

Isatis Sun 21-Jul-19 11:41:39

Lovelyissues, if you knew your relatives' children had had this illness and hadn't done anything to stop them from coming, why would you be furious with the relative?

Tp93 Sun 21-Jul-19 12:07:41

My sister brought her son yo my house who had a cold which I didn't know about. He was playing with my 5 month old daughters toys. Turned out he had hand foot and mouth disease and gave it to my daughter. I was absolutely livid!
She was sick for almost 2 weeks and I was forced to stop breastfeeding which was important to me as I was stressed and wasn't sleeping well so wasn't producing enough milk.
But she's alive and well and we moved on from it and if we visit we ask if any of the kids are sick before visiting each other. Probably was best to keep them home, but you weren't to know your children were still unwell. Give them time and visit when her twins are a bit older for your sils peace of mind 🙂

Aworldofmyown Sun 21-Jul-19 12:15:23

You left 4 days between, kids are sick for a multitude of reasons that are not always sickness bugs.

I think that the two incidents were probably unrelated. Seems pretty unfair but to be honest I would just ignore.

Nottalotta Sun 21-Jul-19 13:32:42

Honest, I don't blame sil for being upset. She's got 6 week old twins. In your position I would have phoned her and put the ball in her court "Dd have both been sick Monday, they're fine since, do you still want us to come? "

MarthasGinYard Sun 21-Jul-19 13:38:33

'Honest, I don't blame sil for being upset. She's got 6 week old twins. In your position I would have phoned her and put the ball in her court "Dd have both been sick Monday, they're fine since, do you still want us to come? "'

This

'Seen it on a WhatsApp group"

Possibly not with new twins to look after.

AwakeNow Mon 22-Jul-19 21:38:57

It was 4 days after! Your sister-in-law is their unreasonable one. It is up to HER to cancel if she feels 4 days is goo soon. If she is that concerned she either speak up and cancel, or else put up and shut up.

AwakeNow Mon 22-Jul-19 21:42:11

*too

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