We have just finished school. City prep, some dc move on to next schools at 13, others at 11. DD is moving now aged 11.
We have been there since the dc were 2yrs old at nursery, so we both have lots of friends, we organised a disco for the year before leaving.
One of my closest friends, a family we have been close to since the beginning, and dds get on well (although both are part of different friendship groups etc) We go on holiday every summer, every easter have one or the other for dinner and without fail we see them every new year. I considered her to be a very good friend.
My friend has been fine, and up until a week ago everything has been pretty normal. However they did not turn up to the disco for the leavers. My friend said she was out with her other friends that day. I thought it was a little strange, as I would have thought she would want to be there as it was our last dat, but anyway I understood she may not be able to make it.
I asked her if she is coming to my house for a bbq planned over the weekend (she has originally said yes), she said now she has made plans elsewhere.
I saw her in passing with friends, and she barely spoke to me.
I honestly don't know why she would do this, only that she has form in the past when other friends have left, she took it very personally and was upset with them and stopped meeting up with them. I did not think she would be the same with us, as our friendship spans nearly twelve years.
I sent her a message to ask her if everything is okay, and got a very formal message back wishing me a good summer.
I don't know what to do. I feel she is angry we have left maybe, but hasn't said as much. I don't know whether to keep contacting her, or to leave it now.
I am now left wondering if I have served my purpose and she has moved on? Or is she right to be upset with me? Have I overlooked something?
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urbanlife · 12/07/2019 13:53
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