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Chochito Thu 11-Jul-19 22:37:40

I'm on a work project for a month with 9 colleagues from different parts of the company. I knew one of them before as I worked with him on a 6 week project last year. I don't know any of the others.

We are all staying in university halls of residence style accommodation. The building is usually only occupied by men but as we have it for private use we have the women staying on the 1st floor rooms and the men staying ion the ground floor. There are 3 women and 8 men on the project.

Some of our clients are also here and staying in the same accommodation. There are 3 women and 4 men. The female clients are staying on the 1st floor and the male clients on the ground floor.

The clients have en suite rooms, but 9 out of the 11 workers share communal bathrooms (shower cubicles, toilet cubicles). There is also a communal kitchen, on the ground floor, which can be accessed by the corridor with the men's bedrooms or by another door from the outside of the building.

Everyone has access to all parts of the building apart from people's bedrooms and there are no doors apart from to bedrooms, bathrooms, and kitchen.

2 of my colleagues are married (man and woman) and have been given an en-suite room on the first floor.

Is this odd or am I overreacting?

thetimekeeper Thu 11-Jul-19 22:39:32

Odd how?

Wagonwheelsandjammydodgers Thu 11-Jul-19 22:40:33

So men are on one floor, women are on the other (other than the married couple)....
Are there bathrooms on each floor? If so then I think it's fine.

MrsJamin Thu 11-Jul-19 22:40:43

I don't get what your concern is?

Devondoggydaycare Thu 11-Jul-19 22:40:46

I'm surprised they are even segregating adults on different floors. Why are you so concerned?

user1471449295 Thu 11-Jul-19 22:41:09

I would expect to be able to share a room with my husband

Treaclesweet Thu 11-Jul-19 22:42:32

What is strange about it? Where else would you like there to be doors...?

Justbreathing Thu 11-Jul-19 22:42:59

Yes you are massively overacting

BillywilliamV Thu 11-Jul-19 22:43:07

Do you demand single sex accommodation in hotels? Not all men are rabid rapists, most of them need their jobs and wages for a start!

Grobagsforever Thu 11-Jul-19 22:43:07

Communal bathrooms meaning several showers in one room? That's awful in a work scenario. But assuming you mean a single shower with a lock it's fine

Justbreathing Thu 11-Jul-19 22:43:54

What do you think people do in hotels! I mean they might be next to a man!! shock

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross Thu 11-Jul-19 22:44:09

Can you clarify what is worrying you about the scenario? Because I honestly don't understand. Everything you describe seems utterly unremarkable.

ConfCall Thu 11-Jul-19 22:44:57

Sounds ok to me

EllenEyewater Thu 11-Jul-19 22:45:40

I’m not seeing the issue here. If the couple have an en suite, why would the man be using the communal bathroom anyway?

999caffeineplease Thu 11-Jul-19 22:45:43

Massive overreaction

Littlechocola Thu 11-Jul-19 22:45:45

I think you are overreacting

kmc1111 Thu 11-Jul-19 22:46:43

As someone else said, I’m just surprised they separated the sexes onto different floors.

JocastaJones Thu 11-Jul-19 22:47:01

I think ensuite accommodation should be the absolute minimum for a work trip.

Aridane Thu 11-Jul-19 22:47:10

Don't understand the problem

MyDcAreMarvel Thu 11-Jul-19 22:49:04

How is it odd?

stucknoue Thu 11-Jul-19 22:49:03

What's the issue? - hotels used to have shared bathrooms (occasionally they still do!) I'm sure the toilet has a lock. You aren't sharing a bedroom and they (despite you being adults) segregated by sex as much as possible. If what you are really saying is you should have en-suite accommodation take it up with your bosses but honestly when I was a kid you shared a bathroom with complete strangers in hotels

Cleanmywindows Thu 11-Jul-19 22:49:22

What is odd about it in your view?

Chochito Thu 11-Jul-19 22:50:35

In most hotels I would not have to share a communal bathroom and if I did I would not expect to share it with men.

I also think it's odd that they have separated the sexes onto different floors except for one man who is on the "women's floor" because his wife is here.

TarragonSauce Thu 11-Jul-19 22:50:35

Do you have control over who enters your sleeping space and can you ensure your privacy whilst showering, using the toilet and dressing. If so, you are over reacting.
This seems no different than staying in a continental city hotel on a bed and breakfast basis, where you would be expected to use a communal breakfast room and serve yourself, even making your own pancakes etc.

Chochito Thu 11-Jul-19 22:51:51


No privacy whilst showering; it's like a gym / swimming pool set up (communal shower, anyone can enter). Toilet has cubicles.

Private bedroom (not en suite).

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