Boyfriend told his family I was pregnant before we decided to keep the baby

Meccacos · 2019-06-13 08:21:16

I’ve posted before about being pregnant and boyfriend prioritising social life. I’ve read a thread about someone being upset because a family member wanted to tell a friend of their pregnancy when she was16 weeks. I was between 2-3 weeks when I found out I was pregnant. I told my boyfriend over the phone after taking the test (we don’t live together - he is about 30 minutes from me). Anyway, I asked him to not tell anyone until we decided what we were going to do. Within less than 24 hours he had told his sister and his brother. I hadn’t seen him face to face until 48 hours after that. For two days he didn’t want to see me. Fast forward to 9 weeks pregnant and he still hadn’t made up his mind as to what he wanted to do (support me or not support me). He refused to tell me what he wanted or to make a decision either way. We saw a counsellor who told me “pick a date you need his decision by”. Which I did. Fast forward to that date he wouldn’t tell me his decision, but he had told his sister that we had decided to keep the baby!! I always wanted to keep the baby. But he was constantly crying and then saying he didn’t want it and then saying he did. The longer I leave it the more traumatic experience he abortion. In this time he asked several times if I will move in with him. I said yes, but still no key or security passcode. He has a spare key already cut. I initially said I wanted to move in once I start showing. I’m now starting to show. Then I suggested I move in after we find that the baby is healthy (it was suggested the 13 week scan will show spinal cord and brain). He agrees to this. The thing is, my dating scan is this weekend - which means that I can have the harmony blood test next week when I will be 10 weeks. We still haven’t discussed the move in date or even me having a key and I don’t think he wants me to move in. Am I being unreasonable? Should I just wait 13 weeks? I’m already starting to show. A lady at work guessed I was pregnant just by looking at me and I’m living in a relatives house and they are very religious with strict views on pregnancy, abortion and sex before marriage.

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