Hi all, fairly new to mumsnet and hope this isn’t too personal, I feel embarrassed writing it but I’d love your opinions.
My wife is 9 weeks pregnant with our first child and is terrified of having sex. We are a same sex couple so there would be no deep penetration (I can feel myself blushing!) but it’s not that that she’s worried about.
She feels that a strong climax may result in harm to the baby due to the contractions. I think she’s scared it could detach. I told her I’d read it’s actually encouraged during pregnancy especially as it brings couples closer together, but she’s too scared and of course I’d never push her.
I’m just worried that after 9 months of this we may grow apart. In the past if we’ve had a troubled patch and haven’t been intimate we’ve felt very much like 2 friends living together. It’s very common for lesbians to feel this way I believe it’s called lesbian death bed.
Did anyone else feel the same during pregnancy. I have told my wife we can wait until she’s ready and I’d never tell her I posted it on here, but would love to hear your thoughts.
I should add she suffered from one previous miscarriage which is why I am totally understanding of how she feels.
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Sex during pregnancy - very personal!
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MummyToBe89 · 19/05/2019 16:55
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