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Is having an only child selfish?

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whothedaddy Fri 21-Jun-19 12:55:32

Just that really. In your honest opinion is it wrong/selfish to have an only child and why?

AryaStarkWolf Fri 21-Jun-19 12:56:53


PineappleSeahorse Fri 21-Jun-19 12:57:08


Ivegotthree Fri 21-Jun-19 12:57:15


megrichardson Fri 21-Jun-19 12:57:33

No I don't think it is selfish. The child can have more resources from you, emotionally, time and money.

tomtom1999xx Fri 21-Jun-19 12:57:57


Cheesymonster Fri 21-Jun-19 12:58:13

Ours is not by choice, but no.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack Fri 21-Jun-19 12:58:33

What, more selfish than having another kid just because society seems to think we should? Of course it's not, it's far more selfish to have more children than you can afford to raise or that you don't want.

aPengTing Fri 21-Jun-19 12:58:44


NabooThatsWho Fri 21-Jun-19 12:58:54

No, why would it be selfish?

awakeatnight Fri 21-Jun-19 12:59:36

What an ignorant view that would be. Many people, for many reasons, don't get a choice.

CMOTDibbler Fri 21-Jun-19 13:00:15


AntiHop Fri 21-Jun-19 13:00:52

No. It's actually very responsible to have an only child due to our overpopulated planet.

TerribleTwosPhase Fri 21-Jun-19 13:01:06

No, I think we will only have one child and some people try to guilt me in to having more but the way i see it is she gets more of our time & attention and we can afford a better lifestyle than we could if we had 2.

ItsJustNoise Fri 21-Jun-19 13:01:15

@whothedaddy do you think its selfish? And if so, why? Just wondering why you're asking

mbosnz Fri 21-Jun-19 13:01:45


OnlyMee Fri 21-Jun-19 13:03:07

No, but I would have preferred not to have been born than be in the situation I find myself in as a direct result of being an only child.

BlackCatsRock Fri 21-Jun-19 13:04:06


flumaflower Fri 21-Jun-19 13:05:08

I'm a LP. In my situation even if the opportunity arose, it would be even more selfish to have another child knowing that I struggle enough with one child.

Rowennaravenclaw Fri 21-Jun-19 13:05:47

It depends on the reasons.
If they are selfish reasons then yes.
If they are unselfish reasons then no.

MaidenMotherCrone Fri 21-Jun-19 13:05:53

I think it is to some extent but having children is a selfish thing to do anyway.

When the parents are dead and gone they are left on their own. They have to deal with all the problems which may come as parents become old.

My children have each other when the time comes. I have my sister. I wouldn't have liked to have had to deal with my parents deaths alone and I didn't want that for my children either.

Having children is selfish as I said but you can't win either way so do what is best for you and the child you have.

Alwaysonarecce Fri 21-Jun-19 13:06:40

No. Do you think it is? It’s hardly unusual.

OralBElectricToothbrush Fri 21-Jun-19 13:07:11


SooticaTheWitchesCat Fri 21-Jun-19 13:07:22

Of course not!
I'm an only child and I have never felt unhappy about it.

ch3rrycola Fri 21-Jun-19 13:07:40


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