I'm in a pickle with my Brazilian husband and looking for advice from anyone who understands Brazilian/Latino culture...
My husband has a new female friend that he made in Brazil when he went there by himself earlier this year. She is the same age as him (52) and is a friend of a friend.
They WhatsApp each other a lot, sometimes every day and their messages are really intimimate, much more so than two male friends. I'm ashamed to say that I know because I noticed he was deleting some msgs and we had an argument about why he felt the need to do that (he said it was because I was controlling). Since then I've been sporadically checking his phone and some of the msgs are, in my opinion, inappropriate, whilst others are ok.
They talk about how much they miss each other, have shared a sultry selfie of themselves and my husband has shared pics that I have taken of him with the kids. This wk they exchanged voice msgs where they said to each other "I miss your face and eyes and can't wait to see you again" and my husband called her "Linda, amor and gatinha" (beautiful, my love and kitty/sexy) and he asked for her new home address. He never calls me those things anymore but does to her.
In his msgs, he has never mentioned me or sent a pic of me, even though there are lovely family pics taken at the same time as the pics that he does send her.
Ugh, I feel absolutely in despair because when I've bought it up in the past, husband goes off on one and says that I'm imagining it and all this affectionate talk he has with her is typical in Brazil, but I just can't let it go. I've asked him why we never speak to her together and he's not given me an answer.
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firsttimejoj · 13/06/2019 12:24
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