DS 18 has everything going for him so why is he so rude and nasty? He has a great apprenticeship- still in college for the first year and seems to be enjoying it (is sullen and won’t speak most of the time so I don’t know the real ins and out of it). He earns over 1k a month, drives a beautiful car (he pays for it) but we paid for lessons and first year insurance. He pays us £50 a month ‘rent’. That’s too much apparently- he’s disgusted that as he’s in ‘full time education’ we are taking something towards his food / elec/ gas etc.
He has a double room, huge widescreen telly (Xmas present from us) Xbox etc. Access to fridge, food, all washing done, room cleaned, ironing etc.
He so bloody rude though! Condescending attitude, would rather grunt than talk and is breathtakingly cutting and basically vile. Only ever happy if he’s having something new from us and even then the happiness lasts 5 minutes before he’s back to being a pig.
His room needs a new window and desperately needs decorating and new carpet. I’ve just passed him on the landing and said we plan to give him a few weeks notice of upheaval (we’ll need to empty his room for a few days so it will mean needing help to move furniture etc.
He’s point blank refused to have the work done and just ordered me out of his room! He says I’m wasting my money as he doesn’t want it redecorated. It’s my bloody house and it needs doing! Why should I let a room go to wrack and ruin just because he says so?
I’ve explained that if he was renting somewhere a landlord can come in and do works and that when he owns his own place he can decide if something needs doing or not.
He’s told me not to waste my breath as he’s not listening - I’ve never been so close to slapping him to be honest. I feel like chucking the cheeky, insolent sod out .
He’s upstairs now shouting away playing on the Xbox, tell me if I’m being unreasonable as I’m about to throw the swine out.
AIBU?
To want to throw DS 18 out to give him a shock
Comeonsun · 20/05/2019 21:12
food, all washing done, room cleaned, ironing etc.
Why?
He's 18, earning 1k a month, with very minimal bills. Why are you treating him like a toddler? 
How in god's name has he got to 18 without knowing how to use the dishwasher and washing machine
my nine year old loads our dishwasher. Have you always just given him stuff with no expectations of contributions or basic manners. Is this a wind up
He’s your kid. He did not ASK to be born. If his behaviour is so bad I’m guessing he didn’t grow up in the most nurturing, loving environment. Why don’t you try and actually HELP YOUR child first? Take him to councilling?
My friends mother did this to her, she had to live in a crappy hostel, could barely afford food. Now she’s in her thirties with two kids and has been NC since her mother did this. The woman wants a relationship with her daughter and grandkids now. She’s lonely and it serves her right.
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