I received a call from my niece last week. We aren’t particularly close so I was quite surprised that it was me she chose to confide in. She was concerned that her mum (my sister) was going to take her ex dp back. He was a v.abusive chap who almost ruined my sisters life and it ended very badly. The children were not keen on him but it affected my niece particularly badly. I told her there’s no way she’d take him back as she has a new boyfriend and she’d be mad to. Niece told me she’d heard them on the phone and hacked her phone and saw his messages. I told niece not to worry and I’d speak to her mum.
I approached the situation calmly with my sister as we’d already had a falling out previously about her ex. I told her what my niece had said and she got very defensive. When I asked her if it were true she admitted they were in touch. I told her I thought her behaviour was appalling and that she was setting a negative example to her children. The whole family love her new boyfriend and despise the old one. We argued for about 10 minutes and then she hung up the phone and blocked me. I haven’t been able to get hold of her since.
In the past when they have split up my sister has used my shoulder to cry on and has told me all of the awful things he has done to her. I can’t forget the things she told me. She told me at one point she feared for her life.
Niece has got in touch and confirmed it’s back on again and is contemplating moving in her with dad. I can’t even get a hold of my sister to tell her this and implore her to think about what she is doing.
I’ve been beside myself with worry and I’ve been really upset. I am only looking out for her and her children. She’s so abused by this man she can’t see what’s right in front of her.
Am I just an interfering old cow?
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To have told my sister she’s bang out of order?
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Antisocialsocialist · 20/05/2019 21:13
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