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in not wanting my inlaws to stay for a month?

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bobblehead Fri 20-Jul-07 15:23:36

We live abroad so don't see them often, and while they are nice people I find them hard work. We are just nearing the end of their 2 week stay with us, which has actually gone very well and for once I don't want to drive a stake through MILs heart, when she asked last night how I would feel about them coming for month next time. I could barely conceal my horror.
AIBU in putting my foot down and saying absolutely not? (DH doesn't want them anymore than I do but I'm feeling guilty as they have no grandchildren back home).

2spells Fri 20-Jul-07 15:35:04

yanbu and you know that

dal21 Fri 20-Jul-07 15:35:26

YANBU - the fact that two weeks has gone relatively well is fantastic! Can you fob them off without giving a firm answer right now and ask if you can discuss it nearer the next visit? Make a call on it nearer the time and if you really don't want them for longer than 2 weeks; come up with a reason why it doesnt work for you??
I love my mother to bits and she has just spent the last 6 days with her - have had a fab time; but am equally happy to have our home back to ourselves!

SpeccieSeccie Fri 20-Jul-07 15:37:13

YANBU! Could you compromise? Three weeks and they have to stay in a hotel for half of it?

bobblehead Fri 20-Jul-07 15:43:43

Thankyou! really needed to hear that

I have already told MIL in no uncertain terms what I think as she caught me off guard when she asked
I told her it was too long, would disrupt the dds too much and that it was better to go after 2 weeks while we all still liked each other

Part of my problem with her is that she really cannot take a hint (or a direct hit!!) she has already asked me 3 times over previous years about longer visits to which I always say no and she clearly doesn't listen!

LucyJones Fri 20-Jul-07 15:48:21

yanbu -get dh to sort it though, it's his mum and up to him imo

lucyellensmum Fri 20-Jul-07 15:53:19

bobblehead, yanbu, i would feel totally the same as you. However, you can understand why your inlaws want to stay longer with their GCs. Also, it says a lot about your hospitality that they want to stay for such a long time. I couldnt put up with anyone in my house for that long though. Maybe a compromise would be that they stay with you for a week or two next time, whatever is acceptable to you and then find some accomodation locally and have themselves a holiday when they can visit the children etc.

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